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Trauma, Shame, and the Power of Love: The Fall and Rise of a Physician Who Heals Himself Paperback – February 12, 2015
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About the Author
CHRISTOPHER E. PELLOSKI earned his medical degree from the Northwestern University Medical School in Chicago in 2001. He was accepted into the Radiation Oncology Residency Training Program and eventually joined the faculty at the University of Texas – MD Anderson Cancer Center, in Houston, one of the top cancer centers in the world. After his recruitment to the Ohio State University Comprehensive Cancer Center in 2010, he ran a full clinical practice, supervised his own basic-science research laboratory, and served as his department’s Residency Program Director and as the Director of Pediatric Radiation Oncology.
Pelloski is a survivor of childhood sexual abuse and subsequently suffered throughout most of his life with undiagnosed and untreated Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, with Dissociative Features.
In the summer of 2013, his personal, public, and professional life came to a painful reckoning.
Author's Website: http://cepbooks.com______________________________________________ PRAISE FOR TRAUMA, SHAME, AND THE POWER OF LOVE
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“A remarkable contribution to the growing body of literature that brings to light the mounting casualties of our nation's current 'War on Sex Crimes.'”—Lisa Zilney, Ph.D., Montclair University author of "Reconsidering Sex Crimes: Prosecution or Persecution?"
“An inspiring story of a man's courageous journey through childhood sexual abuse, generational trauma, public humiliation and ultimately healing.”—Michelle Risser, MSW-LISW
“'Trauma, Shame, and the Power of Love' is a wake-up call that has been long overdue for physicians who suffer in an uncaring culture of silence.”—Eugene Huang, M.D.
“...[It] was one of those “wow” books. This really is one of the most powerful books I have ever read; it is raw and it is harsh but it is real life and that never runs smoothly. Dr Pelloski has written a very open, honest and deeply revealing book…”—Anne-Marie Reynolds, Readers’ Favorite
“I admire the author for baring his soul to the world as it takes a lot of courage to come out in the open with something like this. The pain and the humiliation felt by the author is palpable throughout the book. The author's story will both depress and infuriate readers, but it is also a story of healing and redemption.”—Mamta Madhavan, Readers’ Favorite
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Because child pornography is so easily accessible, and virtually anyone has access to the internet, we as a society are going to have to deal with an ever-increasing number of people convicted of this crime. This very important book raises questions that we will have to answer in the coming years. Is there ever an excuse for clicking and viewing these terrible images? Should a person's state of mind and personal reasons for viewing child pornography be taken into account before we brand them a felon for life? Should courts have the authority to adjust sentences because of mitigating factors? What if the guilty person was themselves a victim of child pornographers? Is incarceration the right way to handle people who commit this crime? Would it be better to provide help, or should punishment be the only goal?
Unfortunately, many people will come to this discussion, and this very important book with their minds already made up. It is not uncommon to find people with the mentality that anyone who clicks on child pornography deserves to be locked up, and the key thrown away.
Even if you feel like anyone who views child pornography should be drawn and quartered, and then doomed to burn eternally in the fires of Hell, I urge you to read this book with an open mind. What if it were your friend, family member, or loved one in Chris Pelloski's shoes?
Dr. Pelloski's life will never be the same, and he's got a long road ahead of him to rebuild his life. He didn't have to write this book, but I'm grateful that he took the time and effort to do so. It took a lot of courage to open up his life for public examination.
The problem of child pornography is likely to get worse in the future rather than go away. This well-written book is destined to be a landmark in the coming discussion on how we are going to deal with this problem as a society.
As some of the other reviewers have mentioned, the book is of itself very well written. A lot of Dr. Pelloski’s personal life and academic treatments of various mental health issues are tightly packed into just 200-some odd pages; but the book flows well. At least for me, it was a quick read.
Dr. Pelloski’s story is heartbreaking. I am unfortunately familiar with stories similar to his. He seems to carry the same scars I see in adults who have been thoroughly traumatized in their childhood. Readers who are not familiar with childhood sexual abuse and its long-term consequences might go into the book expecting Dr. Pelloski only to apologize for his offense. He did offer an apology. But he also touchingly and informatively shows how his abuse and resultant PTSD have shaped his life and his offense. I agree with some of the reviewers that he does at times harp on his successes as a physician. But he is also brutally open and honest about his painful short-comings and failings as a man. He hated himself when he was at the height of his success, and found inner peace after therapy when his career and public life has been completely destroyed. He does a very interesting job at showing us that his extreme successes/narcissism and horrible failures are two sides of the same coin. It gave much authenticity to his story.
The book also sheds light on how poorly understood these computer-based crimes are. We make generalizations about the offenders and assign them a singular, sinister motive; law-makers and the news media seem to enforce these generalizations. While data do show that there are wide ranges of motives for this crime. As the judge presiding over Dr. Pelloski’s case stated, “Most of these offenders are not contact offenders - nor would they ever consider that - nor would they progress to that." In reading the book, I was shocked to find out that someone who physically, sexually abuses a child can get less punishment than someone who watches a child being sexually abused. They both need just punishment. But if something as basic as fitting the punishment to the crime is done questionably…then maybe we should readdress the cookie-cutter laws we have.
If so many federal judges, attorneys, mental health professionals believe the current laws are misguided and expensive, then there is something amiss here. Even John Grisham has chimed in on the issue. The public is being kept in the dark. There is a lot that needs to be discussed. This book in particular brings up just how critical this discussion is. Dr. Pelloski’s judge at one point mentioned, “Based on my experience of these cases, it is my impression that this social phenomenon of the view of pornography, and including child pornography, is becoming—it’s increasing, and it’s becoming almost common. I doubt that there is a local church that does not have members who are involved in this kind of activity. I doubt that there is any business of any size which does not have employees, including executives, who are involved in this kind of activity.” Given the link of childhood abuse with psychological issues later in the life of these victims, the link between them and the viewing of child sexual abuse images, and the high rate of childhood sexual abuse, this child pornography problem isn’t going away anytime soon. We need to bring this into public discourse.
This book is a must read. It is well written. It is one man’s painful recount of his downfall, and an embodiment of everything that is wrong with a system backed by an uninformed public that rely on fear, ignorance, a minimization of mental health and a false sense of security that is wastefully costing us all billions of dollars annually.