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This Is How: Proven Aid in Overcoming Shyness, Molestation, Fatness, Spinsterhood, Grief, Disease, Lushery, Decrepitude & More. For Young and Old Alike. Hardcover – May 8, 2012
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“The last self-help book you'll ever read.” ―Janice Harper, The Huffington Post
“Hilarious and searingly straight forward…Burroughs turns the self-help genre upside-down.” ―Publishers Weekly (starred review)
“Fans of the author's massively popular confessional memoirs will likely agree with that statement, and all of the wisdom he dispenses in his new book -- delivered with the dark, acidic humor we've come to expect -- is certainly well-earned.” ―The Boston Globe--This text refers to the Paperback edition.
Top Customer Reviews
Wrong! This is actually an honest-to-goodness self-help book. Sure, it might seem to be coming from a somewhat twisted perspective, and flies in the face of a lot of standard tropes of self-help, but Mr. Burroughs has written a serious and probing book about improving one's mental life and dealing with all sorts of issues, from addiction to grief. Each chapter discusses a different topic, and though the chapter headings might point to humor ("How to Fail," "How to End Your Life"), Burroughs has really thought through what he wants to say and lays it out in a mostly straightforward, honest way.
I think that some people will take issue with some of Burroughs' unconventional thoughts on certain issues like AA (he's got problems with it) and using affirmations (against it). He points out the mistakes that people make when thinking about their problems and offers solutions that worked for him. He uses examples from his own life to illustrate his points, instead of the cheery composite characters that most self-help books come up with. I loved that he writes in a straightforward manner and doesn't use ridiculous "systems" (follow the BrightThought principle!) or bullet points to cheerlead you on. It's refreshing to read a more realistic view of the world.Read more ›
So, I am not an Augusten Burroughs fan, and I'm significantly less a fan of the self-help genre. Why did I pick up this book? Well, it really was an unintimidating size, a factor which should never be underestimated. And the book has buzz. I like to read what people are talking about. But, perhaps most of all, I was expecting a self-help satire--I mean, look at the full title. But the joke was on me, because despite a little irreverent humor, Mr. Burroughs appears to be quite sincere in his advice giving.
Certainly, I paused a few times and wondered at his qualifications as an advice-provider, beyond, apparently, having made quite a few mistakes in his life. I didn't always agree with his suggestions, though most had the feel of good common sense that you sometimes need to hear from someone else. The author appears to be dispensing advice with kindness. What surprised me the most was that I kept turning pages, reading the book from cover to cover in an afternoon. It held my interest.
I think this was due to the breadth of topics covered. Some chapters were longer than others, but Mr. Burroughs kept things moving along swiftly. There was never a chance to grow bored.Read more ›
A self-help book--sorta--that teaches you how to help yourself and deal with what life throws at you. While I don't agree with everything, I found some very helpful bits of advice...if only I can apply them.
Parts of this book were spot on, amazingly insightful, and inspiring. Those are the parts I'll take from this book and apply to my own life. I pulled a couple dozen quotes that I really liked that I'll hold on to and remember when s*** gets tough. Put it this way: this book was good enough that I want to buy a copy (I originally borrowed from the library).
Other parts made me worry about people reading it and taking it and going to a bad place. I can imagine psychologists would get angry about large sections of this book, but I also think it could be important for a mental health professional to read. They may disagree with a lot, but I also think it could create some potential for how they can help their clients.
It's interesting to see the changes that have happened in Burroughs' writing from Running With Scissors to this. Fans will find something very different in this book, but if you're willing to be honest with yourself, I think you may even enjoy it.
And now a few quotes:
"But feelings, no matter how strong or `ugly,' are not a part of who you are. They are the radio stations your mind listens to if you don't give it something better to do."
"The truth about healing is that you don't need to heal to be whole."
"Because they are not the only ones who die: you die, too. The person you were when you were with them is gone just as surely as they are.
"This is what you should know about losing somebody you love. They do not travel alone. You go with them.Read more ›
Most Recent Customer Reviews
Yes, I love it. Yes, I am a mental health professional with loads of experience reading and trying to apply other books. Yes, this is in the top 5 of said books. Read morePublished 11 days ago by Amazon Customer
I was hoping to get more personal essays, not a self-help book. This was a big let down. Good for Augusten for getting his message out to his fans, but I never asked for it. Read morePublished 18 days ago by Discontent Dave
Not for those who want a self-help book and not for those who need a therapy. It's for those who are not affraid of a mixture of bluntness and kindness, and irony. Read morePublished 1 month ago by Flora Pudelkova
This is a fantastic, eye-opening read. Highly recommend for anyone feeling lost or hopeless in the world. There's comfort in the truth.Published 1 month ago by Amanda Hyndman
Although Burrough's usual style is to be negative, blunt, and a little pessimistic, this book is even worse than that. Read morePublished 1 month ago by Chancie
Okay. So when I started reading this book I had no real expectation for it except that it was going to be "good" because it is written by Augusten Burroughs, and I've read... Read morePublished 1 month ago by Shantel