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What's the Big Secret?: Talking about Sex with Girls and Boys Paperback – April 1, 2000
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Earlier this week I re-read the book to both of them, now almost 5 and almost 8. The 5 yr old is still clueless and bored with all of it. The 8 yr old seemed a bit more interested and less embarrassed. She took the book and again read it to herself and asked a few "why" questions but nothing I couldn't handle.
In my opinion, this book is great for 7 - 10 yr olds (1st - 3rd grade), not the pre-school - grade 3 that it is catagorized. Enough for 7 - 10 yr olds to comprehend and enough for this age to know. Not overwhelming in technical terms or detail nor is it written in baby terms. I agree with a previous reviewer. When the teen years arrive, more information, terms & detail will need to be divulged but for this pre-teen age. For pre-teens, this book is perfect.
I spoke to the boy and was told about this book, so curious I got a copy of it. My personal opinion is that because this book's target audience is younger children, it needs to decide what it wants to be. A book to teach about gender differences, sexuality, the reproductive cycle, personal safety or the pleasures of sex. My other problem with this book is its title. Children love secrets, and the minute the word secret if attached to anything, it becomes to most children that proverbial forbidden fruit.
Frankly, as an educator, I think the terminology etc is alright, however, thanks to media exposure, our children are being introduced to the idea of "boyfriend and girlfriend love" so young but without the maturity, touting the pleasures of masturbation and saying having sexual intercourse "feels wonderful" with someone you love can become iffy.
So, my two cent's share here is, better to have dropped the part about masturbation, and included the words, adults who love each other and want to have a baby to share their love in the section introducing sexual intercourse to discourage immature minds from thinking, "if it feels wonderful, I would like to do it too!" Yes, yes, I know it is there in a tiny speech balloon, but I think it would be better to make it a part of the text.
My opinion is, use this book with care, supervision and adult moderation as there are some grey areas which can be misconstrued by children and may lead to the very problems parents bought this book to avoid.
My main complaint though, is that the diagram of the female reproductive system. I cannot believe this thing made it through the whole editing process and got printed. The cervix is pictured as an entirely independent structure-- kind of like a mini uterus, with a squiggly tube connecting it to the uterus. The book is only doing *one* thing, and if it can't even realistically depict a uterus/cervix...well, that's a pretty egregious failure, as far as I'm concerned.
Most Recent Customer Reviews
Read this book when I was 10 and just purchased it for my 11 year old. Very helpful.Published 2 months ago by Amazon Customer
Perfect book for curious kids & super appropriate, answered all the questions my 8 year old asked while i was pregnant!Published 3 months ago by April Colpas
Very great book easily understood to kids. Great graphics and makes it easy to open the door to speaking with your child about private matters.Published 3 months ago by Selane
Bright- Colorful- and Educational! Easy to understand for children with out being scary!Published 6 months ago by Stephanie Lechner
Really good - I gave it to a 9 yo who was not asking questions and didn't really want to talk about any of it. I think it covers all the basics well so at least he has that info! Read morePublished 6 months ago by Julinda
I read this with my two older boys- 4 and 6, and they both were able to understand the information the way it was presented. It was straightforward and factual. Read morePublished 6 months ago by TwoGreenBeansFamily
Great book. My only issue with it was the paragraph about masterbation. It makes it sound like it is okay. It's not. Read morePublished 6 months ago by N. Eagan