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Unfu*k Yourself: Get Out of Your Head and into Your Life (Unfu*k Yourself series) Hardcover – August 1, 2017
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“If you like your self-help without any BS, look to Gary John Bishop’s Unfu*k Yourself, [which] aims to help readers who feel f*cked up work through their challenges. You’ll get advice and tools to combat negative self-talk and feel more empowered.” -- Bustle
“Meet Gary John Bishop, the straight-talking Glaswegian taking the self-help world by storm.” -- Sunday Herald
“This no-nonsense guide will help you shut up that hateful inner critic and get you feeling more positive about yourself and your life.” -- Women’s Health
“Packed with valuable words that encourage you to abandon self-doubt and fear so you can finally live your best life.” -- Buzzfeed
“At one point or another, we’ve all been guilty of getting too in-our-heads about something…. A no-frills look at overcoming anxiety… guides you through getting out of negative self-talk and into your best self.” -- Refinery 29
“Sometimes we all need a little help moving forward and often the most significant barrier to success is our minds. [Bishop] shares tools and advice you need to demolish the baggage weighing you down.” -- Lexington Herald Leader
“Putting Unfu*k Yourself in the self-help category is selling it short. Instead, it belongs in the self-help/motivation/comedy/ inspiration/oh-man-I-do-that-BS-all-the-time/personal-and-professional-development section of the bookstore.” -- The Manual
From the Back Cover
Wake up. You’re a fu*king miracle of being.
What’s standing in the way of you living your best life? Most people would reference things like relationships with other people, money, their job, or unfortunate circumstances. None of these explanations make any difference. Through decades of working with people as a personal development coach, Gary John Bishop has discovered that the barrier is one thing only: you. If you’re easily offended, stop reading now. This isn’t the book for you.
But if you’re looking for a book that gives you the power to find everything you ever wanted residing within you like a well of potential, waiting to be expressed, you’re in luck. Unfu*k Yourself is the handbook for the resigned and defeated, a manifesto for real life change and unleashing your own greatness.
- Publisher : HarperOne; Nineteenth Printing edition (August 1, 2017)
- Language : English
- Hardcover : 224 pages
- ISBN-10 : 0062803832
- ISBN-13 : 978-0062803832
- Item Weight : 9.6 ounces
- Dimensions : 5.3 x 0.8 x 8.2 inches
- Best Sellers Rank: #493 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
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One of my biggest gripes with this text is that Gary seems to contradict himself throughout it and complicates his overall message. He is adamant that this is not another self-help book that focuses on positive thinking; however, it is one of the first concepts he introduces. In sum, he teaches that assertive language affects emotions, feelings, and ultimately decision making and that one should engage in healthy inner dialogue. He also later bashes the quote, "Change your thoughts, change your life," calling it bullsh*t. Where he is attempting to go with this is to say that actions speak louder than words and no matter what you think, unless you take action, your life will not change.
Okay, this is fine but he took a six-word quote and said it was invalid over the course of ~200 pages. The problem is that he views ideas singularly and criticizes them in isolation; however, if you took any one of his chapters singularly, it would contradict his overall philosophy. For instance, positive self-talk is useless without his later instructions on asserting and acting on them. Overall, I think the overt criticism of other ideas throughout the text followed up with very similar approaches hurt the message Gary was trying to send to his readers. You may find yourself confused or frustrated without having a deeper understanding of some of the philosophies on which Gary touches. In the end, Gary pulls it together but it may take a while to see the differences he is attempting to portray--the book could have been more concise and focused.
Another gripe would be that on page 21 he tells you that if you are easily offended not to read his book and to give it away immediately. The very next page he claims, "I have designed this book to be as accessible and useful to as many people as possible." Really, is anyone proof-reading this thing? Look, if you're going to be a self-help coach how can you tell the people who may need to hear your words the most, to shove off? This move was very Nietzsche-esque in that he believed he was a writer for everyone and yet no one at the same time. But Nietzsche was writing critical philosophy and engaging his own ideas--he wasn't writing it for them and that's why he didn't care if anyone read what he wrote. Gary, is writing for the people who he believes need help--that is his profession. So why scare away people who need the help?
TLDR: This book is a bit all over the place but does come together in a way that you will be able to understand by the end. If you are not well versed in philosophy and psychology, give it a go as it won't cost you an arm and a leg or too much of your time. Gary, I think you're doing good work but would encourage you to collaborate with some colleagues on condensing your thesis. I would also advise you to encourage your readers/clients while staying true to your no-bullsh*t approach as these do not have to be mutually exclusive.
I guarantee- 5 minutes is all you'll need. Read the introduction- a cheerleader-style embracing of your self-improvement self (cue the first over done analogy of a hamster on a wheel in the very first sentence, after the dedication citing a down on one's luck rise from nothing). Flip through the first few pages of each chapter, skimming as you go and noting the catch phrases in XXL font. By the end, you'll just be skimming these catch phrases and chapter headings. And then you'll feel disappointed and kind of gross for wasting 5 minutes doing that. And sad and lame for being the guy who got conned buying this book in the first place.
This book isn't just a paint-by-numbers self help book- it's a caricature of that style of literature. It's an SNL skit about how to motivate yourself by positive self talk and accepting nothing less than what you deserve. It's a guy who wrote a book in a few days using a formula for what appeals to a particular demographic and then adding filler pages of giant font screaming the same trite phrases already covered by the chapters. Seriously, you could just read the chapter headings and page-sized font and get the whole message.
The best thing about this book is the cover, which is expertly designed to look radical and edgy. And which disguises the purely inane "hang in there" kitten poster kind of fluff that I suspect will actually make people feel worse for having read it (positive reviews are baffling, and concerning at a core level). Don't make this guy the next positive-thinking, bullshit author, DIY your life guru by buying in. There are other books (really, pretty much any other book) on the subject worth your time, money, and fluff tolerance. The book (and author) may not be a scam; maybe it is all well intentioned fluff to motivate the masses. And if it actually does- excellent. But it looks an emotional Ponzi scheme wrapped in the newest shiny cover.
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As a single mother of two young daughters I need to be the best possible to show them how to grow and be successful strong women; therefore needed to practice what I preached. I searched on the internet and 'UNFUCK YOURSELF' court my eye.
Since the book was delivered I havent out it down - it really captured my attention and got me thinking like nothing ever before, during and since reading Gary Bishops book I have been a regular at the local GYM using the gym and pool daily, havent had a drink or even a cigarette, and have been motivated in all areas of my life.
Morning now feel like a breeze; those small tasks before getting the kiddies to school no longer feel like long detestable chores, house work has become enjoyable! Yeah you heard ENJOYABLE! and I am currently rewriting my CV and covering letter to go out there and find myself a ew job to get saving for that holiday, wherever it may be.
I just want to say a massive THANKYOU to Gary Bishop for giving me a massive kick up my self dwelling ass and teaching me how to get out of my glorious thoughts and on to the actual reality I now call life :)
Now off to my first pole dancing lesson!