- Series: Resources for Changing Lives
- Paperback: 256 pages
- Publisher: P & R Publishing (January 1, 2001)
- Language: English
- ISBN-10: 0875526047
- ISBN-13: 978-0875526041
- Product Dimensions: 5.5 x 0.8 x 8.5 inches
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- Average Customer Review: 127 customer reviews
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War of Words: Getting to the Heart of Your Communication Struggles (Resources for Changing Lives) Paperback – January 1, 2001
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An important and biblical book about our words and our God. Few of us really think about the power, the blessing, the gift, the effect, and the danger of our words. This book will make you think before you speak. Best of all, it will make you think of him before you speak.
"An important and biblical book about our words and our God. Few of us really think about the power, the blessing, the gift, the effect, and the danger of our words. This book will make you think before you speak. Best of all, it will make you think of him before you speak. Read it. You'll be glad." --Steve Brown
"Filled with searching and realistic and honest illustrations . . . coupled with large doses of biblical truth. . . . you will be challenged, convicted, enlightened, and encouraged in this extremely important dimension of your relationship with God and with other people. . . . a volume to which you will turn again and again." --Wayne A. Mack
"Paul Tripp does not offer superficial solutions to our failures of communication. He recognizes that the spiritual quality of our words emanates from our hearts. This book is must reading for us all." --Tremper Longman III
About the Author
Paul Tripp is president of Paul Tripp Ministries, the Professor of Pastoral Life and Care at Redeemer Seminary in Dallas, Texas, the Executive Director of the Center for Pastoral Life and Care in Fort Worth, Texas, and has taught at respected institutions worldwide. As an author, Paul has written ten books on Christian living that are read and distributed internationally. He has been married for many years to Luella, and they have four grown children.
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Tripp begins the book by reminding readers that God is the one who has given man the privilege of words. The ability to communicate on a complicated level is one of the things that separates humanity from the rest of God’s creation. Man has always had trouble being a good steward of this gift that God has graciously given. Since this is true, it should motivate all Christian readers to pray for change and listen closely to God’s advice on the matter. The Bible offers a great deal of practical truth and help for communication; Tripp has a special ability to make it even more practical by offering a list of suggestions in nearly every chapter.
War of Words is not a very long book, and Tripp is a prolific writer. His experience in writing and counseling qualifies him to write such a book. Although at times, it seems that maybe Mrs. Tripp would have been more qualified (smile now); as Paul demonstrates transparency it is clear that his wife is the better communicator, and she often helps him. Paul’s transparency gave credit to the book. He shares his own personal experience which always included repentance and the sanctifying work of God. In the introduction to the book Tripp did share his own weakness of communicating poorly. I always appreciate the transparency and humility of the author. Whenever I review books I like to include how I have been most moved by God, the author, and the content.
Tripp breaks the book up into three sections, Talk is Not Cheap, A New Agenda for Our Talk, and Winning the War of Words. In the first section Tripp examined the source of words, the first use of deceiving words, and the Solution for idol words. The second section, Tripp examined the Solution, which is Christ. Christ is the reason for necessary change, and He is the one who enables change. As his ambassadors Christians must take the war of words seriously. Tripp explains the war to readers, and he has explained the reason for fighting this war, but in the third section he explains how to fight in the war of words.
From time to time Tripp revealed his reformed persuasion. While this was not necessarily a weakness, it was a distraction. Perhaps it is a weakness for this reader; whenever reformed philosophy appears in writing it always leads to a slight unrest. Despite the slight distraction the book was very helpful and inspirational. Nearly half way through the book Tripp discussed the biblical truth that Christians are ambassadors of God. This is not a new concept, but this portion of the book was a good reminder that Christians also represent God with words, and thoughts, not only actions.
One of the most influential parts of the book was chapter ten, On the Kings Mission. Tripp shares a scenario of a real situation involving a disappointed father as he discovers that his son has been involved in sinful communication. The point of the chapter was this, it is important to communicate and correct in a redemptive way. God gives people opportunities to participate in the lives of others; these opportunities can include conversation, influence or correction; ultimately, this a continuation of ambassador status.
Participating in the lives of others is a task that is neither small nor unimportant. The last mentioned truths should compel Christians to immediately examine themselves in the area of communication. Tripp writes the book from a reformed perspective, but any reader, deterministic or libertarian should be able to appreciate the way that Tripp makes Christ central in the communication process by suggesting redemptive communication.
As Christians face challenging conversation, people, and corrective situations they must approach all with the thought of redemption. God is involved in the lives of all His children, and he is using other Christians in this sanctification process. It would be wonderful if every Christian would approach others with a redemptive agenda, rather than being selfish. It would be wonderful if every Christian that faced correction from another, responded with humility. Since God’s plan in everyone’s life is not clear, it is best to approach communication redemptively. Given the privilege to communicate to others, it would only make sense to communicate in a way that brings out the best in people. Even faced with negativity and selfish communication a Christian should be able to recognize that God is working to bring out the best in every Christian. Since this is true, it should be the goal in the life of each Christian to do likewise.
Near the conclusion of the book Tripp shares a four step method of repentance. The first step, is consideration; each Christian must realize that they often see the shortcomings of others, but rarely see their own faults. The Christian must examine himself or herself regularly by looking in the mirror of God’s Word. The second step is confessing; each Christian must confess their sin of communication, but also realize that our sinful hearts are responsible for the words used. Tripp states, “we cannot confess sins of communication without confessing the sinful attitudes that have shaped our words.” The third step is commitment, and requires each Christian to prepare for success in the war of words. The fourth step is change, and this is what God wants for each Christian, a change of heart that leads to a change in communication.
The War of Words is unlike other books on communication. A reader will not discover any new communication techniques or methods. However, the reader will find old truths from God’s Word that remind readers about the importance of godly communication. Tripp wrote the book in such transparency that most readers will be able to identify with him and his communication struggles. He also discussed the faults of others, the scenarios presented are also relative to readers because most people struggle with communication. The most thoughtful point made in the book was the importance to communicate redemptively. One cannot always see God’s involvement in the life of others, however, it would be best for each Christian to be aware of God’s involvement and with such awareness appreciate the privilege of also being involved. What a joy to know that each Christian can partner with God to be a help in the lives of others. God uses other Christians and their words to encourage, exhort, edify, and graciously correct, all for the purpose of biblical change.
In this book, Paul David Tripp does not write about the mere mechanics of Christ-like communications, but about the very core of our communication struggles. That is, our self-centeredness instead of God-centeredness.
The Holy Spirit used this book to convicted me more than any other Christian writing I have ever previously read. If you are truly interested in becoming more Christ-like, read this book. You will rejoice that you did.