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When a Man You Love Was Abused: A Woman's Guide to Helping Him Overcome Childhood Sexual Molestation Paperback – April 7, 2010
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A few of his topics in Part 1: Who He Is
* Who Are the Molested?
* A Personal Journey
* Where Was God?
* A theft of Childhood
* Flashbacks and Dreams
* The Effects of Abuse
* Male Self-Images
* Forgiving the Abuser/Himself
* plus 14 more topics
The second half of the Cecil's book is directed specifically to the women in these men's lives-how they can help him through the healing process by being there for him and encouraging him. Easy? No way! Necessary? Absolutely!
Part 2 contains some of the following:
* The Other Victim
* Accept His Unspeakable Problem
* Believe Him and Help Him Believe
* Accept His Shame
* Remind Him You Care
* Listen, Listen, Listen
* Pray for Him
* Be Honest with Him
* plus 14 more topics
Women, this is definitely a book to have on your shelf if the man in your life is struggling with childhood sexual abuse.Read more ›
Cecil Murphey is an unusually kind and caring person. He was a pastor before he took up writing full time. If you meet him personally, or read one of his books, you'll realize that he will probably know how you feel, regardless.
Murphey has written more than 100 books. Some are as-told-to stories. But When the Man You Love Was Abused is non-fiction. This book is based on his many questions and discussions with abuse survivors, and his own horrific experiences.
One in six males has experienced unwanted abusive sexual contact before the age of sixteen. Murphey writes to the women who love these men, with sound advice, sympathy and encouragement on how to recognize and deal with the soul-ripping that occurs when little boys endure unspeakable atrocities. Usually there is no one to help or rescue the boy. He holds the filthy secrets inside himself.
The author offers information and practical insight for the women (or anyone) who love these men. He lends encouragement with a balanced mix of statistics, personal insight, and inspirational stories from other survivors. He also coaches the abused on surviving, even thriving, after their past abuses. He speaks in a gentle tone that soothes the soul, and offers hope.
Murphey's closing words to women are encouraging (page 256): "Sexual abuse is one of the worst torments a boy can go through. It attacks his physical, spiritual, and psychological integrity. If you are committed to help the adult survivor in your life, you can be a true heroine in his life. He needs someone. He needs you." I hear rumors that a version for female survivors is on the way, and I'm glad.
Read more at Cec's blog, [...].
Reviewed by Audrey Hebbert, M.A., author of Green Light Red Light
Most Recent Customer Reviews
still reading and referring to this book for guidance and insight. sober situation but atleast there is reasoning for behavior and reactions.Published 1 month ago by Webster
This book is extremely helpful for those who are supporting an abused loved one. I highly recommend buying this book.Published 3 months ago by JulieF
I've read a few books on this topic but, this one really helped me to move forward in "my" healing process. Read morePublished 5 months ago by Amazon Customer
A very helpful book to help "a man you love who was abused." It can also help give you more insight into sexual abuse in general, and gain insight about it from a male... Read morePublished 9 months ago by Sandra Hamer
Excellent book. For wives, girlfriends, sisters, moms / any female in the man's life. Very helpfulPublished 10 months ago by Marcy Rodman
Exceedingly helpful, insightful, and full of compassion! Huge thanks to Cecil for writing this. I read through it once, and hope to cover the second part again. Read morePublished 15 months ago by A.R. Jay
I would rate this even less if I could. It is unprofessional to address abuse and its psychological ramifications with prayer and tributes to God. Read morePublished 18 months ago by Jessica L Runolfson