- Mass Market Paperback
- Publisher: Bantam (October 1, 1984)
- Language: English
- ISBN-10: 0553258222
- ISBN-13: 978-0553258226
- Product Dimensions: 6.8 x 4.2 x 1.2 inches
- Shipping Weight: 8.8 ounces
- Average Customer Review: 4.9 out of 5 stars See all reviews (11 customer reviews)
- Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,270,274 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
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What Do You Say after You Say Hello? Mass Market Paperback – October 1, 1984
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Yet, even after hundreds of books on subject, I felt that something was missing, as if everyone managed to miss the essence of human behavior. Then comes Berne, whom I discovered with a help of a TA professional, and that was the missing link. Finally I came across knowledge that was so simple, yet so involving that it gave me that true satisfaction of knowing that I have hit the jackpot in terms of understanding human behaviour. It was Erice Berne's "What do you say after you say hello" and "Games People Play". (Why not just name the book "What do you say after hello?").
It has been 10 years and I still love to read Berne. This book was borrowed by my friends so many times that I don't even know where it is any more. If I don't get it back soon, I'll have to buy a new copy.
Games theory is so simple, yet so hard to implement properly. I see people who are into TA still finding ways to undermine themselves while thinking that they got a hang of it. So, read it carefully, try to discover it's essence, try to build a healthy set of values to use as checkpoints in your progress and be observant all the time. And by all means, do buy the book. There are other books out there as well, and if needed, find a professional who will help you understand and apply principles of TA in your daily life so that it really becomes your life, not someone else's script.
This was his last book completed just before his death in 1970. It nicely ties together his main discoveries and provides a fascinating selection of "scripts" tracing them from their source and presenting them in his very effective parent/adult/child format. The system can be presented diagramatically and one needs to use it to get the most out of the book. However, once over this hurdle the system is very useful and effective. This reviewer has experimented with it on a number of occasions and it really does explain and predict in the way that he claims.
Berne's bad luck was that he wrote the book in 1970 when psychology was going through a bad patch with a flood of bizarre systems appearing. The good gets lost with the bad and T.A. now tends to be labelled as an outmoded California fashion related to Freudianism.
It's good to see that Berne arrives at his system empirically with his basic framework being bolstered with all the evidence he can find. He examines accents, voices, vocabulary, types of laughter, names, in fact anything he can lay his hands on to provide effective cross checks to his main structural analysis .
In the preface he says that the book is "primarily intended as an advanced textbook of psychotherapy, and professionals of different backgrounds should have no difficulty in translating into their own dialects the short and simple annals of transactional analysis.Read more ›
Lots of psychology, fascinating, and downright fun.
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useful insights on human behavior and interpersonal transactions.Dr. Berne's writing is original and imaginative. Read more
What I most got out of this book is the idea of asking yourself, when faced with an interpersonal challenge, "What must have happened to him/her to be using this relational... Read morePublished on April 21, 2010 by Markus Youssef
My only complaint is not about the book but about publishers that will NOT reprint this great book. I don't get it. If they reprint this book I promise to buy 10 copies!Published on May 24, 2005 by Arnold
Simply one of the best psychology books I have ever read. It's fascinating. I loved his interpretation of the story Cinderella. Read morePublished on November 3, 1999