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Victims No Longer: The Classic Guide for Men Recovering from Sexual Child Abuse Paperback – May 11, 2004
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“Victims No Longer will remain for years to come the original resource manual for adult male survivors.” (Hank Estrada, P.L.E.A, the National Organization for Male Survivors)
“We finally have a book which can offer men support on their journey towards recovery and healing.” (Dan Sexton, Survivors of Child Abuse Program of Childhelp USA)
“Male victims carry a particular burden of shame. Victims No Longer helps to lift the burden.” (Judith Herman, M.D., author of Father-Daughter Incest)
“The most important resource for men healing from past sexual abuse. Comprehensive, compassionate and clear, it offers hope.... (Wendy Maltz, author of The Sexual Healing Journey)
“Passionate and compassionate , both speaking out on behalf of male victims and illuminating a number of pathways toward healing.” (David Fineklhor, Director, Crimes Against Children Research Center, University of New Hampshire)
“Accessible, moving, and validating... a beacon of hope for sexually abused men and their loved ones..” (Richard Gartner, Ph.D., author of Betrayed as Boys)
“As an Episcopal priest...I depend upon Mike Lew’s insights in my daily work.” (The Reverend Anne C. Fowler, Rector, St. John's Episcopal Church, MA)
“A touchstone of gtuidance, hope and understanding that helps therapists, survivors and their loved ones.” (-Ernesto Mujica, Ph.D.)
“Victims No Longer sits on my desk as a reference guide for both myself and my clients.” (Vicki Polin, M.A., ATR, LCPC, Director and Founder, The Awareness Center)
“The first book I recommend to new clients.” (Howard Fradkin, Ph.D., Male Survivor Retreat Chairperson)
About the Author
Mike Lew, M.Ed., a psychotherapist and group therapy leader, is co-director of The Next Step Counseling and Training Center in Newton Centre, MA. He provides public lectures, professional trainings, and workshops for survivors nationwide, and he has appeared on "The Oprah Winfrey Show," "Sally Jessy Raphael," and many other television and radio programs.
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This is a not a book that you read straight through in 1 sitting or even over a short period of time. There are some very powerful, moving, sad, and inspiring stories that can absolutely cause trigger events for some. I can relate to many of the people who share their stories, as well as being able to relate to the events that Mike references.
Overall, I found it incredibly enlightening and full of encouragement and useful information for the adult male survivor of childhood sexual abuse. There just are not that many resources readily available that are geared towards males who have suffered this type of abuse, so I'm grateful to Mike for writing this and helping me learn and understand more of what happened, and what options there are for healing and how to go about them.
It took me about a month to read it, getting through a chapter or two at a time usually.
Unfortunately, the preface, introduction and first section of the book are of little interest, and most of the second is a feminist critique of masculinity that would be right at home in a modern university setting but is unhelpful or even a little offensive to those of us who have already had our masculinity attacked in the most personal way possible.
There is a "media analysis" of masculine stereotypes that makes you wonder if the author has owned a TV set in the last 30 years. The Marlboro man was replaced by dimwitted sitcom dads long ago, and if anybody knocks someone out in a fight these days on TV it will be a beautiful but impossibly strong woman cold-cocking a huge but moronic man. There is the "gender is cultural" trope that is supposed to encourage us to embrace our feminine sides. Not now, thanks. Maybe not ever. And there is the chapter, "Our Debt to the Women's Movement" just in case the point was not driven home sufficiently.
My advice to anyone who is not an ardent feminist is simply to start on page 40, where most of the political correctitude is replaced with genuine insight and helpful advice. It will avoid getting a bad start.