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What Are You Crying About?: Defeating Grief for Christians (and Other Believers) Paperback – June 8, 2014
From the Author
"One way to deal with death is to avoid the thought of it. The other way is to directly confront it as a fact of life and to prepare yourself to face it. Then when you do face it you will do so with more peace." - Dalai Lama
Death, as a part of life, used to be the norm in the average person's life. Now it is rarely discussed and then only when an emergency occurs. What Are You Crying About? is a frank discussion about death and dying meant to bring peace to the hearts of those people grieving and to those people who fear their own passing. It is not maudlin, dark or a downer to read but is positive, uplifting and spiritually reassuring. My hope is that the discussion changes the way people think about death (especially within the boundaries of faith) and provides healing for wounded souls.
About the Author
Brian Holmes graduated from Northern Michigan University in 1985 and has since then lived in New Jersey working as an editor and writer in the mass market, technology, and education fields. He is also the author of four books including: The Devil's Assassin, New Jersey 9/11 Memorials, The National 9/11 Memorials, and the latest What Are You Crying About? Defeating Grief for Christians (and Other Believers). For more information visit his website brianMholmes.com
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Perhaps the only VERY minor point that crossed my mind, is I think there was a passing comment about the impact intense grief has on the one who has passed over, but certainly in the early days and weeks this can be a very big problem, and literally draws the spirit out of the spirit spheres (if they are there of course) and into the Earth Plane. Fortunately very young children, who could almost all be expected to be exposed to absolute anguish from their parents, are protected from this energy field, but not so adults.
However I suspect that many people don't really want to know how to solve this grief problem, certainly that poor review which automatically discards the solution as lying in a better understanding about what happens after death seems a perfect example. The author still calls this faith, I probably would not. To me the evidence that is now available for a serious seeker is overwhelming, and this book certainly adds to that evidence. If you were really aware that your grief is literally felt by those who have passed (other than young children who are protected from this negative energy) I truly wonder if you would carry on month after month, year after year as some people do. And if you really understood how temporary is this Earth existence, and how amazing is the eternal journey that lies ahead, I just can't see why you would not be excited at the graduation of your loved one to the next phase in our journey.
In the introduction to this possibly controversial book (many readers may feel this is a hardcore Christian pamphlet) Brian Matthew clearly states, `this book is meant not only as armor for the heart, but as potent, useable knowledge that once you know you will not forget and that will, hopefully, change your mindset going forward. It is, after all, our own mindset that controls our reaction to the loss of a loved one, so once you have changed that, the reaction to any loss will forever be changed. As the title states, this book is written for Christians and other believers in an ultimate Creator of the universe, including Muslims, Jews, Hindus, Buddhists, Spiritualists and people of other faiths. But you don't need to be a believer in a higher power to benefit from this book. Open-minded (or broken-hearted) readers may be persuaded or comforted by the information and ideas from various sources within these pages. However, the book is targeted to these spiritual populations because belief in a higher power is the foundation upon which the fortress against grief and sorrow can and ought to be built.`
Matthew discusses death in a realistic way, suggesting that ye, it represents a loss and there is time for a grief response, but that the grieving response need not be a life consuming process. He states, `My goal for this book is to say something life-changingly different - to change how you view grief, sorrow, and death. Another goal is to make the discussion of death and grief easier on the world and hopefully easier on individual hearts. The book covers the following topics: Death and Dying - The Common View, Grieving - The Common View, Anger with God, Religious and Philosophical Views on Death, Suicide, Got Faith?, Ten Faith Enhancers, What Is a Human?, The Afterlife, the Spirit World, Heaven and Hell, Where the Hell Is Heaven?, Our Family Among Us - Spirits Present, and What to Say to the Bereaved (and Dying). Throughout the book he uses quotes from distinguished people (like Steve Jobs whose last words were ` Oh wow. Oh wow. Oh wow.') such as Dalai Lama, the Bible, Helen Keller, Elisabeth Kübler-Ross and more - significant comments that do indeed take the book beyond simply a religious tract.
For people in the grieving process and especially for people who are alive enough to see the realities between life and death and part each plays in the circle of the universe, this book provides some insights. `Faith is the ultimate key to controlling grief. When we believe that a loved one is still alive in a somewhat different form and is still very close to us whenever we think of them, it is more difficult to become overwhelmed by grief' and he quotes Kübler-Ross: `I am certain of life after death and that death is like that of a cocoon. Consciousness and soul continue on a different plain. Not a shadow of a doubt. I'm looking forward to going dancing in all the galaxies.'
There is more to this book than many would expect. Grady Harp, December 14