It’s been a long time since a novel made me weep. Washing the Dead by Michelle Brafman was that novel.
Washing the Dead is a Jewish mother-daughter story. And a Jewish grandmother-mother-daughter trilogy. The heart of the story is Barbara Pupnick Blumfeld, a suburban mother who grew up an integral part of a small Orthodox synagogue in the Midwest. The novel shifts back and forth between the present and the past, reaching back into Barbara’s idyllic childhood. Her best friend is the rabbi’s daughter, her mother is one of the congregation’s most involved members and the young Barbara Pupnick is confident about her place in the world.
Barbara’s life implodes when her mother’s affair with a non-Jewish employee of the synagogue becomes common knowledge in their tight-knit community. Reeling, Barbara leaves Orthodoxy, leaves her Milwaukee home and begins to piece together a future without her community. Barbara’s relationship with her elusive mother June, whose presence in Barbara’s life waxes and wanes, is the knotty quandary that gradually disentangles in this beautifully crafted novel.
Although Barbara is not religiously observant in her adult life, elements of Orthodox life are woven through the novel. Decades after the breach with her Orthodox past, the Rebbetzin (rabbi’s wife) of her childhood beckons Barbara back to the community to participate in the tahara, the ritual washing of the body before burial, of a popular and well-loved teacher who inspired her career. This is the first of three washings in Washing the Dead. Each washing brings Barbara closer to uncovering her mother’s secrets and healing the wound that threatens her relationship with her own daughter.
Washing the Dead introduces readers to the Jewish ritual known as tahara, performed prior to burial. A tahara includes respectful cleaning, ritual washing and dressing of the body of the deceased in specially prepared shrouds, called tachrichim. Brafman describes the solemn, prayerful tahara ritual in rich detail in the book’s final chapter.
If you savor stories of family secrets and forgiveness that touch your heart, Washing the Dead by Michelle Brafman is a novel to cherish.
http://jewishvaluescenter.org/jvoblog/washing-the-dead
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About the Author
Michelle Brafman’s award-winning short stories and essays have appeared in the Washington Post, Slate, Tablet, Lilith Magazine, Bethesda Magazine and elsewhere. She teaches fiction writing at the Johns Hopkins University MA in Writing Program and lives in Glen Echo, Maryland with her husband and two children.
Review
Jewish Book Council Spring 2015 Jewish Book Preview” featured title
A fast-paced and compelling debut.” LIBRARY JOURNAL
"A heartfelt story of loss, hope, and reconciliation." BOOKLIST
Brafman’s tale of three generations of women shows that woundednessdamage to mind and soulcan travel down the generations, and that so can kindness, courage and, ultimately, self-healing. . . . [Washing the Dead] succeeds in showing how family history has a way of sneaking up on us from the depths of the past, shaping the present in ways both familiar and unexpected.” Haaretz
" . . . (a) beautifully wrought novel, one in which Brafman examines the inner lives of her characters with the dexterity of a surgeon and the compassion of a saint.” LILITH MAGAZINE
"Striking debut novel . . . poignant." THE JEWISH NEWS WEEKLY
Compelling.” THE NEW YORK JEWISH WEEK
A Washingtonian magazine "Book Washingtonians Should Be Reading"
Preparing the dead for traditional Jewish burial is considered the holiest and most sacred mitzvah that a Jew may perform because there is no way for the dead to repay the act of goodness. . . . In performing this mitzvah [in Washing the Dead], the protagonist cleanses herself of hatreds and misunderstandings that she has been carrying around since her youth.”
Jewish Book Council
Deeply moving. . . . We are eased into an Orthodox Jewish community and a family burdened by secrets as gently as if an old friend were guiding us every step of the way. . . . Washing the Dead is a profoundly hopeful book. I can think of few others that honor ordinary women as simply and as clearly as this one does. Read it to feel how much is possible in the world all around us.”
Best New Fiction
Brafman puts her mother-and-daughter characters through the fire. Yet on the other side, each comes out refined, understanding that the legacy of one’s family requires understanding and true forgiveness, which may be the greatest mitzvah of all.”
New Pages
Intimate, big-hearted, compassionate and clear-eyed, Brafman’s novel turns secrets into truths and the truth into the heart of fiction.” AMY BLOOM, author of Lucky Us and Away
Heartfelt and genuine, Brafman’s Washing the Dead never betrays the complicated truths of family and tradition.” DAVID BEZMOZGIS, author of The Betrayers and Natasha: and Other Stories
From roots in one religious tradition, comes a tale of emotional redemption for all of us. Brafman’s astonishing compassion for all human frailty infuses this story about the need for truth and the promise of forgiveness.” HELEN SIMONSON, author of Major Pettigrew’s Last Stand
Sensual and spiritual, shot with betrayals, Washing the Dead plumbs the destructive power of secrets across three generations of mothers and daughters. In haunting prose, Brafman offers a riveting glimpse into Orthodox and Chasidic life, and breathtaking insight into what it means to forgive.” DYLAN LANDIS, author of Rainey Royal and Normal People Don’t Live Like This
A rich tale of love, friendship, yearning, and forgiveness. Brafman’s beautifully wrought prose quickly cuts to the heart of things: how to live, how to love, and how to care for the dead.” JESSICA ANYA BLAU, author of The Summer of Naked Swim Parties and The Wonder Bread Summer
Like a Jewish Anne Lamott, Brafman reels you in with warmth, depth and heart. Infused with lush detail about Orthodox Jewish life in the Midwest... Brafman has written a charming and original spiritual page-turner about love, forgiveness, and family life.” SUSAN COLL, author of The Stager and Acceptance
Throughout these pages, moving in shadow, runs the terrific responsibility of forgiveness and redemption. . . . Michelle Brafman has done us all a true mitzvah by writing this beautiful book.” ROBERT BAUSCH, author of Far as the Eye Can See and A Hole in the Earth
What a spectacular debut.” T. GREENWOOD, author of The Forever Bridge and Bodies of Water
Brafman offers a fresh, vital narrative about guilt, love, loss, and the necessity of wrestling with the dark angel of a painful family legacy until it blesses you. June Pupnick, one of the most bewitching and problematic fictional mothers I’ve come across in years, makes a regular habit of escaping her life by gobbling up’ novels without chewing.’ Please resist gobbling this novel. Slow down, savor the richness and generosity of Brafman’s storytelling, and then buy a copy for your most deserving friend.” MARGARET MEYERS, author of Dislocation and Swimming in the Congo
With the knife blade of her prose honed razor sharp, Brafman skillfully dissects the bonds of mother-daughter relationships.... She weaves together the sacred and the profane, reverberating silences, exile and return, atonement and forgiveness with the tenderness of a mother braiding the hair of a beloved daughter.” FAYE MOSKOWITZ, author of Her Face in the Mirror and A Leak in the Heart
An illuminating and intricately layered novel about the complicated legacies that pass from mother to daughter, and about the ways that understanding our own history helps make us who we are. Brafman is an insightful writer who never falters or flinches in her quest to uncover the hearts of her characters.” CAROLYN PARKHURST, author of The Nobodies Album and The Dogs of Babel
A riveting and humane account of family pain passed from one generation to the next.... How do we begin to forgive those who injured us? Start by reading Brafman’s unflinching and inspiring novel.” MARY KAY ZURAVLEFF, author of Man Alive!, The Bowl Is Already Broken, and The Frequency of Souls
A fast-paced and compelling debut.” LIBRARY JOURNAL
"A heartfelt story of loss, hope, and reconciliation." BOOKLIST
Brafman’s tale of three generations of women shows that woundednessdamage to mind and soulcan travel down the generations, and that so can kindness, courage and, ultimately, self-healing. . . . [Washing the Dead] succeeds in showing how family history has a way of sneaking up on us from the depths of the past, shaping the present in ways both familiar and unexpected.” Haaretz
" . . . (a) beautifully wrought novel, one in which Brafman examines the inner lives of her characters with the dexterity of a surgeon and the compassion of a saint.” LILITH MAGAZINE
"Striking debut novel . . . poignant." THE JEWISH NEWS WEEKLY
Compelling.” THE NEW YORK JEWISH WEEK
A Washingtonian magazine "Book Washingtonians Should Be Reading"
Preparing the dead for traditional Jewish burial is considered the holiest and most sacred mitzvah that a Jew may perform because there is no way for the dead to repay the act of goodness. . . . In performing this mitzvah [in Washing the Dead], the protagonist cleanses herself of hatreds and misunderstandings that she has been carrying around since her youth.”
Jewish Book Council
Deeply moving. . . . We are eased into an Orthodox Jewish community and a family burdened by secrets as gently as if an old friend were guiding us every step of the way. . . . Washing the Dead is a profoundly hopeful book. I can think of few others that honor ordinary women as simply and as clearly as this one does. Read it to feel how much is possible in the world all around us.”
Best New Fiction
Brafman puts her mother-and-daughter characters through the fire. Yet on the other side, each comes out refined, understanding that the legacy of one’s family requires understanding and true forgiveness, which may be the greatest mitzvah of all.”
New Pages
Intimate, big-hearted, compassionate and clear-eyed, Brafman’s novel turns secrets into truths and the truth into the heart of fiction.” AMY BLOOM, author of Lucky Us and Away
Heartfelt and genuine, Brafman’s Washing the Dead never betrays the complicated truths of family and tradition.” DAVID BEZMOZGIS, author of The Betrayers and Natasha: and Other Stories
From roots in one religious tradition, comes a tale of emotional redemption for all of us. Brafman’s astonishing compassion for all human frailty infuses this story about the need for truth and the promise of forgiveness.” HELEN SIMONSON, author of Major Pettigrew’s Last Stand
Sensual and spiritual, shot with betrayals, Washing the Dead plumbs the destructive power of secrets across three generations of mothers and daughters. In haunting prose, Brafman offers a riveting glimpse into Orthodox and Chasidic life, and breathtaking insight into what it means to forgive.” DYLAN LANDIS, author of Rainey Royal and Normal People Don’t Live Like This
A rich tale of love, friendship, yearning, and forgiveness. Brafman’s beautifully wrought prose quickly cuts to the heart of things: how to live, how to love, and how to care for the dead.” JESSICA ANYA BLAU, author of The Summer of Naked Swim Parties and The Wonder Bread Summer
Like a Jewish Anne Lamott, Brafman reels you in with warmth, depth and heart. Infused with lush detail about Orthodox Jewish life in the Midwest... Brafman has written a charming and original spiritual page-turner about love, forgiveness, and family life.” SUSAN COLL, author of The Stager and Acceptance
Throughout these pages, moving in shadow, runs the terrific responsibility of forgiveness and redemption. . . . Michelle Brafman has done us all a true mitzvah by writing this beautiful book.” ROBERT BAUSCH, author of Far as the Eye Can See and A Hole in the Earth
What a spectacular debut.” T. GREENWOOD, author of The Forever Bridge and Bodies of Water
Brafman offers a fresh, vital narrative about guilt, love, loss, and the necessity of wrestling with the dark angel of a painful family legacy until it blesses you. June Pupnick, one of the most bewitching and problematic fictional mothers I’ve come across in years, makes a regular habit of escaping her life by gobbling up’ novels without chewing.’ Please resist gobbling this novel. Slow down, savor the richness and generosity of Brafman’s storytelling, and then buy a copy for your most deserving friend.” MARGARET MEYERS, author of Dislocation and Swimming in the Congo
With the knife blade of her prose honed razor sharp, Brafman skillfully dissects the bonds of mother-daughter relationships.... She weaves together the sacred and the profane, reverberating silences, exile and return, atonement and forgiveness with the tenderness of a mother braiding the hair of a beloved daughter.” FAYE MOSKOWITZ, author of Her Face in the Mirror and A Leak in the Heart
An illuminating and intricately layered novel about the complicated legacies that pass from mother to daughter, and about the ways that understanding our own history helps make us who we are. Brafman is an insightful writer who never falters or flinches in her quest to uncover the hearts of her characters.” CAROLYN PARKHURST, author of The Nobodies Album and The Dogs of Babel
A riveting and humane account of family pain passed from one generation to the next.... How do we begin to forgive those who injured us? Start by reading Brafman’s unflinching and inspiring novel.” MARY KAY ZURAVLEFF, author of Man Alive!, The Bowl Is Already Broken, and The Frequency of Souls
Jewish Book Council “Spring 2015 Jewish Book Preview” featured title
“A fast-paced and compelling debut.” ― LIBRARY JOURNAL
"A heartfelt story of loss, hope, and reconciliation." ― BOOKLIST
“Brafman’s tale of three generations of women shows that woundedness―damage to mind and soul―can travel down the generations, and that so can kindness, courage and, ultimately, self-healing. . . . [Washing the Dead] succeeds in showing how family history has a way of sneaking up on us from the depths of the past, shaping the present in ways both familiar and unexpected.” ―Haaretz
" . . . (a) beautifully wrought novel, one in which Brafman examines the inner lives of her characters with the dexterity of a surgeon and the compassion of a saint.” ―LILITH MAGAZINE
"Striking debut novel . . . poignant." ―THE JEWISH NEWS WEEKLY
“Compelling.” ―THE NEW YORK JEWISH WEEK
A Washingtonian magazine "Book Washingtonians Should Be Reading"
“Preparing the dead for traditional Jewish burial is considered the holiest and most sacred mitzvah that a Jew may perform because there is no way for the dead to repay the act of goodness. . . . In performing this mitzvah [in Washing the Dead], the protagonist cleanses herself of hatreds and misunderstandings that she has been carrying around since her youth.”
―Jewish Book Council
“Deeply moving. . . . We are eased into an Orthodox Jewish community and a family burdened by secrets as gently as if an old friend were guiding us every step of the way. . . . Washing the Dead is a profoundly hopeful book. I can think of few others that honor ordinary women as simply and as clearly as this one does. Read it to feel how much is possible in the world all around us.”
―Best New Fiction
“Brafman…puts her mother-and-daughter characters through the fire. Yet on the other side, each comes out refined, understanding that the legacy of one’s family requires understanding and true forgiveness, which may be the greatest mitzvah of all.”
―New Pages
“Intimate, big-hearted, compassionate and clear-eyed, Brafman’s novel turns secrets into truths and the truth into the heart of fiction.” ―AMY BLOOM, author of Lucky Us and Away
“Heartfelt and genuine, Brafman’s Washing the Dead never betrays the complicated truths of family and tradition.” ―DAVID BEZMOZGIS, author of The Betrayers and Natasha: and Other Stories
“From roots in one religious tradition, comes a tale of emotional redemption for all of us. Brafman’s astonishing compassion for all human frailty infuses this story about the need for truth and the promise of forgiveness.” ―HELEN SIMONSON, author of Major Pettigrew’s Last Stand
“Sensual and spiritual, shot with betrayals, Washing the Dead plumbs the destructive power of secrets across three generations of mothers and daughters. In haunting prose, Brafman offers a riveting glimpse into Orthodox and Chasidic life, and breathtaking insight into what it means to forgive.” ―DYLAN LANDIS, author of Rainey Royal and Normal People Don’t Live Like This
“A rich tale of love, friendship, yearning, and forgiveness. Brafman’s beautifully wrought prose quickly cuts to the heart of things: how to live, how to love, and how to care for the dead.” ―JESSICA ANYA BLAU, author of The Summer of Naked Swim Parties and The Wonder Bread Summer
“Like a Jewish Anne Lamott, Brafman reels you in with warmth, depth and heart. Infused with lush detail about Orthodox Jewish life in the Midwest... Brafman has written a charming and original spiritual page-turner about love, forgiveness, and family life.” ―SUSAN COLL, author of The Stager and Acceptance
“Throughout these pages, moving in shadow, runs the terrific responsibility of forgiveness and redemption. . . . Michelle Brafman has done us all a true mitzvah by writing this beautiful book.” ―ROBERT BAUSCH, author of Far as the Eye Can See and A Hole in the Earth
“What a spectacular debut.” ―T. GREENWOOD, author of The Forever Bridge and Bodies of Water
“Brafman offers a fresh, vital narrative about guilt, love, loss, and the necessity of wrestling with the dark angel of a painful family legacy until it blesses you. June Pupnick, one of the most bewitching and problematic fictional mothers I’ve come across in years, makes a regular habit of escaping her life by ‘gobbling up’ novels ‘without chewing.’ Please resist gobbling this novel. Slow down, savor the richness and generosity of Brafman’s storytelling, and then buy a copy for your most deserving friend.” ―MARGARET MEYERS, author of Dislocation and Swimming in the Congo
“With the knife blade of her prose honed razor sharp, Brafman skillfully dissects the bonds of mother-daughter relationships.... She weaves together the sacred and the profane, reverberating silences, exile and return, atonement and forgiveness with the tenderness of a mother braiding the hair of a beloved daughter.” ―FAYE MOSKOWITZ, author of Her Face in the Mirror and A Leak in the Heart
“An illuminating and intricately layered novel about the complicated legacies that pass from mother to daughter, and about the ways that understanding our own history helps make us who we are. Brafman is an insightful writer who never falters or flinches in her quest to uncover the hearts of her characters.” ―CAROLYN PARKHURST, author of The Nobodies Album and The Dogs of Babel
“A riveting and humane account of family pain passed from one generation to the next.... How do we begin to forgive those who injured us? Start by reading Brafman’s unflinching and inspiring novel.” ―MARY KAY ZURAVLEFF, author of Man Alive!, The Bowl Is Already Broken, and The Frequency of Souls
--This text refers to an alternate kindle_edition edition.
“A fast-paced and compelling debut.” ― LIBRARY JOURNAL
"A heartfelt story of loss, hope, and reconciliation." ― BOOKLIST
“Brafman’s tale of three generations of women shows that woundedness―damage to mind and soul―can travel down the generations, and that so can kindness, courage and, ultimately, self-healing. . . . [Washing the Dead] succeeds in showing how family history has a way of sneaking up on us from the depths of the past, shaping the present in ways both familiar and unexpected.” ―Haaretz
" . . . (a) beautifully wrought novel, one in which Brafman examines the inner lives of her characters with the dexterity of a surgeon and the compassion of a saint.” ―LILITH MAGAZINE
"Striking debut novel . . . poignant." ―THE JEWISH NEWS WEEKLY
“Compelling.” ―THE NEW YORK JEWISH WEEK
A Washingtonian magazine "Book Washingtonians Should Be Reading"
“Preparing the dead for traditional Jewish burial is considered the holiest and most sacred mitzvah that a Jew may perform because there is no way for the dead to repay the act of goodness. . . . In performing this mitzvah [in Washing the Dead], the protagonist cleanses herself of hatreds and misunderstandings that she has been carrying around since her youth.”
―Jewish Book Council
“Deeply moving. . . . We are eased into an Orthodox Jewish community and a family burdened by secrets as gently as if an old friend were guiding us every step of the way. . . . Washing the Dead is a profoundly hopeful book. I can think of few others that honor ordinary women as simply and as clearly as this one does. Read it to feel how much is possible in the world all around us.”
―Best New Fiction
“Brafman…puts her mother-and-daughter characters through the fire. Yet on the other side, each comes out refined, understanding that the legacy of one’s family requires understanding and true forgiveness, which may be the greatest mitzvah of all.”
―New Pages
“Intimate, big-hearted, compassionate and clear-eyed, Brafman’s novel turns secrets into truths and the truth into the heart of fiction.” ―AMY BLOOM, author of Lucky Us and Away
“Heartfelt and genuine, Brafman’s Washing the Dead never betrays the complicated truths of family and tradition.” ―DAVID BEZMOZGIS, author of The Betrayers and Natasha: and Other Stories
“From roots in one religious tradition, comes a tale of emotional redemption for all of us. Brafman’s astonishing compassion for all human frailty infuses this story about the need for truth and the promise of forgiveness.” ―HELEN SIMONSON, author of Major Pettigrew’s Last Stand
“Sensual and spiritual, shot with betrayals, Washing the Dead plumbs the destructive power of secrets across three generations of mothers and daughters. In haunting prose, Brafman offers a riveting glimpse into Orthodox and Chasidic life, and breathtaking insight into what it means to forgive.” ―DYLAN LANDIS, author of Rainey Royal and Normal People Don’t Live Like This
“A rich tale of love, friendship, yearning, and forgiveness. Brafman’s beautifully wrought prose quickly cuts to the heart of things: how to live, how to love, and how to care for the dead.” ―JESSICA ANYA BLAU, author of The Summer of Naked Swim Parties and The Wonder Bread Summer
“Like a Jewish Anne Lamott, Brafman reels you in with warmth, depth and heart. Infused with lush detail about Orthodox Jewish life in the Midwest... Brafman has written a charming and original spiritual page-turner about love, forgiveness, and family life.” ―SUSAN COLL, author of The Stager and Acceptance
“Throughout these pages, moving in shadow, runs the terrific responsibility of forgiveness and redemption. . . . Michelle Brafman has done us all a true mitzvah by writing this beautiful book.” ―ROBERT BAUSCH, author of Far as the Eye Can See and A Hole in the Earth
“What a spectacular debut.” ―T. GREENWOOD, author of The Forever Bridge and Bodies of Water
“Brafman offers a fresh, vital narrative about guilt, love, loss, and the necessity of wrestling with the dark angel of a painful family legacy until it blesses you. June Pupnick, one of the most bewitching and problematic fictional mothers I’ve come across in years, makes a regular habit of escaping her life by ‘gobbling up’ novels ‘without chewing.’ Please resist gobbling this novel. Slow down, savor the richness and generosity of Brafman’s storytelling, and then buy a copy for your most deserving friend.” ―MARGARET MEYERS, author of Dislocation and Swimming in the Congo
“With the knife blade of her prose honed razor sharp, Brafman skillfully dissects the bonds of mother-daughter relationships.... She weaves together the sacred and the profane, reverberating silences, exile and return, atonement and forgiveness with the tenderness of a mother braiding the hair of a beloved daughter.” ―FAYE MOSKOWITZ, author of Her Face in the Mirror and A Leak in the Heart
“An illuminating and intricately layered novel about the complicated legacies that pass from mother to daughter, and about the ways that understanding our own history helps make us who we are. Brafman is an insightful writer who never falters or flinches in her quest to uncover the hearts of her characters.” ―CAROLYN PARKHURST, author of The Nobodies Album and The Dogs of Babel
“A riveting and humane account of family pain passed from one generation to the next.... How do we begin to forgive those who injured us? Start by reading Brafman’s unflinching and inspiring novel.” ―MARY KAY ZURAVLEFF, author of Man Alive!, The Bowl Is Already Broken, and The Frequency of Souls
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- ASIN : B00UM2TD54
- Publisher : Prospect Park Books (March 16, 2015)
- Publication date : March 16, 2015
- Language : English
- File size : 664 KB
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- Print length : 345 pages
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This book was a very easy read but pulled out a lot of emotion -- in a positive way. I didn't want to put it down as the story was so captivating, moving, and resonated with my life. Like many daughters, I definitely had differences with my mother and vowed I would not become my mother to my daughter. As such, I could empathize with the main character, Barbara. I thought a lot about forgiveness as well. This book also taught me a lot about my Jewish faith and the rituals dealing with death that I had not really thought about. I had never thought about the honor being a Tahara for someone who has passed and it being the ultimate Mitzvah. It gave me a sense of peace.
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Washing the Dead -- cleansing the spirit (One of the best books I've read all year)
Reviewed in the United States on May 27, 2015Verified Purchase
I first met Michelle Brafman's book, Washing the Dead, as a reviewer for the 2015 Gaithersburg Book Festival and it was my #1 choice of all the new books I reviewed. I liked it so much that I went out and purchased a copy for myself.
Washing the Dead tells the story of a young woman ripped away from her religious community for her mother's indiscretion (carrying on an affair with the religious order's groundskeeper) that she walked in on -- but not is all as it seems as you will find out after you read the book. The mother and daughter grew estranged only to be reunited many years later by the death of the young woman's mentor. Washing the Dead refers not only to the symbolic ritual of returning the body to the earth, but also to cleanse the bad blood and estrangement between mother and child.
If there is one book to read this summer, it's Washing the Dead.
(Side Note: I was walking in a farmer's market and overheard multiple people gushing about the book. It has the word-of-mouth buzz most authors could only dream of.)
Washing the Dead tells the story of a young woman ripped away from her religious community for her mother's indiscretion (carrying on an affair with the religious order's groundskeeper) that she walked in on -- but not is all as it seems as you will find out after you read the book. The mother and daughter grew estranged only to be reunited many years later by the death of the young woman's mentor. Washing the Dead refers not only to the symbolic ritual of returning the body to the earth, but also to cleanse the bad blood and estrangement between mother and child.
If there is one book to read this summer, it's Washing the Dead.
(Side Note: I was walking in a farmer's market and overheard multiple people gushing about the book. It has the word-of-mouth buzz most authors could only dream of.)
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Reviewed in the United States on December 15, 2016
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This is a very well-written and interesting book. There is a lack of congruity throughout the book on how the main character views things, but that goes with the story. What I can't buy is the last chapter: Suddenly, out of nowhere, everybody's imperfections are resolved. The whole chapter seems unrealistic, especially in regard to the daughter's sudden change. But on the whole, it is good literature. Read this for mother-daughter relationships. I wouldn't read it for the religion.
Reviewed in the United States on March 2, 2017
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Someone recommended this book to a group that I belong to. I loved reading this book and the characters are interesting. If you know nothing about Judaism and their rituals, this will expand your knowledge. It's written very well and you don't get lost. I have it in my car to pass on to someone else. There is a mother/daughter angst element to the story where the daughter only sees part of her mother's life until later.
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I did not like the book, at first. It is, kind of, like a flower... Starts out closed and slowly opens up to something beautiful. I am a Catholic and have long been curious about Jewish rituals. There is a haunting beauty, deep respect and understanding in their rituals surrounding the death of a human being. This novel has captured these feeling so well. I have learned from this book and feel deeply for the characters..
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Reviewed in the United States on July 13, 2015
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Uniquely portrays female interpersonal contacts. Holds my interest and peaks my curiosity. Her character development was impressive. I could hardly tolerate the wimpishness of the main character and almost quit the book midway. Miraculously, she turned my intense dislike to one of understanding and admiration . My prime goal was to get an insight into the Jewish culture. Got that in abundance, and respect for tradition. Passed this on to my best friend.
Reviewed in the United States on January 24, 2016
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But i thk this should have been 2 books. The first part , describing the protagonist's life in a Hassidic community and finding out that the mother is having an affair with the 'Shabbes goy' was interesting. After that part, being rejected from the Community, and finally reconnecting, was too drawn out and long. The author lost her momentum and the story would have been better if it had been more condensed..
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A great read
Reviewed in Australia on March 3, 2016Verified Purchase
I thoroughly enjoyed this thought-provoking book about Orthodox Judaism, death, hurt, forgiveness and ultimately redemption.

Susan
5.0 out of 5 stars
Five Stars
Reviewed in Canada on October 23, 2016Verified Purchase
Great read.
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