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  • Paperback: 239 pages
  • Publisher: Sourcebooks Casablanca; 1st edition (February 1, 2005)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 140220342X
  • ISBN-13: 978-1402203428
  • Product Dimensions: 6 x 0.6 x 8 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 10.4 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.3 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (30 customer reviews)
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I bought this book due to the great reviews and found myself disappointed.

It is a good book although rather simplistic and a little sexist. Dr. Campbell bases almost all of his research (I believe, from what I can find on Google regarding his Bibliography) on college students. He misses or dismisses any male narcissist over 35 (my guess here) and hardly mentions female narcissists.

If you are a woman in college or in your twenties and thirties and are still single, you will probably find this book valuable. It's all about how to date "nice men" and how to recognize and stay away from Narcissist playboys.

If you are married to or divorced from a narcissist, not so much. He completely misses what happens to us once we are sucked into the narcissist's vortex. He only hints that it is much harder to leave if you have time invested (investments) and counsels women to think about this as well as the other factors from research of a Professor Rusbult.

In my experience it's a whole lot harder. Especially if you have been traumatized by a narcissist. If you have spent any amount of time living with one, you probably have been traumatized. Dr. Campbell misses the boat by not stating this clearly.

I also found the comments from Dr. Campbell that narcissists grow out of their narcissism as they age due to reduction in testosterone ridiculous. He should meet my ex husband. He should talk to women in domestic violence support groups. He should talk to Lundy Bancroft or Patricia Evans. He should talk to men who are married to narcissist abusers.

If you think you are dating a narcissist or have dated one, or want to know how not to make the same mistake and end up married to one - again, then buy this book. I give it 3 stars instead of 2 because his dating advice is pretty good.

If you are married to one or divorced from one and are trying to heal - look elsewhere.
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This is a great book, a combination of real-life stories and first-rate research that's also wryly humorous at times. The combination makes for a very informative and enjoyable read.

The information in the book is extremely helpful. Because I teach psychology myself, I learned about Dr. Campbell's research several years ago. Realizing that my ex was a narcissist finally explained why things just weren't working. Leaving that relationship was the best thing I ever did. And when I started dating again, I looked for someone who was definitely NOT a narcissist. I'm happy to say I found him, and it really does make all the difference.

Now when I teach a class in personality psychology, I hand out a copy of a narcissism measure. I sometimes call it "the boyfriend test"! A form of this questionnaire is in the book. It's probably the most helpful screening test for men ever invented, because you might not realize right away that someone is a narcissist (they can be so charming at first). This book tells you how to spot the narcissists.

Very few relationship books out there give such solid and helpful advice. Buy one for yourself and several to hand out to friends!
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The day my nemesis narcissist ex-boyfriend broke up with me, I flew out of town and started reading this book on the flight. Five days later, I finished it on the flight home. Although I am still crying, this booked helped me do a lot of healing.

I would have bought this book sooner (and it would have saved me unnecessary additional heartache) but too many reviewers said the book was "funny." I found it sad that a book would address such a painful subject with humor. Dating a narcissist feels like a cancer growing inside of you. It eats you alive and spreads like poison. I didn't find a damn thing funny about the HELL I was going through after Narcissist Man turned off the charm and turned on the torture literally overnight! What kind of a monster does NOT call his girlfriend the day after she gets into a car-totalling accident to see how she is feeling?

Desperate for help, I reconsidered and bought this book. I did not find it full of humor. On the contrary, the book is very understanding and sympathetic with what women suffer by dating men like the man that shredded my heart. I learned a TON and even though it still hurts, I feel better knowing that it was NOT my fault and that I am not alone. The book teaches that the reason women are so DEVASTATED by these men, even after very short relationships (mine was 2.5 months) is because the narcissist is so callous and so cruel and absolutely, positively, NOT SORRY. Apologies were invented to soften pain and disappointment. Narcissists will not apologize because they literally feel NO GUILT. It is as if they are not even human. This is what makes the pain so unbearable and what causes you to not be able to stop thinking about him. You can't make sense out of insanity but your brain is programmed to apply logic.
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If you love a man who loves himself, you really need to read this book. W. Keith Campbell has written a very informative and useful book for women who find themselves involved with a narcissist. It is refreshing to read a book about narcissism by an author who is actually an expert on the subject. Although the book is written for the everyday reader, the author does not "write down" or condescend to his audience. I really like the title the author chose, because rather than the term "narcissism", he chose to use the defining characteristic of narcissism "a man who loves himself". I picture someone in just the situation I was in a few years ago, with no clue what narcissism is, looking through relationship books trying to make sense of the strange thing that was going on in her life, and picking up this book. Before I discovered what narcissim was, I wasted my time reading relationship books like "Men Who Hate Women and the Women Who Love Them", which did not help me figure out that my significant other had a severe personality disorder. I, like many others in a relationship with a pathological narcissist, was being conned out of money, cheated on and gaslighted, made to think that I was crazy for suspecting such a handsome and intelligent man was lying to me. If you are dealing with a narcissist, you need to read this book. Thank you Mr. Campbell.
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