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Whom Not to Marry: Time-Tested Advice from a Higher Authority Hardcover – April 27, 2010
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About the Author
A 79-year-old Catholic priest born in Australia and based in Bordentown, N.J., Father Pat Connor has spent his life - including nine years as a missionary in India - tending to and counseling his parishioners. This is his first book.
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Father Connor does not believe that love conquers all either. His goal is for women to walk into the wedding chapel with open eyes, to see marriage and their intended partners as realistically as possible. Using the beautiful passage "Love is kind. Love is patient" (1 Corinthians 13:4-8) as a starting point, Father Connor expands on the seven qualities of love and teaches readers how to use them in order to choose the right partner and to build a solid foundation for a happy marriage. Communication, respect, consideration, kindness, empathy are just a few of the qualities women should look for in their men and also nurture in their marriage. Men who are lacking these positive qualities are therefore not "marriage material." What I like about Father Connor is that he's not afraid to tell readers so. "Never marry a man who tries to control you," he writes. "Never marry a man you have constantly have to make excuses for." There are no ifs or buts. There is finality in the "never": That man is not good for you. Period.
Readers might have heard some of the advice found in "Whom Not to Marry" before, but Father Connor makes worth reading them again. Anybody who's dating should keep this book handy. I know I will. My favorite "never" from Father Connor's book is: "Don't marry a man who is too selfish to do himself what he asks of you." My favorite advice to remember is "In a marriage, it's character that counts." Hear, hear!
However, I think the book's title, although clever, is a little misplaced. First of all, the actual structure of the book is based on a Bible passage that describes different aspects of love. It goes through different qualities that a man ought to have, and issues or questions you should be considering before you do get married. This is a minor quibble, but the book is not actually all that focused on negative qualities but rather positive things which your boyfriend/fiance should exhibit.
Secondly, the book's subtitle is obviously calling your attention to the fact that the author is a Catholic priest, however, I felt that this book was really not very religious at all. That might be a good thing in your perspective! The author obviously imagines his reader to be a very secular person and makes an effort to leave things fairly religiously neutral. Again, this might be something you appreciate, but Christian and Catholic women should be aware that this is not a book that attempts to give you guidance as a Christian trying to live a Christian life.
That said, "time tested advice" is exactly correct. This is a man who has obviously seen a lot and in this book he shares with you his thoughts and advice. He guides you through many different aspects of love and relationships which should be considered when deciding to get married. I thought he managed to bring out some interesting issues and if you used this as a survey of your relationship I think it would be very thorough. I would say the ideal reader for this book would be a woman who is engaged or starting to think about marriage.
I read this using Kindle for iPhone, which was an ok experience. There are a lot of little block quotes thrown in which I imagine are sidebars in the printed text but become somewhat distracting on a small screen. Not a big deal though, and not something that affected my rating.