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Stop Negotiating with Your Teen: Strategies for Parenting your Angry Manipulative Moody or Depressed Adolescent Paperback – August 6, 2002
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About the Author
Dr. Janet Sasson Edgette is a psychologist practicing in Exton, Pennsylvania who, for the past twenty-five years, has specialized in providing services for children, teenagers, young adults, and their parents. She also specializes in providing sport and performance psychology enhancement services to athletes and performing artists. Janet is the author of six books on parenting, counseling, and sport psychology, including the popular parenting paperback, Stop Negotiating with Your Teen: Strategies for Parenting Your Angry, Manipulative, Moody, or Depressed Adolescent, and her critically acclaimed book for mental health professionals entitled, Adolescent Therapy That Works: Helping Kids Who Never Asked for Help in the First Place. Her most recent book is called The Last Boys Picked: Helping Boys Who Don't Play Sports Survive Bullying and Boyhood.
Janet's work in the areas of child, preteen, and adolescent therapy, family counseling, and parent effectiveness has put her in great demand as a therapist, speaker, workshop leader, and consultant to schools and mental health agencies. She has conducted professional workshops and educational programs for psychiatrists, psychologists, school counselors, social workers, therapists, probation officers, caseworkers, school administrators, teachers, parents, and foster parents all around the United States as well as in Canada, Mexico, Russia, Croatia, and Germany.
Janet is the mother of three teenager boys herself. She also is an avid horseback rider, having competed in the show jumping divisions in almost every major horse show along the east coast. For the past six summers, Janet has returned to what she calls her favorite place on earth--Camp Forest and Indian Acres in Fryeburg, Maine--where she spent her childhood summers and nows makes herself available as a consultant. Please visit her website, janetedgette.com, for more information and to view her blog and speaking calendar.
Top Customer Reviews
Edgette is a clinical psychologist who offers advice to parents whose parenting style can best be described as permissive or indulgent. In one way or another, these parents try "negotiating" with their teen when the child misbehaves, and thereby losing their authority and credibility. As a result, the relationship between parent and child worsens via a cycle of argument and mistrust. The parents want to grant freedom to their adolescent, but do not balance that with accountability. By letting their child get away with minor infractions, the pattern of misbehavior builds: the teen feels "independent" and refuses to listen to further attempts of the parents at discipline; the parents feel frustrated in having an uncontrollable teen, and give up control altogether.
Many parents abdicate their responsibility to enforce consequences when their child misbehaves because they want to avoid conflict and hope the teen will grow out of this phase. In particular, many seem to subscribe to the sociocultural myth that teens are prone to mood swings due to "hormones run amok", and "can't help being moody and should be excused for it". Edgette points out that these "bad moods" typically blow over, and parents' acceptance of rude behavior to avoid conflict simply leads to loss of authority and greater conflicts. Another myth is that teens need "free rein" to learn autonomy. She reminds us that giving "free rein" is easy, but it should be balanced with direction and accountability so kids learn not just how to make decisions, but how to make good decisions. A final myth is that teens "don't like talking with their parents about serious issues and concerns".Read more ›
Most Recent Customer Reviews
It gave interesting insights into the teen mind. Now if only I could get the child's mother and father to listen to itPublished 14 months ago by VCL
I almost always read books I choose to read, and I have read many books I was required to read. Reading this book was pretty much a new experience for me: reading a book I felt I... Read morePublished 14 months ago by Matthew Dodd
This book has really helped me with my 16 year old. Our relationship is better than it has been in 6 months!Published 16 months ago by Felicia Gavett
Great points and examples. Helped me to focus on how to work with my kids and how to react and punish better.Published 17 months ago by David Zmiewsky
This book helped us understand why therapy, medication and school accommodations seemed to be of so little help to our 15-year-old. Read morePublished 19 months ago by Cow Hollow Dweller