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Why Men Hate Going to Church Paperback – October 31, 2011
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Murrow, a television writer and producer, asks and effectively answers the question: "What is it about modern Christianity that is driving men away?" Just 35% of American men say they attend church weekly, he reports, and women make up more than 60% of the typical congregation on a given Sunday. Murrow contends that the church caters to women, children and the elderly by creating a safe, predictable environment. This alienates anyone fond of risk taking, including young men and women, but men are affected most. In order to reach men, Murrow suggests, churches must "adjust the thermostat" to embrace the masculine spirit: let men lead; give them tasks; encourage pastors to show strength and teach men through object lessons, letting them discover truth for themselves. Two of the best outreach methods: start rigorous mentoring programs and help men make friends with other men. Murrow bases his conclusions on what he claims are legitimate biological and cultural gender differences. He is aware that these observations might offend, and his thesis will find few takers among those who believe that the church needs less, not more, male influence. But Murrow's work is quite likely to get an enthusiastic reception from many Christian men. It contains sharp observations that will provoke much discussion—and, perhaps, some change. (Mar. 24)
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According to the author, American men hate going to church, as evidenced by a wealth of statistics that point to an ever-widening gap between female and male churchgoers. Regardless of denomination, it appears that most Christian churches are unintentionally designed to appeal to women and children. How to solve the growing gender gap in congregations of every type? Murrow advocates injecting a strong shot of testosterone into the proceedings to restore the masculine spirit to the church. Churches need to provide a more challenging and confrontational approach to religion and spiritual issues instead of concentrating on more traditional-- and female-oriented--calls for conformity, control, and ceremony. Whether or not you fully buy into his somewhat simplistic hypothesis and solution, Murrow does provide some provocative food for thought on a hot-button topic. Margaret Flanagan
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This book should be read by anyone who has ever felt unconfortable singing "Jesus is my boyfriend" (You know the songs) or holding hands for awkwardly long periods of time with the guy next to you.
But this book doesn't just whine, it also provides a plan for getting men interested in the church again: make them do guy stuff.
We need guy-friendly churches. Men don't feel comfortable in church & this book tells you how that happened - starting, I believe, as early as 700 AD (coincidentally, around the same time Islam was growing in influence). It shows what happened when male attendance waned, compared to when it waxed & churches had a balance of both men & women. it shows how life improves for a family in a guy-friendly environment, & gives ideas on how to do that no matter how small the congregation, or how old. Guy friendly churches also appeal to younger people, reversing the greying of the church.
I'm not sure your men will read this book, ladies - but if you do, they might not have to. Say a prayer, read the book, keep it handy, & share it with other women in your church, & the pastor, & see what happens if you make your church guy-friendly. It has already worked in those mega-churches, but it's working for smaller congregations as well.
PS - Ladies, if you're a tomboy type like me, & have always enjoyed things that are considered male-friendly, you might have found that you weren't always comfortable in church yourself. If so, you will find this book doubly enlightening.
With this book, Murrow is trying to do something about it. There's room for a lot of disagreement about his assertions, conclusions, and recommendations. I like a lot of what he says in the book, while disagreeing with some of it. But he has done something important in just providing a starting point for a discussion that needs to happen in most mainline congregations.
The Sunday after finishing the book, I walked around my church building looking for signs of a "feminized" facility. There were a couple things that could be red flags, but for the most part our building is neutral in appearance rather than feminine or masculine. The worship service likewise had a couple of elements that I felt were slanted more towards women than men - but not overwhelmingly so. Perhaps for those reasons, the attendance I counted - 56% female, 44% male - was not as sharply divided as the 61%-39% national average cited in the book. Still, it's enough of a gap that it should not be ignored by my congregation's leaders. Yet they are ignoring it. Our membership is declining, and we're wondering why. This book might provide at least some of the answers.
As the title states, this is not a how book, it is a why book. And most times the why is much more important than the how.