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Tales of a Female Nomad: Living at Large in the World Hardcover – May 22, 2001

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When Rita Golden Gelman traveled to Mexico during a two-month separation from her husband, she hoped to satisfy an old craving for adventure and, in the process, rejuvenate herself and her marriage. Little did she know it was the beginning of a new life, not just as a divorcée, but as a nomad of the world. Since 1986, Gelman has had no permanent address and no possessions except those she can carry. She travels without a plan, guided by instinct, serendipitous opportunities, and a remarkable ability to connect with people. At first her family and friends accused her of running away, but Gelman knew she had embarked on a journey of self-discovery and a way of life that is inspiring and enviable.

We know Gelman is not your typical middle-aged housewife from LA when, on that first trip to Mexico, she randomly picks a Zapotec village and decides to live there for a month, knowing nothing about the culture or the language. When she arrives, the villagers run away from her, terrified. By the time she leaves, there are hugs and tears. From there she travels to Guatemala and Nicaragua, Israel and the Galapagos Islands. But the heart of the book--and her 15-year journey--is Indonesia, where she lives for eight years. It is Bali that forever changes how she looks at the world, facilitated by her friendship with an aging prince. Tu Aji not only invites her to live with his family but decides that the education of Rita will be his final duty in life. Wherever she goes, Gelman has an uncanny ability to slip into other ways of life and become part of a community. And she is a person for whom doors open widely--her seatmate on the plane to Bali scrawls the prince's name on a piece of paper, she talks her way into a sojourn at Camp Leakey in Borneo where orangutans are studied, and an entire village in a remote part of Irian Jaya prays for the clouds to clear so her plane can land--and they do! Gelmen's secret is her passion for people. That being the case, the book is short on descriptions of place, but long on the rarer inside view of the peoples and customs of those places. This in itself is treat enough, but Gelman's animated and intimate story comes with a kicker--it's never too late to fulfill those dreams. --Lesley Reed

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Fifteen years ago, the middle-aged Gelman (author of over 70 children's books, including More Spaghetti, I Say!) left behind an upscale California lifestyle and fading marriage to begin an odyssey that continues to this day. Using a well-paced and fluid writing style, Gelman describes how she observed orangutans in the rain forests of Borneo, canoed in Indonesia, ate psychedelic mushrooms in Mexico, and skirted landmines in Nicaragua. Wherever she travels, it is the people and their customs that intrigue her most, from the restrictive but culturally rich celebrations of a Hasidic family in Israel to the more relaxed but equally ritualized daily life of her new friends in Bali. Her enthusiasm for the people she meets and her ability to overcome the challenges faced by a woman traveling alone make for an engrossing and inspirational read. For all travel collections. Linda M. Kaufmann, Massachusetts Coll. of Liberal Arts Lib., North Adams
Copyright 2001 Reed Business Information, Inc.

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Product Details

  • Hardcover: 320 pages
  • Publisher: Crown; 1 edition (May 22, 2001)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0609606425
  • ISBN-13: 978-0609606421
  • Product Dimensions: 9.6 x 6.4 x 1.1 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 1.4 pounds
  • Average Customer Review: 4.2 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (421 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #810,073 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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I bought this book on a Friday evening, gobbled it up except for two chapters, finished it first thing in the morning, and lent it out by that afternoon. I was very interested in the reading the reviews that gave lesser ratings to this book. There were comments on poor or simplistic writing style and insufficient narrative or description of people and places... how utterly fascinating.
We all look at the world through different filters; thus the details Rita chose to share were those that were meaningful to her. She spends quite a few pages describing the long endearing antics she went through to avoid eating alone in a restaurant when she first arrived in Mexico... while she compresses 8 or so years in Bali into a chapter or so. This is the journey of a woman who reinvents herself at 48--it is the story of courage, of connection in far away places, of incredible growth, of living "successfully" as a single person. It is about Nicaragua, Bali, the Galapagos etc only as it relates to her story, and since *her* story is the one I needed to hear (as a 31 year old single female), I was very satisfied, inspired and grateful for the sharing.
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Gelman's book, "Tales of a Female Nomad," is a testament to the human spirit, courage, and to our basic need to connect with others. It is a very personal account of her life as she goes through a divorce and discovers her individual self, without her husband, and through her numerous adventures. She goes to many places: Mexico, Guatemala, Nicaragua, Israel, Galapagos Islands, Indonesia, New Zealand, Canada, and Thailand. What surprises me about Gelman's style is her very personal approach. She reveals intimate details, especially about fears and insecurities, which made me I more and more drawn to her story. It is though she is inviting the reader to be a friend and to share her experiences. She travels unconventionally - without much of a plan and not just to capital cities. Her stories of the people she has met warms the heart and reveals a beautiful humanity that is shared among all cultures.
This book is wonderful for anyone, but I strongly recommend it to women all ages and walks of life. Shows how one can live their dream and take the road not taken.
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I love books about wanderlust. Eat, Pray, Love and Into the Wild to name some well known books. For a woman who wanted to leave her entitled life behind, she still managed to crave entitlement - in my opinion. She always negotiated food with her rent so she was served most of her meals rather than shopping and cooking for herself. She wanted to live with the locals where she went, but then she complained when she couldn't have things her way. I know some will not be so harsh as I'm being with their reviews, but she really rubbed me the wrong way. Lastly, who remembers James Frey's "A Million Little Pieces"? I think this woman also embellished what actually happened. I'm not saying she didn't do all these things, I just think her memory is different than what actually happened. If all these things happened to me, I'd go out and buy a lottery ticket. I only made it half way through the book. I was getting irritated every time I picked it up.
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"Tales of a Female Nomad" begins well. In tight, lively prose, the author describes how she travels to Mexico to escape her failing marriage and to live--on a moment's whim--with locals in a rural Zapotec village.

By page 29, however, I had shut the book in dismay and disgust.

First of all, until a drunken man pounds on her door late one night, it never occurs to Gelman (a well-educated woman in her late forties) that anything bad could happen to her.

Please don't get me wrong here--traveling the globe solo is admirable and an amazing adventure.
However, to waltz alone into a very different society without giving literally one thought to your personal safety goes beyond the naivete and "I'm not a worrier" claims of the author and, frankly, makes her sound like an idiot. The fact that she also has unprotected sex with a virtual stranger just adds to the sense of complete fecklessness.

Far worse, she witnesses this same inebriated man who frightens her--her host--beating his wife. Instead of trying to stop it or helping in any way, Gelman uses her anthropology training as an excuse not to "inflict" her culture on theirs, even while she feebly bleats about how she would have stepped in if she had felt the victim, Margarita, were in real danger.

Any time a woman is struck by a man, she IS in real danger. I would love to know what Gelman's gauge of suffering was and how she felt she could be so certain that the next blow wasn't going to permanently damage Margarita's hearing, or shatter her jawbone, or cause her to stumble and break her neck.

Instead Gelman just cries and later hugs Margarita, who's sporting two black eyes, and dismisses the incident with "This village, this marriage, this life are her destiny.
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I so wanted to love this book. It's an intriguing concept, but a tedious execution. How many times can I read, "I was one with (fill in the blank.", or "He/she felt honored to entertain me." or "I felt honored/privileged to be here.", without saying cut the glib patter and get to the meat of your story.
One of her first vignettes was a dead giveaway about the depth of her experiences. Gelman suggested a temporary separation from her husband. They agreed to be apart for two months, no questions asked. She decides to go to Mexico, but feels uncomfortable dining alone. So she goes to hotels to meet people. She asks a couple of traveling salesmen if she could join them. At the end of the night, one of them offers her a shoulder to cry on and she sleeps with him. Please. How cliche'. While wanting to get her marriage back on track, she sleeps with the first man who shows her a modicum of kindness.
We constantly hear about how Gelman hates the materialism of the West, yet when she has extended stays in other countries where does she choose to live? In a two bedroom cabin in a royal compound in Bali, or in a mansion with marble floors and intricately carved furniture.
Gelman is perfectly comfortable putting people out to help her without giving consideration to how she could manage on her own. While in Bali, she arranged for an acquaintance to get calls for her in case of an at home in the states emergency, where he had to drive an hour out of his way to get her a message. While in Vancouver, she needed help getting her car out of a rut she drove into. Did she prepare and have a membership in an equivalent company such as AAA? Of course not. She thought nothing of calling her neighbors to help after 11PM.
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