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True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of your Life Paperback – October 1, 2013
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--Gary Thomas, Best Selling Author of The Sacred Marriage and Sacred Search
"Hands down, the best book on dating that I've ever read! If you're single, this is a must read. Jam-packed with wise counsel, Debra becomes your personal mentor as she answers dozens of real-life dating and relationship questions. Pastors and church leaders, get this resource into the hands of your singles!"
--- Chris Reed, Pastor to 20s/30s and Singles at Saddleback Church, Lake Forest, CA
"True Love Dates is spot on! There isn't one single I know who doesn't want to be in a successful relationship. Many singles today have lost hope because they don't know what a healthy relationship looks like or have the vision and tools to get there. Debra addresses every question singles are asking (or should be asking themselves). Most importantly, Debra shows that not only does true love date, it is only possible through a relationship with God. If you're single, you need to read this book!"
---Ashley Reccord at ChristianMingle.com
"True Love Dates is a wonderful dating/love/relationship resource for young women. I absolutely love that it instills our self-worth and value as daughters of God and teaches us to look for His best in our potential mate while refining ourselves as true ladies, leaders and lovers in Christ. This is an absolute must-read and pivotal for any woman no matter your age or relationship history."
---Kristen Dalton, Miss USA 2009
About the Author
In addition to speaking about love, dating, and healthy relationships to men and women across the country, she is a frequent contributor at Relevant Magazine and Crosswalk.com where she writes about love, dating, and healthy relationships. She has also contributed to magazines and websites such as Today's Christian Woman, Converge Magazine, and many others.
Top Customer Reviews
I appreciate greatly Fileta's charge to really examine yourself in light of God's word first and foremost. It is so easy for us to get wrapped up in how another can fill in the holes we think are missing in our lives without even recognizing it. Fileta charges her readers to take a long hard look in the mirror, while also not being held hostage to one's past.
I also appreciate Debra's approach dating with her background in mental health. Although in different fields, I too am in the caring profession and often watch the demise of sanity happen when someone starts dating the wrong person -- or even sometimes the right person. Dating is confusing and for many of us, really sucky :) Fileta really encourages her readers to observe themselves and their behaviors in light of this, which I think is so so poignant and important.
Lastly, I appreciate the use of Debra's questions throughout the book. It's easy to read through a book such as this one and miss out on the opportunity to really reflect and allow the text to change your heart/mind, the questions that are offered help usher you in this process.
I approached the book with fairly high hopes, and I wasn't disappointed. In the introduction, Fileta lays out a map for where her book will take you:
"If you've picked up this book, it's likely that you're searching for true love. Your desire for marriage may be strong, even feel like a preoccupation that you can't seem to shake. You might be sick and tired of being single and alone, watching your friends get knocked off, one by one, into the world of love while you feel more and more isolated. Maybe you found someone you thought was "the one," only to have your heart broken and your hopes shattered, alone once again. In a world that seems to cater to couples and families, sitting at a table for one is the last place you want to be.
But the ironic thing about finding true love is that it must start at a table for one."
And in that statement lies perhaps the greatest strength of Fileta's book. While many Christian dating books focus on honoring God and the other person, Fileta takes time to focus on the importance of introspection and personal growth. Only after you have learned to to be a whole person can you relate properly to other people and to God Himself.
Fileta's book is divided into four sections.Read more ›
The second section begins with figuring out what you want in a relationship, looking at character traits and deciding which ones you would never want in a potential mate, which ones you would have to cautiously explore, and which ones you really desire and would even require to be present. The section then moves to the timing of a relationship, protecting your heart, and physical boundaries.
At one point, Fileta shares these thoughts: "Your story has far more to do with finding God's unique calling and purpose for your life than it does with finding the love of your life...Finding true love may be a beautiful portion of your story, but it was never intended to be the grand finale. It's too easy to work so hard on this one section of our story that in the meantime the rest of the book never gets written. God's plans never play out in our lives because we are so fixated on finding love that we don't take the time to look at where we are going." This struck a chord with me as it describes very well my own experiences with relationships before I met my wife.
The third section provides counsel on seeking after God and keeping your focus on His will for your life. By doing so, not only will you be more fulfilled in your life, you will be balanced and prepared for meeting a spouse when the time is right.Read more ›
Most Recent Customer Reviews
Awesome perspective with great insight and very helpful. Would recommend for anyone wanting a biblical view on how to date correctly.Published 1 month ago by Vincent
I originally ordered this book to help my daughter in her choice of men to date and ordered one for myself so that we could talk about it. Read morePublished 1 month ago by Amazon Customer
This book is life-changing. I do not say that lightly either. It does an excellent job of helping individuals learn about themselves which is someone we tend to forget about as... Read morePublished 2 months ago by Paul M Smith
It's ok, but I wouldn't have bought having now read it. Nothing new really, lots of common sense, very practical suggestions, but some of the same old stuff a dozen other books... Read morePublished 4 months ago by Amazon Customer
This book really brought me back to what's important and helped me properly align my views and goals on dating and marriage. Read morePublished 4 months ago by L. Thomas
This book has literally changed my life. I thought dating was all about finding someone, but this book is about dating yourself and getting to know yourself first. Read morePublished 4 months ago by Amazon Customer