- Paperback: 304 pages
- Publisher: Celestial Arts (April 1, 2007)
- Language: English
- ISBN-10: 1587612909
- ISBN-13: 978-1587612909
- Product Dimensions: 7.5 x 0.8 x 9 inches
- Shipping Weight: 1.2 pounds
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Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-First Century Paperback – April 1, 2007
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This handy how-to promises mind-blowing, toe-curling, highly spiritual sex for humble beginners, BDSM aficionados and everyone in between. Sex educator Carrellas is on a mission to bring Tantra-the ancient practice of sacred sex, in which interpersonal connection and transformative ecstasy are the norm-to the modern world, to reclaim sex from "messed-up, sexually-dysfunctional, judgmental, and ignorant culture," and to shift the urban sex paradigm from recreational activity to a sumptuous, impassioned way of life. Not that one necessarily needs that kind of ambition: Carrellas offers ways to enhance any old sexual encounter (with techniques like breathing, stroking, prodding and piercing), techniques for solo play and countless uses for a trunk full of toys. Same sex, transgender, and multi-partner play is encouraged (if not highly recommended), and the text is peppered with illuminating, try-this-at-home anecdotes. Pictures and diagrams are whimsical but instructive, making Carrellas's cheerful descriptions of unusual concepts-"gigglegasms," "rainbow rubs" and "the mushy puss" among them-easy to grasp. A final chapter, on "Sex Magic," examines the power of Tantra to achieve a number of effects, from backpain relief to a happier office to world peace; however far you'd like to take your sex life, this friendly guide will likely show the way.
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"This is honestly the best book written on Tantra, period."-Playgirl"Few books on Tantra are truly brilliant. Barbara Carrellas has written of Urban Tantra in a way that warms my heart . . . honest, clear, human and insightful. I am laughing and loving Tantra all over again."-Caroline Muir, co-author, Tantra, The Art of Conscious Loving"Sex educator Carrellas takes tantra out of the exclusive domain of white New Age heterosexuals and makes a compelling-and hot, and damp-argument that tantra is for all of us. Her frank how-to offers suggestions for incorporating tantric principles into queer couplings, with a healthy respect for putting sex back at the center of our lives."-Out magazine"URBAN TANTRA gives me hope that the world will become a more sexually satisfied, ecstatic, enlightened, and inclusive place."-Annie Sprinkle, PhD, from the foreword"URBAN TANTRA is the most pleasurable, fun, meaningful, and liberating book on sex ever! Thank you, Barbara!"-Christiane Northrup, MD, author of Women's Bodies, Women's Wisdom "At last, a sex book with a sense of humor, and one that dispels the notion that sex is always, only and forever, between one man and one woman. I can'Ât wait to see generations grow up with the study and use of URBAN TANTRA!"-Kate Bornstein, author of Gender Outlaw and Hello, Cruel World"Any book on Tantra that begins by describing a professional lap dance as a divine sexual experience is one I will definitely read. Written with wit and humor, Barbara's URBAN TANTRA keeps sex real, and, best of all, the rituals are fun."-Betty Dodson, PhD, author of Sex for One and Orgasms for Two"If you ever thought Tantra wasn't for you-too foreign or gimmicky or New Agey, or not edgy enough for your radical sex explorations-Barbara Carrellas will cure you of all misconceptions and bring you an Urban Tantra to unite your sex, your spirit, your erotic wanderlust, your edge."-Carol Queen, author of Real Live Nude Girl and director of the Center for Sex & Culture, San Francisco"URBAN TANTRA offers a daring, delicious, profound, courageous, and altogether magical celebration that will teach us all to dance to the rhythms of the universe. Barbara Carrellas has written the ultimate how-to book uniting sex with spirit, healing with philosophy, and the animating force of the cosmos with each and every one of us. So if you'd like to live your sex life on a galactic scale, you must read this book!"-Dossie Easton, coauthor of The Ethical Slut"Everyone needs to rejoice in their own sexuality, and Barbara shows us how in this very informative, easy-to-use book. It would be nice to practice Tantra in a lovely remote garden or high atop a mountain, but the reality is that in today's world many of us don't have that luxury. Barbara demonstrates that it doesn't matter where you practice, as long as you'Âre conscious when you do. Now, let go and enjoy Urban Tantra."-Louise Hay, author of You Can Heal Your Life and Empowering Women"URBAN TANTRA is a courageous book by Barbara Carrellas, one of the pioneers in contemporary American Tantra. This engaging and comprehensive guide includes numerous powerful exercises as well as moving personal anecdotes that reveal how the conscious exploration and embrace of sexuality can function as a tool for transformation."-Mark A. Michaels (Swami Umeshanand Saraswati) and Patricia Johnson (Devi Veenanand), authors of The Essence of Tantric Sexuality"Barbara Carrellas, whose Urban Tantric sex workshops combine Eastern sex techniques with the postmodern methods of SM practitioners, is a trailblazer."-Tristan Taormino, The Village Voice
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I personally love the book and it is changing my life on a really quick pace. She is truly a beautiful woman, who's message to the people does mainly one thing - she's trying to open people's mind to let go of the old ways we perceive sexuality and face it the way it truly is, the way it runs naturally in the depths of our DNA. She tried to help the human psyche let go in the moment, live fully in it. If you are into spirituality, if you familiarize with Buddhism, hinduism, Taoism, and are exploring deeper into the world of love and interconnection of all there is, look no further, because Tantra guides you the way to it through ecstasy, through the vessels of your own body. Barbara is the perfect projectionist/translator of the ancient Asian philosophy to the Western masses of the 21 Century. If you are open minded or are curious in exploring deeper into your psyche and soul through you body. Buy It now!!! I'd pay 100$ for this book. After successfully having the craziest orgasm I've ever had from merely breathing (from the second try ever), I can't stop but rave about this book and the author endlessly. I want everyone to truly experience ecstasy at its best.
Thank You Barbara. Can't wait for your workshop in New York in the Winter.
Barbara Carrellas is one who understands this only too well. And has written a book that transfers Tantra into a Western cultural context without betraying its original countercultural attitude, without reducing it to a soporific way to get your typical hets happier in their ideologically-correct married bliss.
Yes, Tantra is countercultural to begin with. Can you imagine in caste-ridden Hinduism, claiming that when the one goes to the many and not vice-versa, this is good? Like making religion democratic, making the sacred run its erotic energy into the fabric of life as it is! Woooooooooow! That's heretical, the Pope would say if he were a Hindu guru!
And that's why Carrellas is so skillful and successful too in showing what Tantra can do for all the queers, the bis, the gender-queers, the singles, the polys, the BDSM people who also seek sex as a way to access the sacred and not quite sure how to get there yet.
To use a metaphor from the theater, one might say that her adaptation of Tantra to the urban landscapes of our post-modern world is what Brecht would have called 'political theater.' A period piece is a show where all the characteristics of the original setting are reproduced seamlessly, yet the essence of what's relevant about the piece to the new viewers can be lost in the process, and often is. A Brechtian adaptation re-situates the piece in the experiential present of those who view it. This process of re-situation the real re-vitalizes the piece with what's relevant to them. As in, for example, a Romeo and Juliet where we see a picture perfect Medieval Balcony Scene, and a West Side Story adaptation where we see the ethnic strife that crushes their passion in.
And the most interesting part is that Carrellas's book doesn't even try to engage the terrain of critical theory, or even be literary. It is just presented as a manual (a very effective one at that) of orgasmic breathing techniques for those who wish to put their sexual energy to good use for a more balanced, more holistic and healthier way to be related to our surroundings and those who accompany us in life's journeys. That's where the deconstruction of what we take for granted begins. For example, in teaching Erotic Awakening Massage techniques, she refuses to divide humans as 'men' and 'women,' and opts for the neologisms 'persons with penises,' and 'persons with pussies' I have also adopted in the opening of this. This deconstruction aligned with practical teaching is exactly what we need.
It is very important to re-sacralize all forms and agents of erotic expression in our age if we want to muster the creativity, the respect, and the sensitivity to the needs of the ecosystems we are embedded with and without whose generous hosting we can easily become just another extinct species. Tantra is just a way to bring ritual, spirit (in the Romnance language sense of air/breath/soul), ceremony, and magic into the way we choose to actualize the already always existing relatedness that runs among all of the living. Obviously, bis, polys, queers, gender-queers, BDSMs, swingers, and people in other practices and communities are integral parts of today's erotic landscapes. Urban Tantra embraces the complexity, the diversity of this landscape, and presents tantra as a pervasive element of it, with practices that emphasize the ritualistic aspects of eroticism with its elements of balance, safety, kindness, beauty, peace, sacredness, and community. When we get to Tantra as a countercultural tradition, we can't be too surprised that it applies so well to practices of love that emphasize participation and inclusiveness.
Thanks Barbara, for this. My practice of Tantra arose spontaneously from being sexual with consciously loving out-of-the-box people. But I always asked myself, 'is this queer enough for me?' Now I can learn Tantra formally (maybe in one of your workshops) without feeling at risk of being 'cured.' As you revisit the past to invent a new future, you create a Tantra that is post-modern and pre-modern too!
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I say all this as background to the fact that the book Urban Tantra was, in reality, my first tantric-related book. Urban Tantra demystified tantra, made tantra simple, approachable and palatable. After Urban Tantra, tantra was no longer woo-woo scary to me.
Published in 2007, Urban Tantra contains five parts, with the introduction addressing ten myths about tantra, and what tantra is anyway.
• Part one covered the basic of tantra including the chakras;
• Part two explained tantra for one;
• Part three went into tantra for two including erotic awakening massage
• Part four delved into tantra for the adventurous addressing other possibilities
• Part five revealed the dimension of sex magic in tantra.
It was also from this book that I had my biggest (and long overdue) epiphany. I separated my interests all things spiritual and sexual into two big boxes. I didn’t see the link between the two until Urban Tantra – sexual energy is energy, and sexual energy can be used for healing just like reiki energy (of which I am a Reiki Master).
I’ve heard from some clients how they found Urban Tantra to be useful to them. This book continues to be my number one book I recommend when it comes to all things tantra.