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About the Author
Gary Thomas is a writer in residence at Second Baptist Church in Houston, Texas, and an adjunct faculty member teaching on spiritual formation at Western Seminary in Portland, Oregon and Houston Theological Seminary in Houston, Texas. He is the author of 19 books, including When to Walk Away, Sacred Pathways, Cherish, Sacred Parenting, the award-winning Authentic Faith, and Sacred Marriage – over one million copies sold. He has a master’s degree from Regent College, where he studied under Dr. J.I. Packer, and was awarded an honorary doctorate in divinity from Western Seminary. Gary has spoken in 49 states and 10 different countries. He has appeared numerous times on various national radio and television programs, including CBN, Focus on the Family and Family Life Today.
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- Publication date : October 8, 2019
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- Print length : 238 pages
- Publisher : Zondervan; Illustrated edition (October 8, 2019)
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I love the premise of this book that just because we are Christians, doesn’t mean that we have to stay in relationship with toxic people. “…toxic individuals feed off misunderstood piety and are enabled by false Christian guilt to spread their attacks far and wide.” (p.10) Gary intermixes examples from Scripture of how Jesus handled the various toxic people he encountered with examples from modern day life and how we to can walk away from others and still be Christians.
On page 13, we are given the following definition of toxic: “If Someone is getting in the way of you becoming the person God created you to be or frustrating the work God has called you to do, for you that person is toxic.”
Each of the twenty chapters has a section titled “Takeaways” at the end of the chapter that lists in bullet point format the main points that were stressed in the chapter. The appendix titled “Jesus Walking Away” lists the scriptures where Jesus walked away from toxic people he encountered as he went about his mission on earth.
“When to Walk Away”. touches on a subject and areas within toxic behaviors that the modern-day church has been loath to discuss. This book is for those wanting a starting place to look at toxic people, their behaviors (including sex addiction, pornography addiction, anger, and victim mentality to name a few) and how our missions are impacted by toxicity. “We hurt the people being hurt if we can’t call evil evil or toxicity toxic.” (p.135) Evil is on the lose and we live a very toxic society full of toxic people and toxic behavior. It’s time for the Church to speak of evil and equip its members, and this book is a good place to begin those conversations
I was part of a group that was able to read the book prior to it’s release. I have also purchased a copy of the book to reread it again and to share with my family.
I signed up to pre-read this book before it's release date and I pre-ordered it. I can't wait to read it again so I can highlight to keep for reference.
First, as a Bible-following Christian, there are a few concepts where I believe the author diverges from what the Bible teaches. One example is recommending a trial separation to a married couple, which I read as explicitly discouraged in the Bible, but all too popular in the world.
Second, the use of the word "murder" fifty thousand times so far in the book to describe every type of damage a destructive person can accomplish diminishes the meaning of the word and also seems to pander to victims, rather than provide Biblical guidance.
Third, I'm hoping this turns around as I move forward in the text, but so far it follows the stereotypical model of most books of this genre where the men are ogres and the women the victims. No doubt this happens, but hope that it gets more balanced at some point to help the thousands of men married to wives with personality disorders.
There are some good concepts in here, but the writing is immature and not quite as Bible based as the author and some reviewers state.
UPDATE: I wanted to update this and bump it from 3 to 4 stars. While a Christian should always check everything they read to see how it aligns with the Bible, this author does bring up some very interesting perspectives that were helpful. After reading many, many books in this area, he does present some fresh viewpoints that I really appreciated. On the downside, while he does speak generically about the gender of the toxic spouse, 99% (all but one) of the examples are men that are toxic. In the one example where the wife is toxic we never find out any suggestions or resolution. This makes the book more useful to Godly women than it does to Godly men. I really wish authors would balance this more because husbands in toxic marriages have very few resources and husbands face unique challenges in terms of pressure to "hang in there and lead" from the church and especially from male pastors that can't fully understand a marriage to a toxic wife.
I still don't believe 1 Cor 7:5 supports the idea of a therapeutic separation and might encourage others who struggle with this to consider the book "Redemptive Divorce" which I think offers an interesting alternative.
Unless you absolutely need the audio CD, I would recommend the book over the CD. The recording comes a cross a bit harsh in frequency at times.
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I was tempted to skip ahead to the chapters that I felt applied most to my personal situation but… I resisted the urge! I am glad I waited as all the conclusions (the chapter in question) arrives at, are set up in the previous chapters. It is important to read the chapters in their context! It was good to see how Gary Thomas explains the difference between a difficult person and a toxic one and he examines why it is OK to walk away from people who are toxic. He also adds a very helpful chapter on what to do when you yourself have become a toxic person.
I loved the real-life examples and ‘Takeaways’ at the end of each chapter. I have a Kindle version and ordered a hard copy version of this book and I know will revisit this book again and again (with highlighters and pens in hand!)
First, Gary takes a close look at the old and new testaments, and especially at Jesus's life and ministry, to show how people have dealt with challenging and toxic relationships. The Bible has more to say about this than we might've thought.
Second, as the title suggests, it's important to know that we are free to walk away from unhealthy relationships, and that we should put boundaries in place to stop the cycle of harm, codependency and enabling behaviours. But in the process, we need to keep our hearts in check. It's tempting to let ourselves become hardened and disdainful, and to retaliate against anyone who has hurt us. So I was glad to see Gary emphasize "keeping a tender heart even in unhealthy relationships." He also believes there are times when we may feel called to walk alongside someone who struggles with toxic relational behaviours, and it takes a tender heart to sense this calling and carry it out well.
These are only two of many highlights that stood out to me from this book, which is full of helpful examples and takeaways. I recommend it to anyone looking for a practical and Biblical approach to managing difficult relationships.