- Hardcover: 300 pages
- Publisher: Polity; 1 edition (June 5, 2012)
- Language: English
- ISBN-10: 0745661521
- ISBN-13: 978-0745661520
- Product Dimensions: 6.4 x 1.1 x 9.3 inches
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- Average Customer Review: 3.6 out of 5 stars See all reviews (18 customer reviews)
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Why Love Hurts: A Sociological Explanation Hardcover – June 5, 2012
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Winner of the 2014 ASA 'Sociology of Emotions Recent Contribution Award
"A bold, thought-provoking book."
Times Higher Education
"An important book … full of arresting ideas about love in our time"
Los Angeles Review of Books
"A significant achievement, a major analysis of love and an important contribution to sociology. It deserves to have a wide readership wherever love is."
"A valuable and much needed contribution to the Western discussion of how emotions and capitalism influence each other."
"An insightful attempt at tackling the timely and difficult question of the relationship between romantic suffering and (post)modernity."
"Illouz interrogates the travails of modern love and charts a course through the emotional geography of contemporary feeling … [This book] will surely prove to make a valuable contribution as an addition to student reading lists, both for the ideas that it puts forward and for the lively debate and heart-felt discussion that it will generate among both women and men."
LSE Review of Books
"Like any sociologist worth her salt, Illouz pushes readers to consider how our experience of love might largely be created by the kind of society we live in. Tracing a sort of history of emotions through archives and literature since the Regency era, she argues that in earlier times people’s feelings about love and sentiment were quite different from those we take as self-evident ... It is not our own fault love hurts, Illouz tells us; it is inherent to our modern condition."
"Why Love Hurts is a tour de force, a thrilling read. Unseating the primacy of individual psychology as the reigning explanation for the travails of modern love, and demonstrating the profoundly social nature of our most intimate feelings, Eva Illouz etches a whole new emotional atlas."
Laura Kipnis, Northwestern University, and author of Against Love: A Polemic
"Eva Illouz's Why Love Hurts is brilliant - the indispensable book on the social power and meaning of sex and love. And with a bonus: it cuts to the core of the modern emotional condition, all told."
Todd Gitlin, Columbia University
"Eva Illouz's enormous talent to interpret vast empirical material from interviews, statistics, magazines, and novels with sociological imagination and philosophical understanding leads to striking and well-grounded results, such as the increasingly important role of sexiness and physical attraction in choosing mates. A milestone in the investigation of changing patterns of love and marriage."
Axel Honneth, University of Frankfurt and Columbia University
"In this bold and ground-breaking book Eva Illouz argues that there is something qualitatively new in the modern experience of romantic suffering. Readers may not agree with all of Illouz's hypotheses, but none will fail to be provoked by them - and in so doing be forced to challenge their own assumptions about love and modern life itself."
Susan Neiman, Director of the Einstein Forum and author of Moral Clarity: A Guide for Grownup Idealists
"Recently named one of the most important thinkers of the future by German newspaper Die Zeit, Illouz could very well be the twenty-first century's next great public intellectual."
Guernica: A Magazine of Art & Politics
"No one will be able to discuss love without referring to this book."
About the Author
Eva Illouz is Rose Isaac Chair of Sociology at the Hebrew University of Jerusalem and a member of the Center for the Study of Rationality. Her previous books include Cold Intimacies: The Making of Emotional Capitalism and Consuming the Romantic Utopia: Love and the Cultural Contradictions of Capitalism. Her book Oprah Winfrey and the Glamour of Misery won the American Sociological Association, Culture Section Best Book Award, in 2005.
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Dr. Naomi Kehati Bronner, Clinical Psychologist
I hate giving one star, because I know it makes me look like a crazy person with an axe to ground, but this may be the "most unreadable* book I have ever mistaken for pleasure reading. I know quite a few others who feel the same way (this was a book club selection), so I'm extremely skeptical of the high reviews. Even if all the other reviewers are academics, in which case they should identify themselves as such, I doubt they finished the book.
TL;dr This book is positively Derrida-esque - in fact, Derrida is quoted at one point. It is UNREADABLE.
What I take away from this is that we must be conscious of the influence of the society around us. While we can never be independent of society's influence -- we are all part of society -- we must be willing to consider the good of the beloved, the good of the relationship, before any other concern -- even social norms. Even over our own individual freedom and desires. Furthermore, we can't fall back too much on superficial sex differences, or risk prolonging unnecessary suffering. We must be willing to look the beloved straight in the eye and try to see who is really there -- and then to serve the good of that person.
That means we need to be willing to take the first step toward change, and not wait for the other person to change or improve first. That unilateral leap is covered in practical terms in Olsen and Stephen's excellent The Couple's Survival Workbook. That book is recommended for those looking to create positive change in their relationship themselves. Similar to Impossible Love Love Hurts can help you to understand why things are the way they are in the first place -- even if you're not ready to make the leap.
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