- Paperback: 112 pages
- Publisher: Kregel Publications; 2nd edition (March 30, 2006)
- Language: English
- ISBN-10: 0825433401
- ISBN-13: 978-0825433405
- Product Dimensions: 8.5 x 5.6 x 0.3 inches
- Shipping Weight: 10.4 ounces
- Average Customer Review: 71 customer reviews
- Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #426,049 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
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The Tender Scar: Life After the Death of a Spouse Paperback – March 30, 2006
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The Tender Scar should be purchased and given to anyone you care about who has lost a spouse. It offers valid, genuine help that well-meaning friends often cannot provide. It also gives the contact information for support groups. This is also a very valuable book for all pastors, counselors, ministers, and chaplains who so often deal with death issues. (Rev. Austin Miles Agape Press 2006-05-01)
"The Tender Scar should be bought and given to anyone you care about who has lost a spouse. It offers valid, genuine help that well-meaning friends often cannot provide. It also gives the contact information for support groups. This is also a very valuable book for all pastors, counselors, ministers and chaplains who so often deal with death issues. Reading this book will compel you to rethink how important your husband, wife or companion is. It will spur you to make every minute count with your spouse even if it means turning off your favorite program in order to pay full attention to a soul mate who at that moment wants to talk." (Rev. Austin Miles americandaily.com 2006-05-01)
After reading this book, the grieving widow or widoweróindeed anyone suffering the sting of a loved ones' deathóin left with the assurance that, although the scar left behind is tender, healing is possible. (Dan Griffin Baptist Standard 2006-12-04)
He understands how gut-wrenching holidays and other social events can be without your loved one. If you've lost your spouse, get this book. If you know someone who recently lost a spouse, give this book (but first read it yourselfóit will make you a better friend to the grief-stricken). (Sue Kline DJ Picks 2007-01-01)
Thank goodness. The author of The Tender Scar has the ability to put into words his deepest feelings of when his wife of many years suffered a stroke and never recovered . . . . Richard Mabry, the author, was a teaching physician for 35 years but he knew he must share his grief with others such as his pastor, friends and family members. Not only did he keep a near daily journal of his feelings, he shared them word for word by means of e-mail. Each of the 26 chapters includes a verbatim copy of his e-mail to either his children or closest friends and he includes with each a Bible reference and a prayer . . . . I thoroughly appreciated this book and I recommend family members of all ages to read it, particularly members of the older generations. I further recommend that it be placed in our church library to be accessible for all to read. (Gene Ludtke The Lamplighter 2007-02-01) --1
From the Back Cover
Offering hope and healing for the broken-hearted, The Tender Scar addresses the heart-wrenching pain of loosing a spouse. Using journal entries written after the death of his wife, Dr. Richard Mabry uses his own journey as a stepping-stone to a practical discussion of the grief process, offering help on such topics as:
- Finding a support group
- Resigning your commission
- Combating funeral flashbacks
- Reviewing the souvenirs of a lifetime
- Facing holidays
- Remembering an anniversary
He connects with the reader in a way that makes them say, “Yes, I feel that way,” and “That might work for me—maybe I should try it.” He shares the emotions and situations he encountered, and acknowledges his own mistakes as well as his hard-won victories.
“These are powerful words won in the conflict between heartbreak and healing. They are authoritative inasmuch as Dr. Mabry speaks from the trench and not the pulpit.”
—Dr. Dan L. Griffin
Pastor of Christ Fellowship Baptist Church
Richard L. Mabry, MD, has a background that includes more than thirty-five years of medical practice, both as a private practitioner and a professor at the University of Texas Southwestern Medical Center. He has authored three best-selling medical textbooks and edited two others. A deacon at his home church, Richard has taught several Bible courses and Sunday School classes over the years. Though now retired, he is still in great demand as a speaker and teacher both in the United States and abroad.
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There are no twists and turns in a plot to be explored here, but just musings of a beautiful tender heart.
We lost our older dog to cancer two years ago and in one blinding moment of pain I added this book to the cart. It sat on the coffee table for nearly two months. It looked endearingly at me, beckoning me to its loving embrace, and from the corner of my eyes I refused to acknowledge its existence. Even after all that prep, the affirmation of emotions I felt, in its very first few pages left me in tears. But in the end I am just so thankful for this lovingly written book.
Even now I sometimes pull it off the shelf just to re-read a chapter or two.
The Tender Scar offered so much more . . . a first hand account, a biblical perspective and practical advice to other widowers and widows. But it also offers insight to those of us who love men who have gone through the loss of someone very dear to them. Through the pages of this book, I have a better understanding of the man I'm in relationship with. I also have the hope of a deep and fulfilling future with this man who appreciates that I make the effort to understand this side of him and not pretend that it never happened.
I have already recommended this to a friend who is also in relationship with a widower, and to a pastor friend who encounters men and women who suffer this acute loss. It is a good resource for anyone who has lost a spouse, and anyone who knows them.
Thank you Dr Mabry for sharing from your deep personal loss to help others who have suffered this loss, and those who love them.
I am sending one to my priest at church in hopes it is added to our lending library!