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Undecided: How to Ditch the Endless Quest for Perfect and Find the Careerand LifeThat's Right for You Paperback – April 26, 2011
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A helpful new book... exhaustively researched. Undecided is not an academic career counselor's guidebook with testing or educational advice, but a compendium of on-the-ground stories of actual career choices. --Joyce Lain Kennedy, Chicago Tribune
... looks at the choices today's women have thanks to the success of the Women's Movement--and the unintended consequences... contextualizing it with stories of hundreds of women who call themselves undecided. --Santa Barbara Independent
From the Back Cover
--Susan Shapiro Barash, author of You're Grounded Forever
"Job or career? Biker or banker? Paper, plastic, or recycled, reusable tote? Sane, sensible and funny, Undecided uncovers the many ways having too many choices can mess with a gal's head--with insightful tips for not only getting where you want to go but actually enjoying the ride." --Jenna McCarthy, author of The Parent Trip and the forthcoming If It Was Easy, They'd Call the Whole Damn Thing A Honeymoon
Top Customer Reviews
I'm 33 years old, and this book spoke directly to my demographic.
I highly recommend this book to any woman who would rather fail by doing something than live with regret for doing nothing.
After that, I was suddenly reading a chatty feminist manifesto (and I'm a feminist) constantly informing me that I was about to be REALLY pissed off by an astounding array of facts -- but hey, we'll get to that later. Seriously. They used some variation of that phrase every five pages: Here's a topic. But we're going to talk about that later.
Hi, already informed about pay inequities and the inability to have it all. Got to page 170 and STILL didn't find out "How to ditch the endless quest for perfect and find the career -- and life -- that's right for [me]." It does not pay off the subtitle. Or maybe it will in a follow-up book. I don't know... I stopped reading.
I found the conclusion to be very powerful. Of course, everyone reads through his or her own lenses, and here's what my tainted lenses focused on: The frustrations and fears discussed, though not entirely unique to women, are clearly most prevalent among young, educated women. However, I have experienced and witnessed much of the same analysis paralysis, grass is greener syndrome, etc., among men. Whether in men or women, I have often found that these factors as well as approval-seeking (or bigshot-itis) are common precursors to the fall into addiction. I have heard these complaints innumerable times in various 12-Step meetings.
I have to say that the idea of finding your true or inner-self is what many people consider to be their spiritual journey. Meditation and prayer are essentially what the authors describe as quiet time. Whether we believe in some new-agey way that we are Gods, or we recognize that the reason we can't have it all is that we are not God, this inner voice holds the key to happiness, or at least contentment and serenity. Many of the thousands of people who have actually worked the 12-Steps have come to experience that insight. I had a gambling-addiction therapist who claimed that he would have sent every one of his patients (one-at-a-time) to an isolated cabin in the Olympic Mountains for two weeks to get away from all the noise and to learn to listen to that inner voice. Of course, we could never find an insurance plan that would cover such treatment.
There is no clear steps or instruction offered, they need to ditch the title.
I would like to find something practical that's somewhere between wordy, clinical and dry academia and bubbly, empty-headed HR-type happy garbage.
Most Recent Customer Reviews
Cant wait for my daughter to read this! Will update when she finishes ;)Published 1 month ago by Angie L Radford
As several other reviewers have stated, this is not a how to or self-help book for dealing with the challenge (and yes it can be a challenge) of so many choices In life. Read morePublished 22 months ago by H. Gillespie
I originally bought this book in 2011 when I was struggling in a job I hated. I was unhappy and unsure of where to go next. Read morePublished on February 8, 2014 by RachelMay2010
I am a college student working two part time jobs as a dual major engineer wondering if I should get a full time position, work for industry, work in academica, work abroad or go... Read morePublished on April 14, 2013 by M. Cruz
I have the same frustration as many on here; I started out LOVING this book, feeling like "OMG this was written for me! I happened upon a guide that might change my life! Read morePublished on March 27, 2013 by M. Harris
Undecided is a book that sets out to answer the question:
Why are the women of today unhappy?
On the surface they have it all -
Great job. Read more
The authors spent about 200 pages describing the problem, then in the last few pages said I should settle for the job I already have (and hate).Published on July 9, 2012 by lymabean
A friend of mine heard about this book after reading an article about indecisiveness in young women. Read morePublished on February 25, 2012 by Kristina
I read this book with no small amount of trepidation. I am, after all, a man, an attorney with three women who are the most important people in my life. Read morePublished on December 7, 2011 by Vincent