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When I Say No, I Feel Guilty Mass Market Paperback – January 1, 1985
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This book impressed me when I first read it 25 years ago. And it has stood the test of time: I felt amazed at how much more useful the techniques seemed when I reread it recently.
A couple of points deserve emphasis:
1. In addition to teaching you how to say "no" without feeling guilty, the author masterfully teaches you simple, powerful techniques for keeping your cool while you're under attack.
2. This book plays an important role in the set of cognitive, emotive, and behavioral skills taught by psychologists such as Albert Ellis and David Burns. While books such as "A New Guide to Rational Living" (Ellis) and "The Feeling Good Handbook" (Burns) contain tools that address a far wider range of problems, Smith's methods work far more rapidly, easily, and consistently for the challenges that this book addresses.
I strongly recommend this book for anyone wanting to quickly and easily learn to (i) say "no" without feeling guilty and/or (ii) react coolly to attacks by others.
So why am I here after 25 years writing a review? Of course, apart from the fact that Amazon.com didn't exist then, I visited Amazon to get hold of the ISBN number for the book. One of my programmers, a very shy soft spoken person, was getting bullied by a fellow programmer. The first thing that came to my mind was the book; the book has made such an impact on me that till today I remember the title and author's name without a typo.
If you want to stop doing things you don't want to do, then read this book...I don't care if there are any reviews for this book that are not so good, but just buy the book and find out for yourself. Money well spent....
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Excellent book for getting what you want in life and not feeling used. It helped me be more assertive in my personal and professional relationships.Published 12 days ago by Scott S.
If you have a problem with saying no this is a good self help bookPublished 17 days ago by LilDynomyte
I enjoyed reading the book. It gave me a pleasure and increased my confidence that I should try some of the assertive methods to deal with things in life which are difficult. Read morePublished 20 days ago by Vijaya
Very pleased, only half-way through, but really speaks to me and has fantastic suggesstions!Published 20 days ago by Mountie
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