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A Q&A with Author Dannah Gresh
Q: Describe how your new book will break new ground on the topic of sexuality and purity?

A: And the Bride Wore White (a book I wrote over 10 years ago) has really transformed the way young women have chosen to live their lives. Over 20,000 churches have used it as a curriculum with their youth groups or in teen Sunday school classes. For that reason, I really want my readers who trust me to know that my new book What Are You Waiting For? will be grittier in substance. But the grittiness has a purpose. This book is needed, and the language that teens use about sexuality has changed. I’m not going to shy away from topics like masturbation or words like orgasm, because I believe that teens know the words, and I think they need a biblical filter system to really sift through them, to define value to them and to figure out how their understanding of sexuality fits into their relationship with God as well as their relationship with their future spouse.

There’s one more unique difference in this book. In the last five years, science has drastically advanced our knowledge of how the body responds to sexuality. One of the biggest breakthroughs has been advanced brain scanning and chemical analysis that has provided a more complete picture of sexual brokenness. Whether you have a biblical view of sexuality or whether you have a view as an atheist, what we know now is that there is incredible brokenness in a young woman when she has a sexual partner and then breaks that relationship off.

Here’s what we know: When a young woman has sex, her brain is covered with a chemical called dopamine. Dopamine, if you will, is an addiction drug. When the body experiences any kind of pleasure, whether it’s from working out and getting a good sweat or from using cocaine, it washes the brain in dopamine. Now, it’s a value-neutral drug so the brain doesn’t determine “this was a good thing for my body” or “This was a bad thing for my body.” The activity raises the chemical level in your brain and creates a literal addiction to the source of the dopamine.

What does that do for a young woman who is in a sexual relationship with someone? She becomes addicted to that person.

So, we know a lot more about sex than we did 10 years ago when I wrote my first book, and I would like young women to be equipped with that information-- to look at everything sexual through God’s eyes and through an intelligent understanding of sexuality.

Q: What have you heard from young women that confirms their eagerness and need for the insights they will find inside What Are You Waiting For?

A: Their response to one other critical finding clearly demonstrates their hunger for this information. I’ve taken the opportunity to trace God’s word for the Hebrew word for sex through the Bible. Starting with Genesis 4: 1 where we first see it, I follow it all the way through to the book of Revelations. The word is “yada.”

In looking at this word yada, we can see what God’s heart really is on the subject of sex. We can even see it in our relationship with Jesus Christ. Every time I talk about this word, teens and college students come to me and say “that’s it.” It’s kind of this “eureka moment” in which young women realize “that’s it…that’s why it’s so sacred, that’s why I’m so sex crazed, that’s why it’s so painful when I use it casually, that’s why it’s worth the wait.” Everyone that’s ever heard me talk about yada has this moment.

This one amazing word-- I guess when you hear one word from God, it’s big and it’s powerful.

I’m excited to take it to print now after several years of teaching on it.

Q: What truth do you expect or hope will live on in readers’ hearts long after they’ve finished the book?

A: I hope that they will take away the greater significance of the word yada because it’s used in many important ways. For instance, the word is first used in Genesis 4:1-- “Adam lay with his wife Eve”-- that is “Adam yada his wife Eve and she became pregnant and gave birth to Cain.”

But then it is also used in verses like, “Be still and know (yada) that I am God.”

It’s amazing to me that the word God uses to describe the holy intimate sexual relationship between a man and a woman is the same word that God uses to describe the nakedness and the intimacy that He wants to have in a relationship with us. It’s mind blowing.

As I traced this word from Genesis into the New Testament, it is also used in terms of the sacrifice of Christ where Jesus himself said that a marriage relationship is really just a picture of a deeper love that He has for his bride, the church.

That’s where the “aha” moment lies.

There’s a G.K. Chesterton quote that I hope will be a catalyst to the “aha” moment: “Everyone who knocks on the door of a brothel is really looking for God.”

When you think about it, that’s so true: everyone, whether they are looking at porn on the internet, or struggling with same-sex attraction, or involved in multiple sexual relationships--under it all, they are probably really looking for God.

I hope that seeing this quote in the context of understanding yada, readers will be able to see the potential that their marriage relationship has to be a picture of Christ, and that they will be motivated to protect that picture. Because if our sexuality really is a picture of Christ in the church, how motivated do you think Satan is to destroy that picture?

I want my readers to be deeply motivated to protect and experience sex as a really holy and deeply satisfying gift from God.


Praise for What Are You Waiting For?

“Dannah Gresh has hit on a simple yet undiscovered truth that puts seemingly random questions of sexuality in context. I love the way Dannah doesn’t shy away from or water down the tough issues, yet she never compromises God’s best for you! This is a must-read for any single Christian woman.”
—Dr. Juli Slattery, clinical psychologist, Focus on the Family, and author of No More Headaches

“Dannah Gresh has totally nailed it with this pertinent and hugely needed book. Written honestly and compellingly, this is a must-read for all teenage girls—wait, this is a must-read for everyone, especially teenage guys! I am so grateful for this important resource and plan to recommend it to all my young adult readers.”
—Melody Carlson, author of Diary of a Teenage Girl series and the TrueColor series

“Dannah Gresh hits another home run! What Are You Waiting For? is refreshingly real and relevant—definitely a timely message for today’s generation of young women!”
—Shannon Ethridge, international speaker and best-selling author of Every Young Woman’s Battle

“This is hands-down the best book about sexual fidelity I have ever read—informative, entertaining, and very inspiring. Dannah Gresh tackles the trickiest of topics with astonishing grace. Her explanation of the sacred power of sex is unblushing and revelatory. I know this is a book for girls, but every Christian guy should read it too. I’m already reading it for the second time.”
—Nate Larkin, founder of the Samson Society and author of Samson and the Pirate Monks: Calling Men to Authentic Brotherhood

“If you are looking for the gospel truth on the very real issue of sex and sexuality that all singles face, this is the book for you. Dannah Gresh talks to singles where they really live. Not only is it refreshing, it is liberating—as truth always is. Dannah does not dance around the issues but addresses them with in-your-face clarity that is sorely needed. Sharing the spiritual implications while balancing the reality of the natural world we live in, Dannah practically addresses how singles can be victorious in the battle between the flesh and the spirit.”
—Michelle McKinney Hammond, author of What Women Don’t Know and Men Don’t Tell You

“All I can say is wow! My assistant’s teenage daughter agreed to flip through this book for me as a favor and ended up absorbed in the entire thing! As she rightly put it, What Are You Waiting For? brings ‘amazing insight into what no one tells you about sex—and it really can strengthen the relationship you have with God and your future spouse.’ This book is a fantastic read. Dannah Gresh has such a special way of taking an important subject and making it appealing, practical, and accessible to everyone.”
—Shaunti Feldhahn, best-selling author of For Women Only and For Young Women Only

“In an age where sex is perverted and belittled—when it appears to be a tool in the hands of the Enemy rather than the God who created it—Dannah has shown us God’s pure intention for sexuality. Through an in-depth study of Scripture and confirmation in life experiences, she highlights the honest-to-goodness biblical truth behind one of life’s most precious and beautiful mysteries. Women young and old will read this book and find the inspiration and tools they need to treat God’s gift of sexuality with the respect and protection it deserves.”
—Julie Hiramine, founder of Generations of Virtue and author of Beautifully Made

What Are You Waiting For? is a well-written study of the sexual culture our teens are immersed in today and offers a culturally relevant perspective that aligns itself with the Word of God. Dannah has managed to walk the fine line of approaching this difficult subject in a way that will inspire teens to live holy lives and inspire parents to broach this delicate topic with their kids. This book is not for the faint of heart; however, neither is raising teenagers in our current society.”
—Ron Luce, founder and president of Teen Mania Ministries

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Product Details

  • Paperback: 192 pages
  • Publisher: WaterBrook (January 18, 2011)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 1601423314
  • ISBN-13: 978-1601423313
  • Product Dimensions: 5.2 x 0.5 x 8 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 7.2 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.5 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (126 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #127,247 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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What Are You Waiting For: The One Thing No One Ever Tells You About Sex by Dannah Gresh, is the author's newest book in her campaign to encourage women to maintain sexual purity until marriage. Gresh covers a variety of topics relating to sex and sexuality in sixteen chapters and 178 pages. Several of the chapter titles seem particularly riveting including "The Lesbian Question", "Friends With Benefits" and chapters designated for topics including pornography and masturbation. Gresh claims that her book holds the secret to fulfilling sex and the reason that women should hold sex as sacred and reserved for their husbands.

In this book Gresh adequately answers some relevant questions about sex and aids readers in navigating issues complicated by pop culture and media. Her conversation regarding the effect of pornography on love and marriage illustrates that a brain addicted to porn can lose it's sensitivity and capability to love because it is overcome by lust. She uses scientific explanations to describe how the porn addicted brain is desensitized to love and becomes hooked on the need for pornographic stimulus. Gresh also gives readers advice concerning relationships in which pornography is an established problem.

The author gives useful advice to young women seeking to maintain their sexual purity and helps readers to not cross "the line" into premarital sex. She discusses kissing, fondling, and the burning question of whether or not oral sex is really sex. She offers readers helpful advice for refraining from situations in which their intentions could be compromised by physical desires. She also urges young girls to practice modesty in their clothing choices to avoid creating situations in which sexual temptation is more difficult to resist.
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I'll be frank right off the bat and say this is a review written by one who has known and worked with Dannah for over ten years. I was with Dannah as the secrets of this book began to germinate in her heart, have been entrusted to share this message with audiences in her absence, and my two teenage daughters have sat under her teachings throughout their years of high school. As such, when the advance copy of "What Are You Waiting For" appeared on our coffee table, each of my daughters picked up the book, flipped quickly through it, and announced, "Yeah, she's been teaching this stuff in our small groups for a while now. We've heard this."

But I knew better. I insisted we keep the book in a central place where anyone who wanted to read it could readily find it. I came home one day to find that my 19 year old had devoured it in one sitting. She announced that she had written Dannah a note to let her know how important she thought the book would be. My 18 year old spent several days pilfering the book for her bubble bath reading after basketball practice. This child has two book reading speeds - the second of which is 'you can talk to me, but I won't hear a word you are saying.' It was with this intensity that she devoured the information she believed she had 'heard before'.

Trust me in this: Whether you are a student, a parent, a youth leader, a health teacher... you have not heard all of this before. This is the most frank and relevant discussion of cultural sexuality from a biblical perspective on the market today. It is instructive for sure, but it is also comforting to the reader. You're not alone. You're not the only one struggling with these thoughts, these behaviors. You're not the only parent grieving for your injured daughter.
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Oh. My. Word. Such an incredible book. So far I'm about three fourths of the way through it and let me just say, it's such an excellent tool for sexual purity. It's written towards a female audience, but I think it would be extremely beneficial for guys to read as well. She goes back to the greek root words used in the Bible to show the true meaning and intention of sex, and how God views it. She also talks about the science of sex and how it affects your brain. It's probably the best book on the subject I've ever read.

If you're reading this, I encouraging you to go out and buy this book. Even if you don't think you need it, you haven't been struggling with sexual purity, you find the topic awkward and prefer not to approach it at all, etc. Whatever your excuse is, get over it and go get this book. It's well worth your time.
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This was such a great book. Once I received it and began reading it, I could hardly put it down. In fact, I finished it in only two days with my trusty highlighter in hand. I loved it. I learned a lot, not only about God's unique purpose for sex, but I learned about myself and now I have a desire to go deeper into His Word and a relationship with Him. Only then will I understand more about His plan for sex and ways I can keep myself uncontaminated from the world and their ideas of sexual purity.

`What are you Waiting for?' is a chapter book that is perfect for a female Bible study group or personal enrichment. Each chapter touches on a different topic, but the topics all collide and teach one main truth: Sex is an exquisite revelation of a much Greater Love (p27). But, not all sex is the same; some acts of sexuality reflect the deep knowing and mutual respect that God intended (37) and others are just merely a physical act.

The Hebrew word used in the Bible for sex, is yada, which means to be known and deeply respected (17). That is the precise purpose of why God created sex! But, more importantly, yada is characterized by seeking; a faithful long-term search (p22). Psalm 139:23 says, "Search me, O God, and know [yada] my heart." How amazing to know that this one Hebrew word can be used in many different ways yet still pack such a vital meaning!

In this book, Dannah really teaches that no matter what kind of sexual background you come from, you can always start over and truly seek yada; it's the ultimate goal for Christians. God is faithful in His pursuit of us and He is forgiving and loving, and we can always surrender our hearts to Him. Gresh expounds on topics such as homosexuality, masturbation, physical boundaries, pornography, and marriage.
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