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If I Understood You, Would I Have This Look on My Face?: My Adventures in the Art and Science of Relating and Communicating Paperback – March 6, 2018

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NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • Award-winning actor Alan Alda tells the fascinating story of his quest to learn how to communicate better, and to teach others to do the same. With his trademark humor and candor, he explores how to develop empathy as the key factor.

“Invaluable.”—Deborah Tannen, #1 New York Times bestselling author of You’re the Only One I Can Tell and You Just Don’t Understand

Alan Alda has been on a decades-long journey to discover new ways to help people communicate and relate to one another more effectively. If I Understood You, Would I Have This Look on My Face? is the warm, witty, and informative chronicle of how Alda found inspiration in everything from cutting-edge science to classic acting methods. His search began when he was host of PBS’s Scientific American Frontiers, where he interviewed thousands of scientists and developed a knack for helping them communicate complex ideas in ways a wide audience could understand—and Alda wondered if those techniques held a clue to better communication for the rest of us.

In his wry and wise voice, Alda reflects on moments of miscommunication in his own life, when an absence of understanding resulted in problems both big and small. He guides us through his discoveries, showing how communication can be improved through learning to relate to the other person: listening with our eyes, looking for clues in another’s face, using the power of a compelling story, avoiding jargon, and reading another person so well that you become “in sync” with them, and know what they are thinking and feeling—especially when you’re talking about the hard stuff.

Drawing on improvisation training, theater, and storytelling techniques from a life of acting, and with insights from recent scientific studies, Alda describes ways we can build empathy, nurture our innate mind-reading abilities, and improve the way we relate and talk with others. Exploring empathy-boosting games and exercises, If I Understood You is a funny, thought-provoking guide that can be used by all of us, in every aspect of our lives—with our friends, lovers, and families, with our doctors, in business settings, and beyond.

“Alda uses his trademark humor and a well-honed ability to get to the point, to help us all learn how to leverage the better communicator inside each of us.”—Forbes

“Alda, with his laudable curiosity, has learned something you and I can use right now.”—Charlie Rose

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“Alan Alda is a man with a mission. He began with a passion to help scientists communicate with a lay audience, then realized that the skills and insights of improv that he’d learned as an actor could be transformative for everyone for whom communication is essential. And that is who will find his book invaluable: everyone.”—Deborah Tannen, #1 New York Times bestselling author of You’re the Only One I Can Tell and You Just Don’t Understand

“Alda’s curiosity, intelligence and desire to wipe out baffled and bewildered faces make a compelling case for clarity, communication and, always, empathy.”—Pittsburgh Post-Gazette

“Bright, breezy, and upbeat . . . In writing this book, Alda follows his own advice: Communicate through storytelling.”—Washington Independent Review of Books

“A swift and enjoyable journey.”—PopMatters

“Alda uses his trademark humor and a well-honed ability to get to the point, to help us all learn how to leverage the better communicator inside each of us.”—Forbes

“[Alda] was frustrated that men and women of science were not able to get their points across—to the public, the media, the government. Turned out they had never been trained to do so. So Alda set out to do something about it . . . Aided by his warm, conversational style, Alda’s message shows that the lessons also apply to the rest of us—and at a time when we could really use it.”—Milwaukee Journal Sentinel

“Alan Alda breaks down the importance of face-to-face interaction in his new book, If I Understood You, Would I Have This Look On My Face? Alda developed this compelling conversation technique to help scientists distill down complex scientific principles for a general audience.”—Entrepreneur Magazine

“A distinguished actor and communication expert shows how to avoid ‘the snags of misunderstanding’ that plague verbal interactions between human beings. . . . A sharp and informative guide to communication.”—Kirkus Reviews

“An enlightening and thoughtful combination of shared experience and advice.”—Booklist

“In this charming, witty, and thought-provoking book, full of rich anecdotes, Alan Alda describes some of the tools of communication that he teaches in his work with the Alan Alda Center for Communicating Science and shows how everyone—from lovers to politicians to scientists—can benefit from being better communicators.”—Lawrence M. Krauss, author of The Greatest Story Ever Told . . . So Far

“I’ve spent a lifetime trying to understand and use the art of communication. And then comes this fellow Alda—actor, interviewer, academic, and, mostly, student—who teaches me new, useable ideas. Communicating is at the heart of connectedness. Alda, with his laudable curiosity, has learned something you and I can use right now.”—Charlie Rose

“Sit back and enjoy Alan Alda’s scientific journey of communication.”—Barbara Walters

About the Author

Alan Alda has earned international recognition as an actor, writer, and director. He has won seven Emmy Awards, has received three Tony nominations, is an inductee of the Television Hall of Fame, and was nominated for an Academy Award for his role in The Aviator. Alda played Hawkeye Pierce on the classic television series M*A*S*H, and his many films include Crimes and Misdemeanors, Everyone Says I Love You, Manhattan Murder Mystery, and Bridge of Spies. Alda is an active member of the science community, having hosted the award-winning series Scientific American Frontiers for eleven years and founded the Alan Alda Center for Communicating Science at Stony Brook University. Alda is the author of two previous bestselling books, Never Have Your Dog Stuffed: And Other Things I’ve Learned and Things I Overheard While Talking To Myself.

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Chapter 12

My Life As a Lab Rat

Testing an Empathy Exercise

I have a habit of experimenting on myself.

In my twenties, I was fascinated by the notion that a person’s temperature goes up and down during the day. So, to test the idea, for several months I carried a thermometer in my pocket and took my temperature every hour. No matter where I was. Understandably, I appeared a little weird to the people I had meetings with while I had this thing sticking out of my mouth.

I got caught up in the same kind of mania when I started looking for ways to practice mind reading on my own. I wanted to see if I could improve on my abilities at empathy and Theory of Mind and I was searching for a kind of personal human-contact workout gym.

I started by practicing reading the faces of strangers – people in the street, store clerks, taxi drivers – trying to get inside their heads and figure out why they were saying what they said, the meaning of their body language and tone of voice.

I practiced listening to people; asking their opinion about things. Even in casual encounters, I tried to see things through their eyes.

I did it everywhere I went. It was a little less obvious than walking around with a thermometer in my mouth, but no less obsessive. Surprisingly, it seemed to be having an effect on me. Maybe it was causing a change in the tone of my own voice or the look on my face. Something seemed to be changing, because the behavior of other people was becoming different.

One day, I hailed a taxi at Columbus Circle. The cab pulled up and the driver rolled down the passenger window and called out to me, “Where are you going?” When drivers ask you this before you get in the cab, it means they won’t take the fare unless they like where you’re going. This is against the law. I drove a cab for a while in my twenties and I know how annoying it can be to have to drive to far flung places–I once had to dig my cab out of a snow bank in the Bronx at two in the morning–but I went where the passengers wanted to go, because I knew I had to. When I get asked this question now, my usual response is not to identify compassionately with the driver, but to stoke the fire under my boiling blood. I went, pal, and so can you! is roughly my thought and I walk away without negotiating.

But this time, I looked him in the eye. I saw no hostility. It’s the end of his shift, I thought. He wants to get home. Suddenly, I was all empathized up. I gave him the address, and he let me get in the car. I was surprised I didn’t feel my usual resentment at having to audition for a cab ride, but then he said: “What’s the cross street?” This was another flash point. I’ve never been there before, I thought. How am I supposed to know the cross street!? Isn’t that sort of your job?
Ordinarily, I would start boiling again. Instead, I took out my iPhone and opened a map. “I’m looking it up for you,” I said. We were getting to be real team mates.

“Thank you,” he said. “I’m trying to get to a bathroom. I needed to go for the last half hour.”

“So, look,” I said, “Just drop me at 86th and Broadway. I’ll walk the rest of the way.”

“No. No,” he said. “You’re a kind person. People get in this cab, they don’t care about other people. I’m taking you where you’re going.”

“No, look,” I say, “It’s all right. It’s only a couple of blocks.”

Now, we were in an ecstasy of cooperation.

“Don’t make the turn here,” I say, “you’ll have to go four blocks out of your way. You’ll waste five minutes.”

“NO! You’re a nice person. I’m taking you to the door.”

I couldn’t stop him. This man was sacrificing his bladder for me. I wished I’d never started the whole thing.

I stopped practicing empathy for a while; it was exhausting. But I couldn’t stay away for long. I started in again, with a slight shift. I began to look at people’s faces not only to guess what they were feeling, but to actually name it. I would mentally attach a word to what I thought was their emotion. Labeling it meant that I wasn’t just observing them; I was making a conscious effort to settle on the exact word that described what I saw. This had an interesting effect on me. First, I felt I was listening more intently to what they were saying, even if earlier I had found them somewhat boring. And secondly, I would feel a sense of comfort, almost a sense of peace, come over me. It seemed a little bizarre, but so far it wasn’t causing people to sacrifice their organs for me.

The feeling of peace was probably just a sense of relaxation.

Whatever it was, naming other people’s emotions seemed to help me focus on them more and it made talking to them more pleasant. I had no idea, of course, if other people who tried this would have the same experience, or if it was true that I was building up some empathy. Someone would have to do a study on it to find out. But I didn’t expect anyone to devote research time to studying such a cockeyed idea. On the other hand...

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Publisher ‏ : ‎ Random House Trade Paperbacks; Reprint edition (March 6, 2018)
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Rhonda Rogers

A Rare Way to Communicate

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I'm writing this review on February 29th, Rare Disease Day. As part of my celebration, as a person with a rare disease (Myositis), I read this book because I can so relate to the title. After being misdiagnosed for 12 years (and yes, I had a stunned look the first time), I looked even more shocked/bewildered I'm sure, when it turns out I had something entirely different. Similar, yet very different.

Since my first diagnosis, I made it my mission to attend the University of Google, and learn everything about polymyositis. In fact, I had a doctorate that disease. But after finding out I had inclusion body myositis (IBM, same disease Peter Frampton has), I got a second doctorate in that.

I talk to a lot of people about my disease--and a lot of people talk to me about it. Many people speak my language--but I read papers, and sit in seminars and lectures where sometimes, the medical types and researchers wander off in to folded proteins, and T-cells, and KLRK1 antibodies, and well, I'm lost.

And god forbid I try to tell any other type of doctor about myositis! They are a doctor, they know everything about me, even though I just met them three minutes ago (as happened in an EXTREMELY unfortunate ER encounter), and they had to google Myositis. They decided my chief complaint was something they could fix, even though I knew my incurable, untreatable medical condition did not have the label they had assigned to me. No one listened to me, with my doctorate of 17 years living with the disease. What did I know, there was no MD after my name.

To get back to Alda's book, wow, is this needed in the scientific and medical community. It is difficult to explain and communicate a lot of very complex information. Challenging. Hard. I wish many more in the vital area of research and the medical field would take some type of training, or embrace the concepts outlined in the book. I so enjoyed the stories that accompanied the examples. They just hit the mark in terms of true, often poignant and humorous ways, that we all think we speak the same language--but we don't.

Read this book, for knowledge, for use, for entertainment. Maybe next time you have a heart to heart with your doctor, he or she won't sound like Charlie Brown's teacher--wah wah, wah-wah's, wah wah...and if they do, have the courage to stop them. Communication does go both ways.

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A fantastic read and voyage through the ocean of communication

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This was a wonderful book full of meaningful stories and examples about successful communication. I learned a lot and plan to utilize these skills as I communicate with friends and strangers. Thank you, Alan.

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Lee Rush

Thoughtful and humorous. Just like the author.

Reviewed in the United States on January 28, 2020

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Alda has a way of coming into our lives and leaving a mark. And this book is no exception. Filled with autobiographical ruminations, he teaches us about science and ourselves in a way that no other author can replicate. He makes us ponder our interactions, and consider better and stronger ways to connect and communicate with our coworkers, our friends, and our loved ones.

He, and this book, are a treasure and a delight.

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Worth a read as all of us should work on communication

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I’ve always been a fan of Alan Alda (circa: M*A*S*H), and also his narrating and interviewing in various documentaries. He has a wonderful speaking voice and is the consummate professional actor. I was curious about this book and have enjoyed reading his studies and reseRch in human behavior and why so many of us are inept at getting our point across. I occasionally got bored with some of the research and would switch to another book such as a novel but I kept this book by my bedside and finished it fairly quickly - especially on days when I would be out and run into people who just plain never learned how to communicate and what should be communicated vs. what needs to be left unsaid (aka: social media users). I would come back to this book and try to underscore certain concepts that we all should really be taught in school. I grew up with a father who was an excellent hardware salesman and he had a knack for what to say, when to say it, and his to say it. Dad was a big “Dale Carnegie, “How to Wkn Friends and Influence People,” fan, and it truly worked for him as people loved my dad. He put Dale Carnegie’s lessons in front of all three of his kids. I’ve often wondered why public schools don’t include these time-honored concepts in as graduation requirements. Not all kids are cut out for STEM (Science, Technology, Engjneering & Math) but EVERYONE will have to deal with people for the rest of their lives. Alan Alda has captured many of these points in this book with his graceful and often humorous prose.

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It's not horrible, but not worth adding to my library

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It was "eh". There were parts I loved, but a TON of repetition and quite a bit of rambling about personal feelings. I was determined to make it to the end (and I did), but I was on (audible) 2+ by the end of the book because I was getting bored. It's not that long a book... It's not a book I would ever read again, I did regret buying it instead of checking it out from the library.

If you like Alan Alda, it will probably be a fun read for you. The one good thing I got out of it was the use of improv to improve communication and reception skills so it's not 100% without merit.

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Engaging, Inspiring and Accessible

Reviewed in the United States on July 22, 2023

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As a scientist, former college professor, former corporate leader turned leadership coach for introverts, and student of improv, this is a wonderful book. I devoured Alda's first two memoirs and thoroughly enjoy his stories. If I Understood You, Would I Have This Look on My Face is engaging, inspiring and accessible. I understand how easy it is to slip into jargon with your colleagues and how destructive that can be when the audience isn't indoctrinated in your field of study. Alda shares wonderful examples of early "experiments" to see how improv impacts students, scientists, and doctors which make you want EVERYONE to have this training.

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Christina Hagestad

Wonderful book about communication, good for teachers

Reviewed in the United States on March 20, 2024

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This was a LIFE CHANGING book as a teacher on communication, relationships and has great ideas for the classroom.

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Inspirador e didático

Reviewed in Brazil on September 1, 2023

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Gostei:
Leitura rápida e fácil, com palavras compreensíveis. Altamente didático e aplicável, ao fim do primeiro capítulo já surgiram ideias de como praticar os conhecimentos no dia a dia. É muito divertido e tem histórias ao mesmo tempo curiosas e emocionantes.

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Qualquer pessoa que queira melhorar suas habilidades de comunicação e de construção de relacionamentos.

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bryan g.

Enlightening!

Reviewed in Canada on November 22, 2021

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Alan Alda is a true one of a kind. I love the way his mind works. He not only asks great questions, his dogged determination to find and communicate answers to those questions makes this book well worth the time. A very enjoyable book.

Arun Prasad

Great book

Reviewed in India on September 3, 2023

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Great insight to mirror the other person, be open to where the discussion can go, focus on the non verbal clues, tell a story to drive home your point better, explain like you explain to a 5 year old for maximum impact, the emotion in the story connects better and then bring in the facts, beware of the curse of knowledge trap.

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Buen servicio

Reviewed in Spain on February 22, 2019

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boudicca

Great book. Highly recommended

Reviewed in the United Kingdom on September 29, 2018

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Completely loved this book. Read it virtually in one sitting.

He writes extremely well - well you’d have to if you're writing a book about communication - so he walks the talk. He has some wonderful thought provoking ideas, backed up by research, about the value and the dangers of empathy. He is someone who isn’t just endlessly curious about people but has actually done some exciting work to try and support scientists and disseminate their ideas.

I intend to try out some of his ideas like trying to guess what strangers are feeling and naming their emotions. Given that I tried the mind reading test and only got 25 out of 36, I have room for improvement.

Oh and he’s on my list for an invite to my dream dinner party.

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