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We're Not Blended - We're Pureed Paperback – July 1, 2011

by Diana Lesire Brandmeyer (Author), Marty C. Lintvedt (Author)

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Can two families learn to cohabitate?
In peace?
Ever?
Are you terrified that you've turned into a version of the fairy-tale wicked stepparent?

Do you paste on a smile and pretend your family is a vision of 1950s Main Street America while at home the battle lines are etched in the driveway and signed with the kid's initials?

Don't dismay. God is with you. Discover how others have dealt with the difficult issues of blending two families. Find real-world advice to help you when your own words fail.

This engaging readable book is held together with humor, liberally peppered with information, commentary, and includes clinically sound information and proven communication tools.

Both authors provide practical methods for dealing with tough subjects. Short captivating chapters are perfect for those rare moments that parents have to themselves. Readers will enjoy stories and testimonies as they prepare their own families for success.

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Diana Lesire Brandmeyer, an accomplished author with a background in education and psychology, reflects on her experiences as a widowed mom with two sons who married a widowed dad with a son of his own. Now, with a few years of perspective, she uses the narrative of her experience to help others better navigate the issues that arise in a new family. Diana's credits include My Devotions, The Metro East Family Gazette, Little Visits Family Devotions and The Lutheran Witness. She is the author of A Time to Dance, Mystery of the Smithton Necklace, and The Trouble with Ralph. Diana received her degree from Webster University, and lives in Southern Illinois with her family.

Marty Lintvedt, Diana's friend, is a licensed professional counselor (MO) who is nationally certified counselor and a member of the American Association of Christian Counselors and the International Association of Marriage and Family Counselors. Their engaging, readable book is held together with humor, liberally peppered with informative commentary, and includes clinically sound informational sidebars and proven communication tools.

Lintvedt received her bachelor's degree in music from California State University Long Beach in 1979, and her Master of Arts degree in Professional Counseling from Lindenwood University, St. Charles, MO., in 1995. Mrs. Lintvedt has worked in counselor education since 1996. She is a nationally approved clinical supervisor and a registered clinical supervisor for the state of Missouri, and site supervisor to Master's and doctoral level student interns from Washington University, Covenant Seminary, Lindenwood University, St. Louis University and University Missouri-Saint Louis.

Marty is coordinator of Dispelling the Darkness, a Family Enrichment Series sponsored by Blessed Savior Lutheran Church, O'Fallon, Illinois. This series provides psycho-educational and therapeutic support to families and individuals in Southern Illinois and the St. Louis Metro area.

Paperback: 232 pages
Publisher: Concordia Publishing House (July 1, 2011)
Language: English
ISBN-10: 0758617917
ISBN-13: 978-0758617910
Product Dimensions: 5.2 x 0.5 x 7.8 inches
Shipping Weight: 8 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
Average Customer Review: 16 customer reviews
Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,318,841 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
- #227 in Books > Parenting & Relationships > Family Relationships > Stepparenting & Blended Families
- #2341 in Books > Christian Books & Bibles > Christian Living > Dating & Relationships
- #3616 in Books > Christian Books & Bibles > Christian Living > Marriage

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Sherri M.

Good for newly blended or soon-to-be blended families

May 13, 2013

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This is a nice look at stepfamily life with each chapter being a somewhat self-contained essay, so it's easy to pick up and read a chapter here and there.

The chapters cover a wide range of topics from the wedding that joins families at the beginning to discipline, changing last names, adopting each other's kids, and the day to day adjustments to blended family life. This is all done from a Christian perspective and includes inspirational Bible verses at the end of each chapter.

Compared to other books I've read about stepfamilies, the thing that makes this one different is its dual approach. Each chapter begins with Diana Lesire Brandmeyer relating her account of various events. She approaches her stories plainly and honestly to show how things were for her- how she felt, her fears, her stumbling blocks. Then the second half of each chapter is written by her friend Marty C. Lindtvedt, a certified professional counselor. Marty breaks down Diana's stories to interpret what may have been going on in the minds of the children and offers advice for dealing with such scenarios.

Brandmeyer and Lindtvedt's combined approach makes for a well-rounded look at stepfamily life.

I recommend this book for parents of blended families, particularly newly blended or soon-to-be blended families.

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Julie Lessman

A GREAT "BLEND" OF FUN AND WISDOM!!

December 14, 2011

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I'm sorry, but a self-help book just shouldn't be this much fun, you know, especially when it deals with such an important subject as blended families?

BUT ... "fun" describes "We're Not Blended, We're Pureed (A Survivor's Guide to Blended Families)" to a "T" for "Terrific" because this book will not only engage, inspire and educate the reader, but it will make them smile as well. Diana Brandmeyer has a gentle wit that comes through in every one of her life vignettes, and co-author Marty C. Lintvedt gives a thought-provoking and professional analysis of each that makes this book a must-read, not only for blended families everywhere, but for anyone related to or friends of blended families. In fact, I highly recommend this excellent guide for anyone even considering a marriage that results in a blended family as well as parents everywhere for the sheer fun and wisdom of this excellent book.

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February 6, 2012

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If you are considering remarriage, you must read this book before you say "I do" again. "We're Not Blended, We're Pureed" is easy-to-read and offers practical help for remarried couples struggling to blend two families into one. The format is engaging, offering a real-life look at specific challenges facing blended families, accompanied by a professional therapist's insights into the dynamics underlying those issues. As a counselor who frequently works with blended families, I highly recommend this book to those considering remarriage, as well as to pastors and counselors who do premarital counseling.

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paw

We're Not Blended We're Pureed

July 29, 2011

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This easy to read book on blended families lays bare the realities that face this growing group of people. "We're Not Blended We're Pureed" is light enough to be amusing and serious enough to be really helpful! Although the target audience is 'blended families', almost every family will relate to some of the issues that are addressed. It is packed with encouragement and hope as well as Biblically-based counsel and practical tips to make the 'processing' easier. Although families who are already pureed can benefit, it is a must-read for couples getting ready to fill the blender and start pushing buttons!

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Shanelle

No Substance and Not Much Reference to the Word

March 11, 2013

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I was looking for books that would be beneficial for my boyfriend and myself looking to get married. This book is the author's story to which is fine but I feel she whines too much throughout the book. I don't feel a lot of preparation went into the engagement and isn't that the point of pre-marital counseling? I feel they should of discussed many of these issues ahead of time in regards to moving into the house or purchasing a new home and childrearing and parenting. These topics are very important so they will not become a challenge in the future. The writer had a tough time parting with her previous life (her home, church, etc). How is this benefiting me as a reader? And there seemed like a lack of going to God for guidance in their relationship and with the kids. There are scriptures at the end of each chapter but it should be used throughout. I did pick up some good information (adopting the kids, changing last name, etc.). I do enjoy the Smart Step Parent by Ron L. Deal better and will be looking at other books.

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