on March 10, 2018
What a fantastic, and encouraging book. Finally, writers in this area, who understand systemic, and 3rd order effects. I wanted to stand up and cheer, when I read this book. And this book even champions two parent families, some. Children really do need two parents. Here are a few reasons why: 63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes. (Source: U.S. D.H.H.S., Bureau of the Census). · 90% of all homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes. · 85% of all children that exhibit behavioral disorders come from fatherless homes. (Source: Center for Disease Control). · 80% of rapist motivated by displaced anger come from fatherless homes. (Source: Criminal Justice and Behavior, Vol. 14, pp. 403-26). · 71% of all high school dropouts come from fatherless homes. (Source: National Principals Assoc. Report on the State of High Schools). · 85% of all youths sitting in prisons grew up in a fatherless home. (Source: Fulton County Georgia jail populations, Texas Dept. Of Corrections, 1992). These statistics mean that children from fatherless homes are: · 5 times more likely to commit suicide · 32 times more likely to run away · 20 times more likely to have behavioral disorders · 14 times more likely to commit rape · 9 times more likely to drop out of high school · 20 times more likely to end up in prison.
One thing I would have thought would add a lot of value, is that men in marriages generally get no respect at all, any more. My father recalled the days before WW II, when fathers got an incredible amount of respect. It really meant something, to be a father- AND a mother. The incredible disrespect that fathers get nowadays drains energy from them- that could be going into those families. Let us also consider the effects of divorce courts. One only has to listen to Tom Leykis. Tom's show was the top of any media outlet, in the markets it was in, for male listeners. Tom says that children are indeed much better off in a 2 parent family- but that there are NO benefits to being a man, in such a family, and MANY reasons why this is becoming an increasingly worse idea. This book is Really Good! I just want to expand on its good points.
A Navy retiree at work estimates that 30% of births now are due to the woman "forgetting" to take the pill. A lot of men tell me the end of the "patriarchy" is good for men, who often don't want children anyway. Now, women can do it all on their own. They can go to school, go to work, raise their own babies, fight wars, do their own housework and mow their own lawns – all with minimal or no support from men. Thankfully, my ‘mistakes’ were aborted, so I’m 100% behind women’s abortion rights. I have a high paying job, great education, own my own home and have zero responsibilities to anyone except myself. Feminism gave me all that. In days past, because of patriarchal societal beliefs, I would have had no choice but to become a father in support of a family, or life with constant shaming. Now, thankfully, there’s no pressure to become a husband or father. I don’t even have to worry about marriage with regard to sex. Guys – it doesn’t get any better than this! Think about it!
If women want all that BS for themselves, let them have it! They’re right with regard to ending the patriarchy. It not only means freedom from oppression for them – it also means freedom from oppression for us dudes. As a man, I’m grateful for feminism. You’ve made my life delightfully simple. Thank you feminists! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! A patriarchy which oppresses men, is no patriarchy, if it benefits women & children only. If you study "primitive" tribes, women in most of them did well, and had more privileges than most men.
Men have always marched off to war, to protect women & children. Some want to talk about ‘peter pan’, ‘man up’, ‘where’s them goooood men’ stuff. I did the Sound of Music tour, in Austria, decades ago. The tour guide complained about the high prices in stores, and said [I could not make this up] he really missed the Jewish store owners, who knew how to merchandise, and sell at reasonable prices. But the Austrians exterminated them. And they aren't coming back. Men never really fit the Romance Novel model, of course. But there is a Gresham's law in effect- many women like and choose bad boys, and ignore nice guys. Brooke Medicine Eagle cited a native american eldress- female elder- who noted that women create men's characters, by whom they choose to sleep with. And women do have a time clock, a "sell by" date. One sees hot women, that have played around for a while, suddenly hit the "wall", and decide to get serious about getting married... only to find out the potential husbands they had pictured in mine aren't there. Then there are the women in their 40s, 50s, who are all looking for their "soulmate", who will accept them just as they are, even with 80 extra pounds on, and extreme inability to be pleasant. I don't have the heart to tell them that their soulmate was one of the 60% of men falsely accused of rape, as in that Air Force study, or he got hung up in the divorce court slaughterhouse, to bleed out, was obliterated financially, lost custody of his kids, and won't even look at women any more. I find more and more men in MGTOW monasticism, because they don't want to be FishBicycles. 40% of books in print are romance novels. Really think about that. It tells you that this is a visceral thing. The Quran says women have 9 times the sexual drive of men [I'm not Muslim], and I see that. Demographics are the future. America will be a lot more Hispanic, Black, and Muslim, in a few decades, because they reproduce at much higher rates. MGTOW is an expression of Knights Templar- who swore off sex completely. Men are capable of this, and are doing so, more and more. One of the reasons mothers- and fathers- aren't treated very well, is that there are fewer of them. Disrespect for fatherhood soon bleeds over into disrespect for motherhood. Respect is the center of the circle of community, as native american elders tell me. From respect grows rapport, from rapport, cooperation. Cooperation is how humans survive. We need to foster a lot more cooperation. When a young man realizes that more than half of all marriages end in divorce, that over 70% are initiated by women... he realizes that marriage is a lottery with a 1 in 2 chance of losing at least half his income, possessions, and all of his children. The number of married people in the population is at a 100 year low. This book is very useful... I just wanted to expand the perspective some.