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What Doctors Feel: How Emotions Affect the Practice of Medicine 1st Edition, Kindle Edition
While much has been written about the minds and methods of the medical professionals who save our lives, precious little has been said about their emotions. Physicians are assumed to be objective, rational beings, easily able to detach as they guide patients and families through some of life’s most challenging moments. But understanding doctors’ emotional responses to the life-and-death dramas of everyday practice can make all the difference on giving and getting the best medical care.
Digging deep into the lives of doctors, Dr. Danielle Ofri examines the daunting range of emotions—shame, anger, empathy, frustration, hope, pride, occasionally despair, and sometimes even love—that permeate the contemporary doctor-patient connection. Drawing on scientific studies, including some surprising research, Dr. Ofri offers up an unflinching look at the impact of emotions on health care.
Dr. Ofri takes us into the swirling heart of patient care, telling stories of caregivers caught up and occasionally torn down by the whirlwind life of doctoring. She admits to the humiliation of an error that nearly killed one of her patients. She mourns when a beloved patient is denied a heart transplant. She tells the riveting stories of an intern traumatized when she is forced to let a newborn die in her arms, and of a doctor whose daily glass of wine to handle the frustrations of the ER escalates into a destructive addiction. Ofri also reveals that doctors cope through gallows humor, find hope in impossible situations, and surrender to ecstatic happiness when they triumph over illness.
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- Publication dateJune 4, 2013
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—New York Times
“In her lucid and passionate explanations of the important role that emotions play in the practice of medicine and in healing and health, Danielle Ofri tells stories of great importance to both doctors and patients.”
—Perri Klass, author of Treatment Kind and Fair
“An invaluable guide for doctors and patients.”
—Kirkus Reviews
“Insightful and invigorating…makes the case that it’s better for patients if a physician’s emotional compass-needle points in a positive direction.”
—Booklist, starred review
“A fascinating journey into the heart and mind of a physician struggling to do the best for her patients while navigating an imperfect health care system.”
—Boston Globe
“Ofri gives voice and color to the heartbreak, stress, and joy that attends medical practice.”
—Library Journal
“A fabulous read.”
—Greater Good
“Essential reading in Medical HumanitiesShe weaves together personal anecdotes and medical learning in a compelling account of her medical decisions and reflections. Highly recommended.”
—Sara van den Berg, Professor of English, Saint Louis University
“Dr. Ofri's real-life experiences can be incorporated into a variety of health science curricula bringing course theory together with practical application. Readers gain critical insight into why applying theory in the practice of medicine requires empathy for the physicians.”
—Christine Whittrock, Department of Pharmaceutical Sciences, Temple University
“Part of medical education now is not only core competencies from a factual standpoint but also a social standpoint. Dr. Ofri has a way of communicating those lessons in a clear a cogent and very personal fashion.”
—Beth Dollinger M.D., Arnot Ogden Medical Center
“The perfect book for my teaching on the subject of lack of empathy in medical school students.”
—James Asa Shield, Jr., MD, Professor, Chairman, Department of Psychiatry, Virginia Commonwealth University
About the Author
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Why Doctors Act That Way
The experiences of medical training and the hospital world have been extensively documented in books, television, and film. Some of this has been probing and incisive, and some has been entertaining nonsense.
Much has been written about what doctors do and how they frame their thoughts. But the emotional side of medicine—the parts that are less rational, less amenable to systematic intervention—has not been examined as thoroughly, yet it may be at least as important.
The public remains both fascinated and anxious about the medical world—a world with which everyone must eventually interact. Within this fascination is a frustration that the health-care system does not function as ideally as people would like. Despite societal pressures, legislative reforms, and legal wrangling, doctors don’t always live up to these ideals. I hope to delve beneath the cerebral side of medicine to see what actually makes MDs tick.
One might reasonably say, I don’t give a damn how my doctor feels as long as she gets me better. In straightforward medical cases, this line ofthinking is probably valid. Doctors who are angry, nervous, jealous,burned out, terrified, or ashamed can usually still treat bronchitis orankle sprains competently.
The problems arise when clinical situations are convoluted, unyielding, or overlaid with unexpected complications, medical errors, or psychological components. This is where factors other than clinical competency come into play.
At this juncture in our society’s history, nearly every patient—at least those in the developed world—can have access to the same fund of medical knowledge that doctors work from. Anyone can search WebMD for basic information or PubMed for the latest research. Medical textbooks and journals are available online. The relevant issue— the one that has the practical impact on the patient—is how doctors use that knowledge.
There has been a steady stream of research into how doctors think. In his insightful and practically titled book How Doctors Think, Jerome Groopman explored the various styles and strategies that doctors use to guide diagnosis and treatment, pointing out the flaws and strengths along the way. He studied the cognitive processes that doctors use and observed that emotions can strongly influence these thought patterns, sometimes in ways that gravely damage our patients. “Most [medical] errors are mistakes in thinking,” Groopman writes. “And part of what causes these cognitive errors is our inner feelings, feelings we do not readily admit to and often don’t even recognize.”1
Research bears this out. Positive emotions tend to be associated with a more global view of a situation (“the forest”) and more flexibility in problem solving. Negative emotions tend to diminish the importance of the bigger picture in favor of the smaller details (“the trees”). In cognitive psychology studies, subjects with negative emotions are more prone to anchoring bias—that is, latching on to a single detail at the expense of others. Anchoring bias is a potent source of diagnostic error, causing doctors to stick with an initial impression and avoid considering conflicting data. Subjects with positive emotions are also prone to bias; they are more likely to succumb to attribution bias. In medicine, this is the tendency to attribute a disease to who the patient is (a drug user, say) rather than what the situation is (exposure to bacteria, for example).
This is not to say that positive emotions are better or worse than negative emotions—both are part of the normal human spectrum. But if you consider the range of cognitive territory that doctors traverse with their patients—genetic testing, ordinary screenings, invasive procedures, ICU monitoring, and end-of-life decisions—you can appreciate how the final outcomes can be strongly influenced by a doctor’s emotional state.
Neuroscientist Antonio Damasio describes emotions as the “continuous musical line of our minds, the unstoppable humming.”3 This basso continuo thrums along while doctors make a steady stream of conscious medical decisions. How this underlying bass line affects our actions as doctors—and the net effect on our patients (and on doctors when we ourselves become patients!)—is what intrigues me.
By now, even the most hard-core, old-school doctors recognize that emotions are present in medicine at every level, but typically this is lumped in with the catch-all of stress or fatigue, with the unspoken assumption that with enough self-discipline, physicians can corral and master these irritants.
The emotional layers in medicine, however, are far more nuanced and pervasive than we may like to believe. In fact, they can often be the dominant players in medical decision-making, handily overshadowing evidenced-based medicine, clinical algorithms, quality control measures, even medical experience. And this can occur without anyone’s conscious awareness.
It could easily be argued that doctors are no more emotionally complex than accountants, plumbers, or the cable-repair guy, but the net result of doctors’ behavior—logical, emotional, irrational, or otherwise— can have life-and-death consequences for patients, which is to say, for all of us.
We all want excellent medical care for ourselves and our families, and we’d like to assume that the best care comes from the doctors with the best training, or the most experience, or the best U.S. News & World Report rating. However, the myriad effects of emotional underpinnings can confound all of these factors.
Despite this, the conventional stereotype that doctors are fairly emotionless continues to maintain its hold. Many trace this back to the eminent Canadian physician Sir William Osler, often considered the father of modern medicine for such revolutionary ideas as whisking medical students out of the staid classroom and bringing them to the bedside to learn medicine by examining actual patients. The current educational system of clinical clerkships and residency training is largely attributed to Osler, as are hundreds of snappy quotations. His continuing influence is apparent in the scores of diseases, endless libraries, and numerous medical buildings, hospital wings, societies, and awards that bear his name.
On May 1, 1889, Dr. Osler stood before the graduating medical class at the University of Pennsylvania and delivered a valedictory— and now canonical—speech entitled “Aequanimitas.”4 He stressed to these fledgling doctors that “a certain measure of insensibility is not only an advantage, but a positive necessity in the exercise of a calm judgment.”
While Osler may not have created these attitudes, he neatly encapsulated the general feeling about how doctors should behave.
Though he did warn against “hardening the human heart,” the stereotype of the detached, coolheaded physician springs from this idea of equanimity.
Popular culture has embodied this. Television doctors from Ben Casey to Gregory House are detached from their patients, lauded for their technological and diagnostic acumen. Even the selflessly idealist doctors (in Arrowsmith, Middlemarch, and Cutting for Stone) and the bitingly sarcastic doctors (in M*A*S*H, House of God, and Scrubs) maintain an equanimitous distance from their patients.
Every hospital dutifully includes the word compassion somewhere in its mission statement. Every medical school rhapsodizes about the ideals of caring. But the often unspoken (and sometimes spoken) message in the real-life trenches of medical training is that doctors shouldn’t get too emotionally involved with their patients. Emotions cloud judgment, students are told. Any component of a curriculum upon which interns slap the “touchy-feely” label is doomed in terms of attendance. Hyperefficient, technically savvy medical care is still prized over all else.
But no matter how it’s portrayed, and no matter how many high-tech tools enter the picture, the doctor-patient interaction is still primarily a human one. And when humans connect, emotions by necessity weave an underlying network. The most distant, aloof doctor is subject to the same flood of emotions as the most touchy-feely one. Emotions are in the air just as oxygen is. But how we doctors choose—or choose not—to notice and process these emotions varies greatly. And it is the patient at the other end of the relationship who is affected most by this variability.
This book is intended to shed light on the vast emotional vocabulary of medicine and how it affects the practice of medicine at all levels. Hopefully, the next time we find ourselves in a patient gown, we’ll better understand the workings of those who care for us. “Cognition and emotion are inseparable,” Groopman observes. “The two mix in every encounter with every patient.” In some scenarios, this mix is highly beneficial to patients. In others, it can be calamitous.
Understanding the positive and negative influence of emotions in the doctor-patient interaction is a crucial element in maximizing the quality of medical care. Every patient deserves the best possible care that doctors can offer. Learning to recognize and navigate the emotional subtexts is a critical tool on both sides of the exam table.
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- ASIN : B008ED6AGS
- Publisher : Beacon Press; 1st edition (June 4, 2013)
- Publication date : June 4, 2013
- Language : English
- File size : 1204 KB
- Text-to-Speech : Enabled
- Screen Reader : Supported
- Enhanced typesetting : Enabled
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- Word Wise : Enabled
- Print length : 233 pages
- Best Sellers Rank: #789,224 in Kindle Store (See Top 100 in Kindle Store)
- #58 in Physicians
- #352 in Doctor-Patient Relations
- #402 in Medical Education & Training (Kindle Store)
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About the author

Danielle Ofri is a doctor at Bellevue Hospital in New York City. She is one of the foremost voices in the medical world today, shining an unflinching light on the realities of healthcare and speaking passionately about the doctor-patient relationship. Her newest book is "When We Do Harm: A Doctor Confronts Medical Error."
Ofri is a regular contributor to the New York Times and is also the editor-in-chief of the Bellevue Literary Review. She lives in New York City and is determined to get through the Bach cello suites before she kicks the bucket.
Here's her TED talk on Deconstructing Perfection: https://youtu.be/CaSv741Gjlg
And her TED talk on Fear, A Necessary Emotion: https://youtu.be/yToDJlfa_Tc
She's also performed at The Moth: https://youtu.be/9h5lkiizC7M
All of Danielle Ofri's articles and events can be found at: www.danielleofri.com
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Twitter: @danielleofri
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Customers find the book provides insights for both patients and physicians. They appreciate the rich, detailed writing style with fluid prose and storytelling abilities. The book is described as engaging, captivating, and entertaining. However, some readers feel the author lacks empathy and expresses feelings too narrowly.
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- Reviewed in the United States on May 26, 2014Danielle Ofri's book, What Doctors Feel, is one that should be required reading in all medical schools, and it should also be read by all patients to help them better navigate the undercurrents of their relationships and experiences with their doctors, particularly, as these undercurrents involve the generally unspoken emotions and fears of, and the risks to, their physicians.
As both a long-time patient with extremely complex medical conditions, and someone who has always been fascinated by medicine (I read medical textbooks for fun as a teenager), I thought that my knowledge of the world of doctors and medicine was more than adequate. Yet, after reading Ofri's book, one physician's apology to me, and another's visceral reaction to the suggestion by another physician that he perform a surgery on me that might be medically necessary, but that would, inevitably, leave me disabled to some degree, took on entirely different shadings and nuances, and I learned a great deal that I would never have otherwise known.
Yet, do not get the idea that this book is dry, or aimed at teaching some sort of lesson, or written to either apologize for or explain away the negative behaviors of physicians. Quite the opposite on all counts. The book is engaging, enlightening, compelling, and brilliantly written. What might indeed have been dry material in other hands is, quite literally, a page-turner in Ofri's. I read the book cover-to-cover in two sittings. As readers, we learn about how the doctors in the book feel through their encounters with patients, some whom they have grown to love, and through the tortuous and exacting training that medical students endure in order to become physicians. And, we too, grow to love some of the patients, and to empathize with both the doctors and their patients, and we care about their stories as much as we do about the stories of our favorite fictitious characters. Yet, every person and every story in this book is real--each was lived by fellow human beings, and we come to care deeply about every one of them.
Both my husband and I are professors, and we both plan to use the book in our classes. While he is a classicist, who will use the book in a class about illness and injury, praise and blame, I am a philosopher, and I will use the book in a writing class about confronting moral dilemma. We choose our books carefully, always with an eye to picking texts that our students will love to read, and this book is one that we will use for years, I am quite sure.
I give this book my highest recommendation.
- Reviewed in the United States on June 20, 2013We all know what patients feel because we have been or will be a patient in the course of our lives: but do we understand what is going on in the lives of doctors who stand before, often in their white coats which often broadcasts professional invulnerability? Is there any way of intuiting the feelings that doctors experience when things go wrong with their patients, when they are unsure of what action to take in the face of thorny ambiguities that don't have an easy answer, or how they are affected by the poor outcomes of patients for whom great care was invested? The many forces that operate on doctors, the numerous stresses that working in a busy hospital impose on both the new and seasoned doctors are largely invisible to the lay person but which are so honestly revealed to the reader in this book.
We follow the path of one patient, Julia, young woman who needs a heart transplant but can't even get on the waiting list because of her status as an undocumented immigrant. Dr. Ofri cares deeply about her and so does the reader who is drawn into the tension between the woman's escalating needs and the medical reality of the country she so desperately wanted to live in. Woven between the chapters describing her medical journey, the readers learn of the physical and emotional forces that shape the doctors' world, issues we might never know about if this book weren't written.
Heavily footnoted and rich in research, 'What Doctors Feel' offers a lode of information that is a must for those who wish to understand the world of medicine that ultimately affects us all. Danielle Ofri writes compellingly, with insight and great empathy that is heartwarming to those of us who should know she represents a kind of doctor we all wish for ourselves.
- Reviewed in the United States on July 12, 2013"What Doctors Feel." In particular, I really appreciated your chapter on medical errors and moving past the concept of 100% focus on systems and looking at the doctor himself.
As a pre-medical student, I took an early interest in patient safety and quality of care, following some personal experiences and those involving family friends.
After that and another close call with a family friend I sought out and started research in patient safety. While I fully believed in making the system better, I also wanted to focus on what my professor called the "Second Victim Phenomenon." However, I was never able to appreciate it to such agree until I read this book. It felt like Dr. Ofri was talking to me directly in describing the situations. It's given me a renewed focus at approaching the issues of full disclosure and the emotions tied to near misses and medical errors.
It also emphasizes the importance of emotional and mental health and support in the process of becoming a physician with great, personal stories. I feel like this will probably be a book I come back to if I ever start to feel disenfranchised by the field of medicine in the future.
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Joao CunhaReviewed in Germany on November 1, 20205.0 out of 5 stars All ok
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Sanju CyriacReviewed in India on June 24, 20195.0 out of 5 stars Ofri 😊
I felt relieved after reading this book. The emotional turmoil we face in patient care is an universal phenomenon. Grief, Disillusionment and worthlessness are some common issues in a physician's life. How we go on with our work neglecting this is an amazing thing. I will say, patients are sometimes lucky to go the right hand. Each human brain is different in analyzing a case. Then whom to blame for an incorrect decision
AKReviewed in Canada on November 21, 20165.0 out of 5 stars Great book - a must read
I read this book a few years ago, after "How Doctors Think," by Jerome Groopman. They present very complementary ideas. Ofri delves into how our emotions can affect how doctors view illness, and how they practice. She also discusses burnout in a frank and open way, calling into question how the profession deals with it, and the responsibility it has to create a welcome and supportive environment for learning and practice.
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norismatReviewed in Italy on February 6, 20185.0 out of 5 stars Very interesting book.
Interesting, well written and pleasant . I would suggest this book to anybody interested in knowing more about the perspective of doctors during medical practice.
DRGCReviewed in the United Kingdom on June 4, 20145.0 out of 5 stars What is going on inside the Doctor?
Why should you read this book?
This is an open honest and raw account of what it feels like to be Doctor. The author re-emphasises the central need for doctors to know who the patient is, before moving on to attempts at diagnosis and treatment recommendations. The author describes the joy of successful professional relationships with patients, as well as the anxiety, fear, guilt and depression that can so easily seep into a clinician. The writing style is simple, the stories are true, the truths are universal.
Who should read this book?
Obviously Doctors and Medical Students should read this book to remind themselves of why they went into medical practice, as well as to enable them to fight for their patients' best interests. Anyone non clinical involved in managing clinicians and clinical work should read this, to gain insight into what is going on inside those pesky clinicians' lives! Patients and carers can easily see the complexity and human fallibility of ethical Doctors work.
How long will it take to read? I think it took me about 6 hours to read this book. I found it fascinating and did not want to put it down.





