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What Wives Wish their Husbands Knew about Sex: A Guide for Christian Men Paperback – April 1, 2007
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They are certainly to be commended on several fronts:
1) They recognize that the Bible does affirm regular, fulfilling sexual relations between a husband and his wife.
2) They attempt to derive their main assertions from Scripture itself.
3) They encourage us to reject the extremes: prudishness and sexual excess.
4) They draw the connection between love (the kind of love at which Christians should excel) and sex. This connection means that Christian husbands, are called to be great lovers (non-sexual), which allows them to be great lovers (sexual).
Unfortunately, despite these positive points, much of what is contained in this book is, I fear, ultimately unhelpful to married couples. I don't want to belabor these points so I will attempt to be brief.
1) First, it is not clear that the authors have properly understood the context of the Song of Songs and how to interpret it properly. While I commend them for their rejection of the allegorizing of this book, I think they miss the progression from engagement to marriage to consummation. Because they interpret every passage as relating directly to a married couple, they draw conclusions that do not necessarily follow from the text.
2) Most importantly, I think the book advocates a view of sexuality within marriage that actually affirms, rather than rejects, dangerous cultural views about sexuality. The authors regularly insist that Christian marriages should be filled with "mind-blowing" and "hot" sex.Read more ›
The authors of What Wives Wish fit both categories--male and Christian--while also serving various counseling, teaching and therapy roles at Fuller Seminary. Writing with an unflinchingly graphic attention to detail, these writers explain how Christian men can satisfy their wives sexually, while fitting sexuality into a balanced, nuanced place within the context of a loving, satisfying, mutually fulfilling relationship.
An excellent pre-marriage read for men, the book brings a relaxed, comfortable style to discussions of highly specific sexual techniques. While doing so, the authors are careful to explore the other dimensions of human relationships: spiritual, emotional and interpersonal. Although sexuality per se is given primary attention, men are encouraged and at times admonished to become more sensitive, more aware, and more patient.
If anything is missing here, it's the female voice or the feminine perspective, yet this is a book written by men and for men. At times it has a "Christian locker room" flavor, with some of the sex talk couched in metaphorical language drawn from Song of Solomon and other Biblical passages. Real-life couples may not be ready to rephrase their sexual language in Scriptural terms, yet they may be surprised to learn that the Bible is excellent source material for graphic, seductive sexual imagery.
The authors are clear in their intention to write for Christian married men, hoping to help Christian marriages achieve better depth and satisfaction in the bedroom. As such, they have written a helpful and useful guide that is worthwhile reading for its target audience of married and soon-to-be married males.
Armchair Interviews says: Unique perspective on marriage.
Honestly, there is not much new info here. While authors are all psychologists that specialize in couple's therapy, the advice is fairly run of the mill (woo your wife all day, she is more turned on by cleaning the house than roses, etc). There is a short section on biology but most of the book is on relationships. The advice does not really need to be new (and probably is more helpful because it is not new). Sometimes we just need a reminder.
I just finished a fiction book that veered into the romance genre. I kept thinking throughout that book, that people in love often do stupid things. (Mark Gungor says the reason people should not have sex before marriage is that sex makes people stupid and God made us that way. Inside of marriage it is good for people to be stupid about the other person. Outside of marriage, it is not good to be stupid about the other person.)
Here is how I think this book is helpful. 1) It is ok to be a man. Men think about sex differently than women.Read more ›
Most Recent Customer Reviews
Better late than never. As a widow of 3 years after 57 years of excellent harmony in marriage, after reading the book I I feel it could have been better.Published 10 months ago by Ralph Rigger
I am reading the book and it is good so far.
My only issue is that it is that you can't fully download it. Read more
Not finished with this yet either,,but good.Published 12 months ago by Diana &amp;amp; John Jamerson
Answers given very clear
Must read for every married couple
Not just for guys
Ladies should read it too!