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When to Speak Up and When To Shut Up by [Sedler, Dr. Michael D.]
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From the Back Cover

When is silence golden?
When is it more important to speak from your heart?

Your friend is about to make a disastrous decision. You see problems in your son or daughter's marriage. At work you see a better approach than the one your supervisor suggests. Should you speak up? Or should you keep the peace by staying quiet?

When to Speak Up and When to Shut Up offers practical guidelines for conversations you won't regret. It will help you explore

-the cost and purpose of silence
-why to check motives when talking to friends, family and authorities
-how to ask good questions
-ways to deal with anger and resentment
-how to overcome pressure to remain silent

Using biblical and contemporary examples, this book shares important strategies for building better communication within your workplace, church and home.

"If you've ever wondered when you should bite your tongue and when you should speak your mind, this book is for you. I have personally benefited from Dr. Sedler's advice and know that you will, too. Read this wise book and skillfully navigate your important conversations."--Dr. Les Parrott III

About the Author

Updated Bio - April 2006

Michael Sedler (D.Min., Christian Life School of Theology) ministers in churches and provides consultation services to schools and businesses throughout the United States. Michael is the author of Stop the Runaway Conversation and When to Speak Up When to Shut Up and works as an adjunct professor for three universities. He and his wife, Joyce, live in Spokane, Washington.

Product Details

  • File Size: 1104 KB
  • Print Length: 160 pages
  • Publisher: Revell (August 1, 2006)
  • Publication Date: August 1, 2006
  • Language: English
  • ASIN: B001GCUBW8
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By Laurence C. Bernon on September 5, 2010
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People, if you never have read any kind of book, I suggest you read this one. My female companion found this particular book at an Amish store in the small town of Sugar Creek, Ohio. I borrowed a copy of this book from my local library. Read the book in one night and then purchased a copy.
I am 68 years old and mature, but this Bible based book teaches you more about handling difficult situations, then living them in everyday life.
PLease read this book. It's a real eye and mind opener.
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What a great tool! This book surprised me. I did not find it in my local Christian bookstore, or at the many local bookstores, I frequent. I found it at the Phoenix Airport during an unexpected 3-hour layover. The title spoke to me as you can imagine during my irritated state. Just as I was ready to release one of the biggest sighs I could muster after hearing about another 1-hour delay, the cover of the book caught my eye--"When to Speak Up and WHEN TO SHUT UP". God sure has a great sense of humor. This book was exactly what I needed not just for that moment, but in everyday life.

It speaks to everyday opportunities to look at the "why" behind our communications and to test ourselves--honestly--about why we are communicating and the effects of our communications--on others and ourselves. It also looks at when we need to speak up either as a defense for or protection of others. I felt somewhat convicted as I poured through the book.

It utilizes scriptures and biblical stories to illustrate and drive home the learning. I just loved it! I was unfamiliar with the author and checked Amazon for other titles. I will be purchasing more of his books on this subject.

If you are searching for a book that hits on and pushes you beyond your comfort zone in both these areas, well here it is. At the end of the book, you will realize that sometimes, "Silence is not golden".

Enjoy!

Another recommendation in this area for Christians: 30 Days to Taming Your Tongue: What You Say (and Don't Say) Will Improve Your Relationships
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This book has an appropriate amount of scripture to back up the logic within the pages. I and several of my co-workers used it when we had a call meeting with our boss. It really does give practical advice about when to speak up and when to hold your piece. I would suggest it for anyone who attends meeetings, supervises others, and who counsels or serves as a mentor to others. In addition, parents may see great benefits from using it.
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Would it be too forward of me to say, every Christian should read this book? Well let me take it one further, then. I think everybody should read this book if they have a mouth and intend to use it. Dr. Michael Sedler has clearly and sensitively articulated guidelines, steps and practical solutions for using that tiny little member of the body called the tongue in a manner which fosters growth, understanding and clarity. The title of the book absolutely grabbed me, but then it also delivered. The principles that are shared in this book are simple, concise and powerful. The examples he gives are authentic and he goes on to share not only wisdom but a few personal hard earned and learned lessons.

The opening dedication of the book includes this statement: "I pray this book will encourage each reader to be a to be a voice in the wilderness of life: a voice of reason, of passion, of encouragement of leadership, but most of all, of love and grace." I believe Dr. Sedler does a good job of communicating, coaching and exhorting how to make this happen in real life.

Some of the topics covered (listed on back of book):

* the cost and purpose of silence
* why to check motives when talking to friends, family and authorities
* how to ask good questions
* ways to deal with anger and resentment
* how to overcome pressure to remain silent

Drawing directly from specific instances in Scripture and the lives of well known Bible figures, he extracts useful directives which we can concretely put into action in our own lives. I loved the examples of communication effectively or ineffectively explored with reference to David, Abraham, Nicodemus, and Jesus.
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Dr. Michael D. Sedler's book When To Speak Up and When To Shut Up is best summarized by a quote found on page 137. He writes, "Silence. Speaking up. Both change destinies. When we use these tools inappropriately, we can do great harm. And when we use them as God intended, we can change our world for the better."

This book contains ten chapters. Sedler shares many personal stories throughout, which help to engage the reader. Clearly shown is the important of both silence and speech as well as the danger in using either at the wrong time. Sedler strongly encourages the reader to examine their motives carefully and warns readers to be careful not to justify ungodly motives.

Throughout the book, Sedler provides clear steps to apply his teaching, which results in many numbered lists or bullet points (perhaps too many). Overall, Sedler has many wise insights into relationships and he shows the value in knowing when to speak and when to keep silence, a trait which is difficult to master. He draws from real life situations as well sometimes sharing personal interactions with his children and other times relaying stories from his professional life. Each chapter ends with "One Final Thought" (a summary paragraph) and usually has a couple discussion/application questions as well. While this is an important topic, by the end of the book some points seemed redundant and it was easy to start to skim the pages when the material seemed familiar.

Sedler peppers his writing with biblical examples in order to demonstrate how the principles he is writing about are seen in Scripture. While this is generally a good idea, there were times when the biblical examples seemed forced.
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