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When Love Is a Lie: Narcissistic Partners & the Pathological Relationship Agenda Kindle Edition
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From the Author
Deliberately non-clinical in content, When Love Is a Lie is a book based solely on my personal perspective and experience concerning narcissistic behavior. In other words, readers seeking medical explanations for narcissistic behavior will be disappointed. This book is about recognizing the reality of our situation when we love a narcissist or sociopath... and also about understanding our own codependency to the very drama that we claim to hate. It is my hope that, by demystifying typical narcissistic behavior patterns, we can move away from fear and escape the darkness before too much time has passed. I will outline the logical thought process that, after 12-long years with my own narcissistic abuser, helped me to accept the final discard and mentally let go of the pathological, narcissistic lie. It's a process for which I am most grateful and one that I feel could make a difference to others.
Knowing that passive-aggressive manipulation is, by its very nature, a difficult dynamic to comprehend, I make no attempt to sugarcoat the facts (as I believe many books on narcissism tend to do). That being said, instead of being difficult to write, the book itself - the writing process - was, indeed, very cathartic for me. I know now, of course, that I was simply ready to write it...to expose the pathological relationship agenda and admit to (and discuss) the codependency factor ..... to pass on what I learned from the experience and to share some words of inspiration given to me by some wise women (and men) who had been there, done that. It was, simply, time to make it happen.
If When Love Is a Lie succeeds in providing even just a single reader with a validation of her experience and the strength to either stay away or make an escape,then I will have more than exceeded my goals for this little book.
About the Author
In 2005, when her son's diagnosis with child-onset schizophrenia changed everything, Zari set aside the executive rat race in lieu of a home-based career as a Freelance Writer. A leap of faith that could have gone either way, the choice to work from home was meant-to-be and she has never looked back.
Motivated by the success of When Love Is a Lie, Zari has since published three additional books about narcissism in relationships - Stop Spinning, Start Breathing, a journal-style workbook about narcissist abuse recovery, Narcissist Free: A Survival Guide for the No-Contact Break-Up, and When Evil Is a Pretty Face, for male victims of female narcissists. In addition, she will be publishing a memoir about her son's life and recording a podcast series based on her books about narcissism.
For informative articles about narcissism in relationships and the opportunity to communicate with Zari in forum-style conversations, please visit Zari's blog: TheNarcissisticPersonality.com.
- Publication date : January 9, 2014
- File size : 515 KB
- Word Wise : Enabled
- Print length : 229 pages
- Simultaneous device usage : Unlimited
- ASIN : B00D17093M
- Enhanced typesetting : Enabled
- Text-to-Speech : Enabled
- X-Ray : Enabled
- Language: : English
- Lending : Enabled
- Best Sellers Rank: #91,652 in Kindle Store (See Top 100 in Kindle Store)
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Bottom line: There are many forms and variations of NPD, and that mine didnt portray the long absences or constant phone number changes does not mean he was not on the NPD spectrum. It just means he was a different level on the spectrum. So I think its important that readers understand this is only one of many examples of what NPD can look like. It doesnt have to be obvious to be true.
To Zari: Thank you for saving my precious life. To readers: WHAT SHE SAID. Now, I'm going to continue reading this book. It is simply manna from heaven; the author, my guardian angel.
Life with her was terrible and I’m only now just understanding exactly what happened, how and why it happened, and just how damaging this relationship was to me.
There are many levels of narcissistic behavior. This book was written about the author’s experience with a man who displayed the worse of the worse.
From my perspective this book was too narrowly focused. It is soley based on life with a narcissist from a woman’s view. It is also based on the highest “worse” level of narcissism so it won’t match most people’s experience.
Plus, she seems to be very angry. Take it from me, the anger is justified, but at some point we have to get over being mad so we can properly process what this person did to us and move on.
She discribes one particular post breakup text exchange with her ex that was pretty ugly and I can’t imagine a professional condoning how she handled the situation.
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I’ve read 25 books to help me escape my narsissist, and understand how they work and this is the only book that has given me the ‘Ah ha!’ Moment. Such a great read, thank you so much zari!!! You’ve helped me more than you know
my ex's behaviour and gave me the answers / closure I would never have gotten otherwise. He had all of the Narracist behaviours listed ....ALL....and my feekings/psychological welkbeing throughout. Its frightening to have been so in love with someone/thing so black hearted snd horrible inside.....but at least I escaped (was finally disposed for good) in favour if his next victim. I now feel terrible for her