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Lesley Carlin and Honore McDonough Ervin, The Etiquette Grrls, are the creators of the popular website EtiquetteGrrls.com, and "Connoisseuses of the Social Graces,"
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Product Details

  • Paperback: 224 pages
  • Publisher: Berkley; First Paperback Edition edition (October 1, 2001)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 042518370X
  • ISBN-13: 978-0425183700
  • Product Dimensions: 5.1 x 0.6 x 8 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 6.4 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 2.9 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (91 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,218,040 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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First of all, it is Very Tiresome to have things Randomly Capitalized. It may be Slightly Charming in the context of a Short Article, but in a Terribly Long Book it is distracting and Difficult To Read. Secondly, using Quaint Expressions is also Mildly Cute for awhile, but after they use the Childish Adjective "wee" for the twentieth time, it gets old as well. Dear Readers, are we really to think that The Etiquette Grrls speak this way in their Daily Lives? I doubt it. The Affected Tone of this book makes it Difficult To Relate To.
Another thing that makes it hard to relate to the Etiquette Grrls is their Attitudes. The only Actual Etiquette in this book involves things like introducing people to Each Other, and not talking on your cell 'phone (yes, they Do Indeed write it 'phone) During A Movie. The rest of the book is full of things like their fashion advice--which is not All That Good. Be warned, Dear Reader, that The Etiquette Grrls think the height of slightly edgy fashion is wearing Doc Martens and Urban Decay nail color. Also interesting is the Dating Advice, in which you learn that girls should not Ask Boys For a Date, and the best way to Manage Your Boyfriend is with a system of punishments based on the Demerit Systems of their New England Boarding Schools. Sadly, I am Not Kidding.
They also sound Quite A Bit Snobby, managing to offend my Southern Sensibilities by claiming that "Grits is not a food." They make fun of clothing, music choices, and events which are Not To Their Taste. Which seems to me to be The Height of Rudeness. I, like the Etiquette Grrls, do not enjoy NASCAR, but I would never suggest that it is not a "proper" place for anyone to be.
So the advice of The Etiquette Grrls will only Be Of Great Interest to other well-bred women who are products of New England boarding schools, and I'd imagine those "grrls" need no help from The Etiquette Grrls as they would have learned All Of These Things Already.
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While some passages in this book appealed to me, I did find their style of writing and their opinion to be nothing but pretentious.
I was myself raised in Paris till my late teens, and have travelled quite a deal around the world and mastered several languages, including Latin and Classical Greek. However, I consider it outmost pretention and rudeness to drop in foreign words in my English conversation in order to sound "sophisticated".
Also, what is up with all the capitalized words? Improper use of grammar is tacky.
As far as choosing which cocktail, I consider it ridiculous to judge who you are by what your taste buds crave for at the moment. There are times that I enjoy a blue Hawaiian, and others when I could get by with a French 75. It all depends on MY mood, not some other person's opinion.
Real sophistication and class is within. People who look for material things to seek validation are extremely insecure, and that is the outmost lack of style.
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The Etiquette Grrls, as they refer to themselves throughout the book, might have some advice to give someone some day, perhaps after they've done something other than dress themselves, shop, make artichoke dip, and then "toss back a few". However, unless you need to be told not to prune the potted plants in hotels (this is really in the book) you certainly do not need thier advice on anything.
They start out by telling you how to set a table (something covered much more adequately in either Emily Post or Miss Manners). They don't get much wrong there, but once they start on fashion their advice becomes laughable. The Etiquette girls have confused Good Manners and Good Grooming with Purchasing Power. The quality that sets one apart from the unwashed masses, is, apparently, the ability to afford Coach bags and Ann Taylor Cashmere twinsets. Indeed, the only thing that seems to save them from the black skirt/twin set automaton look is their bravery in choosing nailpolish colors. Urban Decay creates colors that make the Etiquette grrls feel a little better in their extremely limited world of fashion. On the back of the book, the picture of the Etiquette grrls shows them dressed exactly alike: Little black dress, string of pearls. They look like a matched set of bookends.
When they tackle the social scene, it really does become pathetic. They are truly convinced that making catty remarks about the clothing and appearance of other party guests makes them seem witty. They think their ability to mix canned artichoke hearts with mayonnaise and bake it in the oven makes them accompmlished hostesses.
By the time they get to relationships, they have long since lost all credibility and the book becomes merely laughable.
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As an Etiquette Consultant, I find the Etiquette Grrls right on the money with their concern for manners (or lack thereof) in our society today. The Writing Style, however, makes it difficult to find the True Gems of Appropriate Behavior. The over-use of Random Capitaliztion and Wee bits of French thrown in for good measure clutter up the Finer Points the Etiquette Grrls make so well. As a Southerner, raised by Maman et Papa Avec Impeccable Manners, this Etiquette Consultant was taught that if one couldn't say something Nice, then one shouldn't say Anything At All. The Etiquette Grrls would do well to heed this Teaching when Looking Down their Noses at those living outside of New England. Also, it might help the Etiquette Grrls to travel (first-class, of course) and actually Visit the South. Upon doing so, they will find that Grits are not only a Food, but a Food Group. They will also find that Grits are Tres Tasty when made from pure stone-ground corn, cooked Avec Beaucoup Butter and Milk. Bottom Line? While timely Etiquette Information exists in this book, there are much better and easier to read Volumes on the shelves from which Dear Readers may choose. One such Volume would be Etiquette by Dorothea Johnson, founder of The Protocol School of Washington. Or peut etre The New Guide to Executive Manners by Letitia Baldridge.
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