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When People Are Big and God is Small: Overcoming Peer Pressure, Codependency, and the Fear of Man (Resources for Changing Lives) Paperback – June 1, 1997
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"Need people less. Love people more. That's the author's challenge. . . . He's talking about a tendency to hold other people in awe, to be controlled and mastered by them, to depend on them for what God alone can give. . . . [Welch] proposes an antidote: the fear of God . . . the believer's response to God's power, majesty and not least his mercy." --Dallas Morning News
"Refreshingly biblical. . . . brimming with helpful, readable, practical insight." --John F. MacArthur Jr.
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The focus of Welch's book is to have a greater healthy fear of God to the point that other people have less power and control over our lives.
The points Welch describes in his book include:
1. The fear of God is the best treatment for the fear of man.
2. Jesus was not a people-pleaser.
3. Having more fear of man than God is idolatry.
4. When we fear God we think of ourselves less.
5. When we spend more time with God, opinions of ourselves and what others think of us matter less.
6. We should love people more and need them less (only God can truly provide for our needs).
7. We love others because God first loved us.
8. When God is reduced to our feelings, He becomes less awesome to us while people become larger.
The "fear of God" may be defined as having a healthy reverence for God - He loves us and does not want us to be so afraid of Him that we are scared of having a personal relationship with Him.
Read the book and be encouraged to be more concerned about what God thinks and less concerned about what other people think!
Ultimately, Welch argues, the problem with man is low esteem for his Creator. If we truly lived before an Audience of One, Welch believes that many of our daily "problems" would be solved with a proper perspective - we would see ourselves in a proper light and we would see that we are not the source of that light, but created to be the reflectors of it to others.Read more ›
I wish we had read it a long time ago. I have never had the biblical concept of *love* in its truest sense explained so clearly.
I would highly recommend this book to anyone that has struggled with dysfunctional family relationships, codependency issues, or even just loving your enemies.
I want to buy a case of these and pass them out to everyone we know!! That's how great this book is.
This book also got me more interested in counselling and "Christian" psychology. Some of the views written challenges many common Christian Psychology/counselling teachings - he challenges some of Larry Crabb's views.
But besides these "differences" (which i need to look more into), i think this book is an excellent read - especially for Christians who are in leadership positions. There is always a tendency to be controlled by the opinions of man, and thus in Welch's terms, succumb to a fear of man, rather than to be controlled by what God teaches, therefore be a God fearing Christian.
This book calls us to deny ourselves, to crucify our ungodly desires for popularity, fame and good opinions of man. It calls us to see God as bigger than man and once we do that, we will start to fear God and not man. Wonderful thought-provoking, life- and attitude-challenging stuff.
In this book about the consequences of big people and a small God, there are answers. Because the fear of man doesn't manifest itself in the same way for everyone, Welch writes about the different symptoms we may experience. Among them, a push for self-esteem, shame, compromise, neediness, worldliness, and a feelings-oriented worldview.
But, as promised, there are answers. Or, rather, there is an Answer. The point of counseling philosophy - secular or sacred - is to offer a diagnostic system of redemption. "Here's your problem...here's how the problem can be resolved/fixed/cured/healed...Please go and live in happiness now." What Welch offer is not a system of redemption, but rather our Redeemer.
"If you have ever walked about giant redwoods, you will never be overwhelmed by the size of a dogwood tree. Or if you have been through a hurricane, a spring rain is nothing to fear. If you have been in the presence of the almighty God, everything that once controlled you suddenly has less power." (119)
The answer? Know God, and grow in the fear of Him. As we see God for who He really is, we will see ourselves (and other people) for who we all are: "someone completely dependent on Him." "Self-serving needs are not meant to be satisfied; they are meant to be put to death...We love not because people have psychological deficits; we love because God first loved us. The image of God in us is not about psychological need...Read more ›
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I'm probably going to retread this book after I write this review because it has been so transformational in my thinking.
I am the children's ministry director at my church. Read more
I would not recommend this book to my worst enemy. People who are struggling with emotional dependency and insecurity need tender help and healing. Read morePublished 1 month ago by Amazon Customer
WOW. this is a fantastic book. Even if you do not think you have a problem with the fear of man, or lack of the fear of God guess what.......You do. Read morePublished 1 month ago by Joe Clemmer
absolutely an enjoyable read. I think it will benefit all readers, secular and non-secular. A small price for so much.Published 2 months ago by Jb
Excellent book discussing our propensity to fear man and not revere God appropriately. Convicting, loving and hopeful. Excellent teaching and counseling tool.Published 2 months ago by VTXRyder
Great book! One of my favorites! I've read it twice and keep buying copies so I can give them away.Published 2 months ago by Jess