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silly and kind of pathetic
on August 30, 2011
I'm a clinical psychologist, and I found this book really lacking in substance. A much better book on this topic is "Have Him at Hello." (The title is bad, but the book is great, research based, and constructive.)
Why Hasn't He Called, has many problems. First of all, there are more than 5 kinds of men. Pretty obvious, huh? The categories are over-simplified and apply only to a narrow percentage of men. They also overlap.
Secondly, the advice is really limiting for future relationships. For example, have your cats stay at a friend's house the first night your bf sleeps over. Really? The reason given was cats are synonymous with being a spinster. This is just stupid. (And I'm not reacting from personal feelings, I have dogs.) What if you stay together, and he later asks you to get rid of your pets. That would suck. I've known people who have gone through this. If he doesn't like your pets, dump him!
An over-all problem with this book is that most human beings already have these basic social skills. Would you really talk about marriage and babies on the first date? If so, you're probably not smart enough to even read a book. If a man talked about marriage and babies on the first date, I would run in the other direction!
Other poor advice includes hiding Bibles and other religious books from your home. What if you met at church or on a Christian dating site? In certain parts of the country, having a Bible around might be pretty normal. - (And I'm not religious, just making a point.)
Much of the advice also seems to be regionally based. Some of these things only apply to cities in the Northeast. In most places in America, you won't be walking home from a date or have a doorman.
That brings me to another point, it's also pretty elitist. Most of us don't have doormen. I don't actually know anyone who has a doorman! (And I have a doctorate and a great job.)
If you have an IQ that's even slightly over average, and decent social skills, you don't need this book. Save your time and money! The authors just aren't that bright. You can do better.