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What Does Everybody Else Know That I Don't?: Social Skills Help for Adults with Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder Paperback – October 1, 1999
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I bought this book because I get so anxious over social situations and my phone isn't ringing off the hook with invites from friends to hang out. It brought some habits to my attention that I didn't know were being read wrong. For example, I have a habit of just walking away when I am done taking. No, "I have to get back to work." or "I'm feeling hungry and I'm going to get some food." I'd just walk away. I was discussing this book with a non-AD/HD friend today and she said that she feels unimportant when I do that and it bugs her.
This book has created some great discussions between my spouse and me and my friends and me. We have had some laughs over actions they didn't know I didn't realize not to do and they were just too polite to correct me. A laugh and the phrase, "You do that all the time and it irritates me.", happened frequently. I also learned that my friends and spouse thought that my AD/HD medication would fix all of that. They didn't know it is just a tool.
The big "aha moment" for me was realizing that just because you are listening to a person doesn't mean they know you are listening. There are certain verbal and nonverbal things you need to do to let that person know you are paying attention.
I practiced on my husband this weekend. I even caught myself doing a "blink" when I used one of the techniques and found I had missed part of the conversation. This book built up my confidence and I went out and did very well at a 4th of July bbq. No uncomfortable looks or people trying to avoid me. I still need to work on eye contact, but I am getting better.
This book has made me feel empowered. I told an ADHD friend of mine about this book and she is anxious to read it.
One more thing. I'm not sure whether I have ADHD or Asperger's Syndrome, since they share a lot of characteristics, so if you're reading this for someone else, you might check into that too.