- Paperback: 176 pages
- Publisher: Baker Books; Later Edition edition (April 1, 2007)
- Language: English
- ISBN-10: 080106774X
- ISBN-13: 978-0801067747
- Product Dimensions: 5.2 x 0.5 x 8.2 inches
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- Average Customer Review: 45 customer reviews
- Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #915,369 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
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What Wives Wish their Husbands Knew about Sex: A Guide for Christian Men Paperback – April 1, 2007
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FRONT COVER "A straightforward, no holds barred, entertaining manual for Christian men."--Neil Clark Warren, founder and chairman, eHarmony.com BACK COVER A candid guide to men's sexuality In the beginning God created man and woman--and sex. But men and women don't always see sex in the same way. This straight-talking guide helps men understand the difference--and helps women appreciate it too. Here are the facts of sexuality as you never heard them growing up--explicit, yet honest and accurate--minus the winks, nudges, and snickers. In great depth and with much candor, the authors explore the biblical, psychological, emotional, and physical aspects of making love. • Gain new insights into your own sexual makeup and the desires of your wife • Discover the most important thing to a woman • Learn how to become a better lover • See why knowing Christ can free a man to experience amazing love and incredible sex with his wife Whether you're married or planning to be someday, this is a must-read. "The authors have reclaimed sex as God's good gift, meant to be lavishly and extravagantly enjoyed by men and women who want the fullness of intimacy that God intended."--Linda M. Wagener, associate dean of the school of psychology, Fuller Seminary "This book breaks the fears and destructive guilt of Christianity into its true design to follow the real principles of sexual love as it was meant to be"--Frank Lawlis, author, The ADD Answer and The IQ Answer "Combining candor with humor, frankness with sensitivity, and professional knowledge with personal experience, this book offers a delightful overview of what husbands need to know about sex."--Jack Balswick, coauthor of Authentic Human Sexuality and A Model for Marriage Ryan Howes, Richard Rupp, and Stephen W. Simpson are psychotherapists who specialize in marriage and men's issues.
About the Author
Ryan Howes (Ph.D., Fuller Theological Seminary) is a therapist in private practice who specializes in helping men overcome sexual issues. He is an adjunct faculty member at Fuller Theological Seminary and Pepperdine University. Richard Rupp (M.F.T., Fuller Theological Seminary) is a licensed marriage and family therapist at Pasadena Psychotherapy Center and has taught at Fuller Seminary. He is a frequent speaker at men's conferences and retreats. Stephen Simpson (Ph.D., Fuller Theological Seminary) is the director of the Fuller Psychological and Family Services and is an adjunct professor at the seminary.
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This delightful book takes THE SONG OF SONGS, also called THE SONG OF SOLOMON, and deconstructs it to show that the writers of the Bible, in conveying God's message to humanity, included real, explosive, joyful sex as part of the rules. Although we normally hear the "thou shalt nots" but avoid the "thou shalts" of the Bible, the "thou shalts" are in many ways the most important parts of the Bible in relation to the marriage of two devout Christians or Jews. In many places in the Bible, men who neglect their wives' sexual needs are informed that they are cheating their wives by so doing. A man who works hard at his job should still find time in the week for enjoyable sex. I'm in the middle of writing a novel in which the bride keeps wanting her husband to quote from THE SONG OF SOLOMON at the most inconvenient times, and I was very pleased to find writers who saw in that song what I saw in it as I wrote that section of the novel. No, it isn't a bodice-ripper, it's a historical, and I don't know when it will be available. But this book is available right now, and if you are male and married and call yourself a Christian or a Jew, you should read it--NOW. I don't care how old you are, as long as you're of legal age to get married. I'm 67, and I was very pleased to find this book, although it has nothing to teach my husband, who is a dedicated Bible reader with a tendency to assume that the Bible, including the Song of Solomon, means what it says.
Honestly, there is not much new info here. While authors are all psychologists that specialize in couple's therapy, the advice is fairly run of the mill (woo your wife all day, she is more turned on by cleaning the house than roses, etc). There is a short section on biology but most of the book is on relationships. The advice does not really need to be new (and probably is more helpful because it is not new). Sometimes we just need a reminder.
I just finished a fiction book that veered into the romance genre. I kept thinking throughout that book, that people in love often do stupid things. (Mark Gungor says the reason people should not have sex before marriage is that sex makes people stupid and God made us that way. Inside of marriage it is good for people to be stupid about the other person. Outside of marriage, it is not good to be stupid about the other person.)
Here is how I think this book is helpful. 1) It is ok to be a man. Men think about sex differently than women. Being a man does not make you an animal or wrong. 2) Men need to spend time with other men. They have a good little section on why, and it includes the fact that there are actual bio-chemical changes (primarily testosterone) when men spend time with other men. 3) This book has realistic and biblical suggestions about what is appropriate in the bedroom. It actually encourages people to experiment more (but this is where it might veer into the 'mind blowing sex' problem.) 4) They attempt to be biblical in their use of Song of Solomon and why it is not primarily (or even secondarily) a metaphor about Christ and the Church. 5) The book encourages people to seek a language to talk about sex that is not either clinical or pornographic. People will always use euphemisms, and some euphemisms are better than others. The authors spend about 5 or 10 pages showing how graphic scripture can be and that it is ok to use graphic euphemisms about sex. I appreciate that the book is straight forward, direct and a bit funny. 6) It is also very good on forgiveness within marriage. It says you should not confess first to your wife if you are having an affair or addicted to porn. Instead you need to find another man, confess to him, deal with the problem and then figure out when and if to confess. It also has a good section on guilt about sex prior to marriage. 7) It is good that the book focuses on what the Husband's role is. With sex (and pretty much any other relationship issue), it is easy to focus on what the other person could do in the situation. This book focuses on what the guy should do. It does not claim that the guy is 100 percent responsible, just that he can do things to help make their sex life better.
On the negative side, there was not much of a female voice here. All of the authors are male. They reference their wives and quote them, but I think a fourth, female author would have been good. I also think the intro was pretty bad. It was the worst about the 'mind blowing sex' problem. Just because people are Christians, did not have sex before marriage and work hard on their marriage does not mean that they will have 'mind blowing' sex.
Overall, it was a good read. I think it is important to remind myself to pay attention and focus on my marriage. I am pretty internal in my processing, so I need to read books like this to remind myself how I can be doing better (even if there isn't much info that is new.)
By the way, the Puritans were not actually puritanical about sex. They were fairly open and were pretty healthy in their views of sex. It was the Victorians of the mid to late 19th century that really had the views about sex that we associate with the Puritans. Small point, but it is worth noting.
I really like the idea of using Song of Songs sexual terminology to "redeem" our language. And I also appreciate the additional chapter for wives at the end.
I highly recommend this book!
I felt like this was a fair perspective on the subject of sex -- a middle ground, let's say. We have half the people around us going "do it do it do it" and the other half going "do it and you'll go to hell." So that's why books like this have to exist. To give people confidence to enjoy physical relationships.
This book is basically a guide for men to have meaningful relationships with their wives, and using Scriptural references to help them get over any kind of guilt or shame they feel about their sexuality. There is even a chapter for women to help them help their men.
The only thing that annoyed me about this book was the anatomy lesson... a whole chapter explaining that "the penis goes inside the vagina." Yeah, no kidding. Thanks for clearing that up.
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Must read for every married couple
Not just for guys
Ladies should read it too!