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Touchstones: A Book Of Daily Meditations For Men Paperback – July 1, 1986
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He who is outside the door has already a good part of his journey behind him.
When we see how far we strayed from the kind of men we wanted to be, we are overwhelmed by how far we have to go to get back on the track. Perhaps we see clearly for the first time how unfair we were or how much we hurt those we love. Maybe we see how pervasive our compulsions are in our lives and how much we missed.
That is when we are most ready to do the work of recovery and become most spiritual. It is helpful at those times to remember that this program is a journey. Although at times the distance seems overwhelming, all of us are on the path. As long as we live, we never reach a point where we can stop growing. The important thing is we are on the path, we have a good part of our journey behind us. Once begun, outside the door, we are progressing like all our brothers and sisters in the program.
Today, I will remember it is the reward of the journey itself, not the destination, that I seek.
When you can't stand criticism you learn to be a perfectionist.
It's human to make mistakes and to feel incomplete. Perhaps if we were all smooth plastic printouts we could expect perfection of ourselves. Each man is actually a process. We are not things, but events--happenings, and the events are still unfolding. These are our creative spiritual adventures.
We have somehow learned that openness to criticism is dangerous. Perhaps we thought someone would not like us if we were wrong, or that we would get hurt or belittled. When we live with a relationship to our Higher Power, we can stand up for ourselves. A man has a right to make some mistakes! We grow more if we allow ourselves the leeway of simply being in process.
I will not ask to have the power of perfection. I will only ask that I not be alone in the process of living my life.
Love doesn't just sit there, like a stone; it has to be made, like bread, remade all the time, made new
—Ursula K. Le Guin
Our relationships are alive. We don't control them and neither do the other people involved. We certainly influence our relationships--and if we are aware, we see they also have their own yeast. Whether we are talking of a love relationship with our spouses, lovers, children, friends, or parents, it is a very fluid and dynamic affair. If we are actively involved with the other person and give time and nourishment to the relationship, it will grow. But if we are passive and only waiting, the relationship will grow stale.
God speaks to us through other people. Our relationship with our Higher Power influences our relationships with all the people in our lives. Today we can nurture our relationships with time, tolerance, and honesty. In turn, we will be nourished.
May this day be one in which I give attention to those I love.
©2008. All rights reserved. Reprinted from Touchstones. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system or transmitted in any form or by any means, without the written permission of the publisher. Publisher: Hazelden Publishing, PO Box 176 , Center City, MN 55012-0176.
Top Customer Reviews
pocket book, nicely printed. There's one page corresponding to each
day of the year. Each page starts with a quote from diverse folks:
Einstein, Twain, Thoreau, Shakespeare, Woody Allen, etc. Then there's
a small essay about a way to approach the day. In some ways,
it's a supplement or even a substitute father, making
gentle suggestions about the ways
that the world works, and good ways to encounter and
He recently bought a new copy to send to a friend who is having serious problems in his life, and we hope that its calm wisdom will help him as well.
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I brought this for a friend. They love it and are sharing with others.Published 2 months ago by Luann
I'm using this daily meditation book with a male client. We are finding very relevant and useful.Published 3 months ago by Perette Halpin
I've been reading this book for the past thirty years and just love it. Repeatedly it slaps me upside the head with a description of myself that I had not seen before. Read morePublished 3 months ago by M. Treadaway
My brother is incarcerated, I sent him this book for his birthday, he reads it every single day and it gives him light in a world full of darkness. Read morePublished 5 months ago by Megan Bumstead
It is a wonderful way to start the day. I read it every morning it offers such inspiration to help along in life.Published 5 months ago by John A. Hebert