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How to Teach Your Baby to Be Physically Superb : Birth to Age Six (More Gentle Revolution) Hardcover – 2001
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All this seems innocuous until you get to the real kicker: "Sometimes, at this stage, babies cry when crawling. This is good, not bad. They're crying for a reason. The fast, deep respiration of crying actually gives them the additional oxygen they need to make easier the movement of their arms and legs for crawling." Please, parents, stop and read this statement again and ask yourself - when you hear your child crying - the only thing they can do to let you know something causes them pain, stress, or discomfort - aside from this "medical advice" - what does your God given heart and mind guide you to do? For me, it's to soothe my child. That's my first job as a parent; not raising my baby's cortisol levels and, forgive me but - traumatizing them and betraying their trust.
When I got to that sentence, I really started treating the book with great skepticism. Who was this author, and what had any of his pupils achieved? The author was a combat infantry officer in World War II; he's not a doctor, no, not even really a real researcher - he's a man whose experiences have been largely shaped by an organization whose job it is to break grown adults and turn them into highly efficient killing machines. I have no doubt he means well - he put his own son through his program - but, for all that, what has his son achieved? He's got an associates in Biology and a bachelor's in History and went no further than his father's institute. All that for crawling at 3 1/2 months. Furthermore, though little is known of the children that went through his institution - he tells us quite a bit about their parents - who, presumably did not: they are NASA engineers and a myriad of government officials, none of whom can play the violin. Now, ask yourself - if this is meant as a compliment to the parents - who did NOT use these methods presumably, then, doesn't the question arise - are these methods necessary? We hear great exaggerations of how well these children do in early life; but, what about later? Does the conditional love and neglect to their feelings take a toll on their psychological development? Is it worth it - this?
I asked my Mom about how she raised my 2 sisters and I. Apparently we were all very "slow" babies in that we did not crawl until about a year old, and did not walk till about 15 months. Depraved, I know! My elder sister was valedictorian and went to Harvard, I went to Duke. My younger sister is the only one who crawled then walked, and she has frequently struggled in school. I asked my sister, out of curiosity, if out of her friends she knew of any who had used these methods (out of her Harvard friends); out of the doctors she knew, she did not know of any.
I guess I'm writing this review more for myself. I got this book hoping to give my kid a head start. While I am sure it is good to encourage crawling, for my part, I'm not going to assign my kid a number. I'm not going to force them, or show them lack of empathy: not when they are so young and vulnerable - not ever, I remember what it was like when my parents enrolled us in a gymnastic academy (one of the few ways out of the 3rd world country we lived in) - and I remember seeing parents almost out right torture their kids via these "instructors" all the while thinking they were bettering their chances of success in life (specifically there, in sports). Those institutions were nothing but torture-chambers - attracting the very worst of parents: the ones who, having achieved little in life themselves -pushed and pushed their kids to become the "performers" they could not.
We all die. The point of our life is to show each other love, compassion, and to do good for the world. Encourage your kids to exercise. Encourage them to succeed. But if you find yourself, even for a moment as I did, staring at a ranking system built by human pride, and the desire to "rise above" your fellow man - the men and women God gave to you as your support network - not adversaries - but your deepest friends - then, you've gone far off course.
Don't let your baby cry.
I believe instead that the main point of the book is to love and bond with your child (what more does a child want than Mommy and Daddy's attention?) And that the world is full of amazing wonderful things that he/she has the potential to do whatever he/she wants to do.
My father (using his own techniques - the daily newspaper) taught me to read at 2 years old and I remember (yes I remember clearly) that it was so much fun to read to Daddy about the upcoming union worker strike.
I don't care what career my child chooses.. I just want him to be happy and have the same appreciation for the world of knowledge that surrounds us.
This book helps parents understand the role of these natural inclinations as it shows them how to encourage and assist the child by creating an environment where its instinctive movements and curiosity can be followed through safely. This is invaluable at the very time now believed to be most crucial to the development of a child's quality of life.
Whenever a friend or relative has a baby, this book is my first gift to them. The ones who try the exercises tell me they notice a positive difference in their child almost immediately (in areas of comprehension, coordination and overall intelligence). It has clear and colorful diagrams, development timelines and large pictures. It will be necessary to get past Doman's zeal if that kind of thing turns you off, but if you take what you like and leave what you don't, this book will prove itself invaluable.
The author splits the development of the brain and the body to seven stages depending on age, and gives methods and joyful exercises for a baby to be physically superb.