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What Therapists Don't Talk About and Why: Understanding Taboos That Hurt Us And Our Clients 1st Edition, Kindle Edition

4.2 4.2 out of 5 stars 42 ratings

This book was created to help therapists and therapists-in-training explore the myths and taboo topics that weaken their practice and cause anxiety, discomfort, and confusion. Some of these topics include feeling incompetent; making mistakes; getting caught off guard by fee entanglements; becoming enraged at patients; managing illness; understanding sexual arousal and impulses; praying with patients as part of therapy; feeling ashamed; being fired; and not knowing what to do.

The title of the 1993 first edition of this book was Sexual Feelings in Psychotherapy: Explorations for Therapists and Therapists-in-Training. The new title for the second edition reflects a greatly expanded scope that focuses on a variety of other topics in addition to sexual feelings.

The book discusses the damaging myths that therapists seem to hold about themselves that sustain the taboo topics. By offering questions for self-assessment and a series of "explorations" that can be used to examine taboo topics

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Customers find the book informative and easy to understand. They describe it as a good read for group discussion and a much-needed book. The information is presented in common sense and provides logical and ethical methodology. The language is described as plain English, which customers find easy to read and understand.

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Customers find the book an interesting read and suitable for group discussion. However, some feel it's not a reference book.

"...It was a very interesting read, written in plain English and was easy to understand...." Read more

"...I can always raise the ethical questions myself. Overall good reading but not a book I would reference...." Read more

"Absolutely engaging and real! I teach ethics continuing education workshops for therapists and refer to this book on many occasions!" Read more

"This is a very much needed book that would hopefully motivate many therapists to accept themselves as humans and to know their limitations...." Read more

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Customers find the book informative and providing a logical and ethical methodology. They mention it's common sense and not covered in school.

"This was quite insightful especially when the book talked about different scenario a counselor may face." Read more

"...book certainly raises lots of issues not covered in school and provides a logical and ethical methodology to thinking through, however the book..." Read more

"I am a counseling grad student and I found a lot of this to be common sense. It's an easy read but i found myself skimming a lot." Read more

"...so while I find it very informative I can only read it in small doses and then have to pull out my life is a bowl of sunshine daydreams...." Read more

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A MUST READ for all of us in mental health
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A MUST READ for all of us in mental health
I am a Licensed Professional Counselor with 30 years experience in mental health.I have been in private practice for over 20 years and have provided clinical supervision for 14 years.It is through these lenses that I can say that this book should be required reading in every ethics course taught for mental health professionals of all disciplines.It is thoughtful, practical, and thorough in "floating up" the many places that psychotherapists can trip up when working with their own "good intentions" and "blinders" on.If you are looking for a gift for new students / grads / seasoned practitioners in the field of mental health, this is THE ONE to buy them.It was / is practice-altering for me.
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  • Reviewed in the United States on July 2, 2018
    I purchased this textbook as a required text for my Legal and Ethical Issues in Counseling class, and reading this one did not feel like work! It was a very interesting read, written in plain English and was easy to understand. I would recommend this book to therapists, or people on the tract to become therapists/counselors/other mental health professionals.
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  • Reviewed in the United States on September 4, 2015
    This was quite insightful especially when the book talked about different scenario a counselor may face.
  • Reviewed in the United States on January 3, 2008
    This book certainly raises lots of issues not covered in school and provides a logical and ethical methodology to thinking through, however the book falls short of suggested resolutions that the therapist may entertain. The book is well written and clearly laid out but I was left feeling many "endings" were left off. I am faced with decision trees that involve ethics daily in my practise but I would like to have some insight into what my colleagues decision trees look like. I can always raise the ethical questions myself. Overall good reading but not a book I would reference. The book would be good reading for group discussion.
    8 people found this helpful
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  • Reviewed in the United States on October 10, 2014
    Absolutely engaging and real! I teach ethics continuing education workshops for therapists and refer to this book on many occasions!
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  • Reviewed in the United States on August 25, 2016
    I am a Licensed Professional Counselor with 30 years experience in mental health.

    I have been in private practice for over 20 years and have provided clinical supervision for 14 years.

    It is through these lenses that I can say that this book should be required reading in every ethics course taught for mental health professionals of all disciplines.

    It is thoughtful, practical, and thorough in "floating up" the many places that psychotherapists can trip up when working with their own "good intentions" and "blinders" on.

    If you are looking for a gift for new students / grads / seasoned practitioners in the field of mental health, this is THE ONE to buy them.

    It was / is practice-altering for me.
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    A MUST READ for all of us in mental health

    Reviewed in the United States on August 25, 2016
    I am a Licensed Professional Counselor with 30 years experience in mental health.

    I have been in private practice for over 20 years and have provided clinical supervision for 14 years.

    It is through these lenses that I can say that this book should be required reading in every ethics course taught for mental health professionals of all disciplines.

    It is thoughtful, practical, and thorough in "floating up" the many places that psychotherapists can trip up when working with their own "good intentions" and "blinders" on.

    If you are looking for a gift for new students / grads / seasoned practitioners in the field of mental health, this is THE ONE to buy them.

    It was / is practice-altering for me.
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  • Reviewed in the United States on January 30, 2015
    Any psychotherapist who was fortunate enough to have a trusted clinical supervisor with whom ALL topics could be discussed understands the value of this book. This book assists the reader in exploring the real world issues that can either interfere with or inform psychotherapy. This is not a book on the goals of therapy. Instead, it's an essential map to navigate through all the roadblocks one encounters along the way. The authors, all widely known and respected psychologists, raise questions and inspire the reader to consider solutions. The authors are wise enough to understand that readers must arrive at their own answers, and they offer guidance towards that end. This is not a rule book. Instead, it is designed to make the reader more intelligently consider his or her own choices. I would recommend it for all readers regardless of experience level, although it is especially useful as a graduate clinical text.
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  • Reviewed in the United States on June 27, 2011
    This is a very much needed book that would hopefully motivate many therapists to accept themselves as humans and to know their limitations. However, it did give me a sense that the author was trying to create a "cook book" despite him saying that it was not his intend. It felt as if he was trying to predict every possible case scenario instead of raising a more fundamental question such as what therapy work is and what it is not? I believe, it is more important to have this fundamental discussion instead of concentrating on countless little details, because many taboo topics come from therapists' mindless attitude toward their work in general, when they cannot define for themselves what therapy is, how it promotes healing and what therapeutic relationship is and isn't.
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  • Reviewed in the United States on January 9, 2015
    I am a counseling grad student and I found a lot of this to be common sense. It's an easy read but i found myself skimming a lot.
    3 people found this helpful
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  • Amarylis Serrano
    5.0 out of 5 stars Five Stars
    Reviewed in Canada on July 24, 2016
    Very good book
  • clare
    5.0 out of 5 stars Every Counselling Teaching Establishment Should Read and Apply
    Reviewed in the United Kingdom on August 26, 2016
    An excellent and thorough examination of taboo subjects and detailed discussion on how (and why) to approach them. It's a US book but the principals are applicable to UK readers.