- Hardcover: 132 pages
- Publisher: PageFree Publishing, Inc. (March 3, 2009)
- Language: English
- ISBN-10: 1589615786
- ISBN-13: 978-1589615786
- Product Dimensions: 5.5 x 0.4 x 8.5 inches
- Shipping Weight: 8 ounces
- Average Customer Review: 4.6 out of 5 stars See all reviews (29 customer reviews)
- Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #10,429,243 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
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Tangling with Tyrants: Managing the Balance of Power at Work Hardcover – March 3, 2009
Top Customer Reviews
Sometimes, it's hard for us to imagine our workplace being any different than it already is. We accept the reality of the situation and, especially in today's economy, keep trudging along and attempting to make the most out of a bad situation. Well, Deblauwe's point of view is that we don't have to just accept a negative work environment. If our boss is what's making our working lives miserable, there are solutions to the problem.
Deblauwe uses his experiences to outline what negative behavior looks like, how it affects the employee and how we can find a suitable compromise and increase the quality of our work environment. This is probably one of the most useful parts of the book, in my opinion. Deblauwe is now just another "expert" coming in and giving his opinion. He been there and done that. He's worked in Human Resources and seen other employees in the same situation. Deblauwe really seems to know what he is talking about and infuses TANGLING WITH TYRANTS with his knowledge.Read more ›
Deblauwe has been a workplace strategist and human resource consultant for years, and his experience shows. Tyrants takes the reader step-by-step through a process of determining whether or not you work for a tyrant, outlining typical tyrant behavior and our reactions to them, and providing fresh strategies for dealing with said tyrant. As Deblauwe rightly asserts "You can't change the person but you can change your approach."
Deblauwe outlines both the direct and indirect methods used by tyrants. Direct methods (as anyone who has ever been terrorized by one will recognize) include criticism and belittling, micro-management, magnification of their own power while directly or indirectly threatening your job. The indirect approach includes passive aggression, backstabbing, and taking credit for the work of others.
Deblauwe discusses emotions in the workplace and why tyrant bosses can cause us so much angst:
We perceive negative behavior from our superior as a threat; not only to how we work, but to how work makes us feel. Our feeling of self worth is difficult to discuss because emotion has no place in most corporate settings...Read more ›
A big part of a relationship is YOU and that's what you have control over. When you gain understanding about your actions you may realize there are opportunities for improvement. As Tony states in the book it may not change the other person but will change you and your outcomes.
Tony not only explains the behaviors of a Tyrant but some reasons for their behavior. This alone can help you to be more understanding.
But what I loved the most is that Tony clearly explains how we add fuel to the fire. You will learn about the Recipient Profile -- The person that acts like a victim, focuses on blame, makes assumptions, justifies their behavior, lacks big picture thinking, is reactionary or negative... You will begin to realize that resorting to these actions actually sabotages your results, leaves you feeling powerless and gives more power (and justification) to the Tyrant. We are contributors to our results and emerging above these behaviors is empowering.
Every chapter ends with an exercise. This is a practical hands-on approach that does not just give you ideas but ways to practice, learn and apply your new found knowledge.
Since we all on occassion resort to the Recipient Profile we can all benefit, so get a copy for yourself and the people you care about.
Most Recent Customer Reviews
Tony Deblauwe, the author of this book, has an interesting take on working with difficult bosses. His book is not so much centered on bullies as is the wonderful, comprehensive... Read morePublished 22 months ago by Josephine March
Know how they get the energy from, remove the source, and either tame it or get the hell out of their way!Published on July 16, 2013 by Tan Suan Loke
Though it is difficult for anyone to offer solution that fits for all to manage their tyrant bosses, this book does offer meaningful suggestions which will not only offer tackling... Read morePublished on December 7, 2012 by Mohammad Rahman
I was barely in my new job for a month before I got a blast of hot air from my boss. Of course, the door was wide open so every knew that I had been hosed. Read morePublished on June 10, 2012 by Jill of All Trades
Anyone who reports to a bad boss-or knows someone who does-understands the frustration and stress associated with the relationship. Read morePublished on May 21, 2012 by Amy Edelman
As I started ready "Tangling with Tyrants" I became aware of the magnitude the condescending and bullying bosses had on me. I just thought this was the way the work force was. Read morePublished on April 9, 2012 by REB
I found Tony's description of Tyrant bosses to be invaluable in understanding and detecting behaviors and change of behaviors of Tyrants. Read morePublished on March 27, 2012 by S. Yung