Enter your mobile number or email address below and we'll send you a link to download the free Kindle App. Then you can start reading Kindle books on your smartphone, tablet, or computer - no Kindle device required.
To get the free app, enter your mobile phone number.
A Terminal Illness Primer for Caregivers: Lessons From My Brother's End-of-Life Journey Paperback – February 24, 2014
|New from||Used from|
Frequently bought together
Customers who bought this item also bought
About the Author
Before escaping the mean city streets for the windy plains of Oklahoma, Annie was an administrative assistant and office manager at a subscription fulfillment company in Boulder, a think-tank in Santa Monica, a university in Cambridge, in the Green Zone in Baghdad, and a non-profit in D.C. Now she spends most of her time roaming the pastures, baking bread, stirring pots, writing, reading, trying to solve crossword puzzles (with a pen and a lot of Wite-Out), and blogging at An Unrefined Vegan and Virtual Vegan Potluck. She lives in blissful satellite- and cable-free isolation with her partner, Kel, and their only son, Ike (part dachshund, part Labrador).
If you buy a new print edition of this book (or purchased one in the past), you can buy the Kindle edition for only $2.99 (Save 50%). Print edition purchase must be sold by Amazon. Learn more.
For thousands of qualifying books, your past, present, and future print-edition purchases now lets you buy the Kindle edition for $2.99 or less. (Textbooks available for $9.99 or less.)
Top customer reviews
There was a problem filtering reviews right now. Please try again later.
Ann Oliverio takes you along on her own personal journey as caregiver for her brother Charles. it's a testament of how important the last part of life's journey is, both for the one dying and for the prime caregiver. The most important in this phase is that we can be present with our loved one, be there, in the moment with them. Ann Oliverio covers all the very important aspects - even things you would not think about -- unless you have been through it. It's incredibly helpful, we never know when that time will come where life calls us to be the primer caregiver of someone we love. It happens when we least expect it. When it happens we are often in chock, we are devastated, in distress, we are hurting, and it's overwhelming, we are never prepared. A Terminal Illness Primer for Caregivers provides wise, down to earth, genuine advise, as well as comfort and support. I wish that I had had this book in my time of need.
I really enjoyed this book. I found it a compassionate, loving and honest account of the ups and downs of being a caregiver. You have a real sense of the absolute crappiness of it all, the loss, the grief, as well as the very real love that just seems to open up and grow in these harrowing times that we would really, really like to just wish away. I also thought that the personal account was well integrated into a structure of practicalities that are so vital to this kind of work, but would otherwise be a bit tedious to read without the personal insight and story that Ann brings.
I'm always inspired by people that show initiative researching and problem solving in a care giving situation especially when they are already pretty exhausted both emotionally and physically by the work they are doing. Ann and her family took the time to research and seek further medical advice, second opinions and other forms of treatment. This turned out to be crucial for Charles' comfort and enabled him to have more time to enjoy the life he had left to him. The balance to the research is having the ability to let go the opinions on what you have learnt - in a possibly life and death situation - and respect the person who is ill to allow them to make decisions that are definitely not the ones that you feel are right. I felt that Ann struck the balance here really well, and her writing shows that there is no right way to do any of this, simply a balancing of ways that respect the wishes of the person who is ill.
So many of us fear to die alone, in poverty, unhelped and unloved - so much so that we hurry the thought of dying out of our minds for as long as we can. It is inspiring that Charles had such a formidable and loving team of family to support and care for him. I can only think how lucky they were to have had each other.
Perhaps what makes the book particularly poignant is that it's a real life story, honestly told from the first-hand experience of a novice caregiver. The emotional aspects of being in such a situation are covered with appealing simplicity, and well balanced with practical advice. Despite the fact that I'm not, thankfully, in the position of having to deal with a loved one requiring end of life care at the moment, I certainly benefitted from thinking about the prospect. There is useful and valuable advice to be gained from this primer, and I would recommend it to anyone with even a passing interest in the subject of their own demise or that of a loved one.