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Women With Attention Deficit Disorder: Embrace Your Differences and Transform Your Life Kindle Edition

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Women with Attention Deficit Disorder, psychotherapist Sari Solden's, groundbreaking book, explains how every year, millions of withdrawn little girls and chronically overwhelmed women go undiagnosed with Attention Deficit Disorder because they don't fit the stereotypical profile: they're not fast-talking, hyperactive, or inattentive, and they are not male.

This pioneering book explores treatment and counseling options, and uses real-life case histories to examine the special challenges women with AD/HD face, such as the shame of not fulfilling societal expectations. Solden explains that AD/HD affects just as many women as men, and often results in depression, disorganization, anxiety, and underachievement.

Included in this revised edition is a brand new chapter on friendship challenges for women with AD/HD. Three empowering steps — restructuring one's life, renegotiating relationships, and redefining self-image — help women take control of their lives and enjoy success on their own terms.

"Sari Solden has used her personal and professional experience to shine some light into the dark closet inhabited by far too many ADD women... She empowers ADD women by validating their experience as worthwhile human beings who struggle with serious organizational problems in many areas of their lives." (Kate Kelly and Peggy Ramundo, authors of You Mean I'm Not Lazy, Stupid, or Crazy")

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By examining the interplay between genetics and environment, Sari Solden has broken new ground in Women With Attention Deficit Disorder. --John J. Ratey, MD, co-author Driven to Distraction

About the Author

Sari Solden, MS, is a psychotherapist in private practice who has worked with adults with ADHD and their partners for over thirty years. She serves on the advisory board of the Attention Deficit Disorder Association and trains mental health care professionals in the diagnosis and treatment of adult ADD. She is also the author of Journeys Through ADDulthood.

Sari Solden, MS, LMFT, a psychotherapist in private practice in Ann Arbor, Michigan, has worked with adults with ADHD and their partners for over twenty-five years. Sari is the author of Women with Attention Deficit Disorder and Journeys Through ADDulthood. She is a prominent speaker at both national and international ADHD conferences, serves on the professional advisory board of ADDA, has served on the program conference committee for national CHADD, and is a past recipient of ADDA's award for outstanding service by a helping professional. Her areas of specialization include inattentive ADHD, women's issues, as well as the long term counseling issues for adults not diagnosed until adulthood. Sari currently hosts and presents on ADDJourneys.com, her online community for adults with ADHD.

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  • ASIN ‏ : ‎ B008RDNRXE
  • Publisher ‏ : ‎ Introspect Press (July 31, 2012)
  • Publication date ‏ : ‎ July 31, 2012
  • Language ‏ : ‎ English
  • File size ‏ : ‎ 4545 KB
  • Text-to-Speech ‏ : ‎ Enabled
  • Screen Reader ‏ : ‎ Supported
  • Enhanced typesetting ‏ : ‎ Enabled
  • X-Ray ‏ : ‎ Enabled
  • Word Wise ‏ : ‎ Enabled
  • Sticky notes ‏ : ‎ On Kindle Scribe
  • Print length ‏ : ‎ 515 pages
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Sari Solden, M.S, is a psychotherapist in Ann Arbor, Michigan where she has counseled women and men with ADHD for 35 years. She is the author of the pioneering books Women with Attention Deficit Disorder (revised edition 2005 by Introspect Press LLC) and Journeys Through ADDulthood (reprint) by Introspect Press, LLC (coming out June 2023). Her third book (July 2019) by New Harbinger with co-author, Michelle Frank, Psy.D., is called A Radical Guide for Women with ADHD: Embrace Neurodiversity, Live Boldly, and Break Through Barriers. Sari's areas of specialization include women and ADHD, inattentive ADHD, and the emotional consequences and healing process for adults who grew up with undiagnosed ADHD. She has been a prominent keynote speaker for international and national forums on these issues for thirty years. She currently consults with and mentors neurodiverse mental health professionals. She serves on the professional advisory board of ADDA and was a past recipient of their award for outstanding service by a helping professional.

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If you are a girl who thinks they might of been misdiagnosed with anxiety, depression,agoraphobia, ocd and it might actually be ADHD or it you know an ADHD women in your life you have to read "Women with Attention Deficit Disorder- Embrace your differences and transform your life" If you have not read this book by Sari Solden MS, LMFT READ IT! Omg I have never seen ME in a book like this before. EVERYTHING down to how we were as kids to adults, to the type of men we are drawn to, EVEN my struggles with list!"People start compensating for memory and executive functioning problems with list that become a bigger problem than the original symptom, taking up more and more time, making someone a slave to the list rather than using it as a tool. I recently learned of a man with adhd who took this to the extreme and made daily list up to 20 pgs in 5 point font, single spaced. Its hard to know how or when to stop, especially if you have some compulsivity thrown with your trouble with categorization. You can wind up with a long list of unrelated items." Pg 195. That is what happened to me when I was 19/20!This is insane. This is the missing puzzle piece that I have been struggling my whole life to understand. How can there be so many people just like me? How can there be a book that knows my deep pain and downward spiral I have been in since college? The pain and struggle of my childhood years.I never understood ADHD before. I thought it was something that schools slapped on kids to make them conform to school. I thought public school was too hard after it took me 8 hours to figure out daughters social studies book was just telling me to read her a book about george washington and practice reciting the pledge. I thought they were insane to make the teachers manual that hard. I didnt know it was my brain making it that hard.I didnt know that just living was not suppose to be this hard. Why I would blow up on my family if they asked me to do something simple like pick something up from the store since I was already leaving the house. Everyone always told me Im just too hard on my self, girls are just emotional, that I just overwork myself- but since Covid I only work 8 hours a week, my daughter is old enough to feed herself and pick up after herself, I fired the school and made homeschool super simple and no one cared that I couldnt maintain the house and I STILL couldnt function!I thought I was crazy. I thought I just came from a long line of insane people and there was no hope for me. That I was trapped inside myself, trapped with the never ending organizing and cleaning that made me not even want to go to work or hang out with friends because how could I leave this disaster?This is a must read for girls that have ADHD and didnt find out until adulthood.It has been a rollar coaster for me as I was just recently diagnosed this month at 29 years old!
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Reviewed in the United States on April 19, 2022
At 65 years old I found myself less able to navigate the swelling seas of life anymore. Under the care of a psychiatrist for 20 years, my condition was wrongly diagnosed. None of medications worked. I forefitted decades of wellness while blaming myself when medication didn't unlock my scrambled behaviors. I suppose it was me that saved my own life by changing doctors. He could immediately see that I the reason why I was having so much trouble understanding or using behavior coping tools was because I had uncontrolled ADHD, not Bipolar Disoder. If you have had a late in life diagnosis of ADHD, the news might hit you hard; I was devastated. It felt like being bullied, and it left me feeling even more damaged. But, I feel much better now that I am taking appropriate medications. Ready to do research on my experiences, I chose this book about my ADHD condition. I am so grateful to Sari Solden for writing this book. She clearly explains this troubling condition, and has pulled back a curtain that exposes why I am not alone. She addesses many questions from misdiagnosis to why women tend to blame themselves for feeling like their lives are coming apart. I bought every other book Solden has written on this topic. Her delivery is clearly presented in a writing style that isn't cloaked in jargon. Also, chapters and specific topics are clearly titled so I am able to find information on issues fine tuned to me and go directly to them. Within minutes Idiscover information about issues and experiences that I had, and I was learning why they happen to me. I finally found answers as well as a clearer awareness of what truly is askew with me. I'm really encouraged, yet still a little bit devastated. Solden's books, however, surely provide empowerment. Please give this book a look. I still find nuggets and missing pieces of myself each time I look inside.
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Reviewed in the United States on January 9, 2010
The idea or diagnosis of ADD/ADHD can lead to paradoxical confusion, particularly for those who are hypo-active (opposite of hyperactive): whose brains can become so full of ideas, messages, etc. that they cannot get up, leave the house, or make a "simple" phone call. As a result, people with (or near) ADHD reject the diagnosis as an excuse rather than a medical condition.

People who have ADHD are often extraordinarily bright, high achievers, even "miracle workers" among peers. Common companions to this level of achievement are monumental effort, inability to perform, and huge inconsistencies in application of skills.

What people near an individual with ADHD rarely realize is how well that individual is hiding the tremendous time, effort, and inconsistencies behind their accomplishments. All the public sees is the "magic" the ADHD individual can work. What's hidden is the extreme opposite (the "dark side"): an inability to perform so pronounced that the person with ADHD herself cannot grasp a reliable self-image from the enormous range between the low and high sides of her performance. When she shares her difficulties or others learn of them, her peers often react in disbelief and even mockery of the idea that this extraordinary, highly intelligent person cannot manage an everyday task like clearing clutter, doing the dishes, or paying bills. People with ADHD make life-altering decisions in an effort to avoid the failure, discovery of, or mockery/disbelief from peers: they move, quit their jobs, change majors, quit school, pick up addictive habits (self-medicating) like heavy caffeine usage, and so on (Solden, 2008).

Solden confirms that ADHD results in cognitive and psychological challenges, but it is a physical ailment that is medically identifiable via MRI (2008). More often, individuals are diagnosed through various psychological tests and questionnaires that are diagnostically sufficient but enable the patient to assume an ability (and failure) to control the symptoms of ADHD far beyond what is realistic. The result is that they blame and berate themselves for non or poor performance. "I need to try harder, get up earlier, start sooner, do better, wake up, stop doing this" or "I'm lazy, ungrateful, slovenly, undeserving, etc." Compounding this assumption is the ADHD person's sense of shame resulting from a history of parental, other authoritative, and internal messages admonishing messy desks or bedrooms, lateness, forgetfulness, etc. In a nutshell, the person with ADHD tends to blame himself and does not accept excuses for his shortcomings, attributing failure to character flaws rather than a breakdown in cognitive (specifically executive) functions in the physical brain (Solden, 2008). Because of this, the ADHD individual sees a diagnosis of ADHD as an "excuse" rather than a disease, resulting in delay of diagnostic clarification, treatment, and recovery.

What Solden does extremely well is to identify the variety of manifestations one encounters in an individual with ADHD, their common sources, and pathways to recovery. She addresses the far lesser known and often misunderstood hypo-active individual, finally making sense of the individuals' tendency toward low activity, low stimulation, the feeling of paralysis, and the overwhelm that leads to the behavior.

Yes, as another reader pointed out, the proofreading for this book was sorely neglected. It is more rife with unintentional grammatical errors than any mass-produced book I've read (that's a lot of books). Surprisingly, I did not find them annoying enough to detract from the reading experience: the content is powerful.

If you have or know someone - male or female - with ADD, ADHD, or anything related, get this book ASAP.
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Reviewed in the United States on May 30, 2023
If you've ever struggled to I understand how ADHD effects women differently than men, this is the book for you. As I read through the first few chapters, it felt as though I was reading my life story. This book explains ADHD in easy to understand terms, helps to self assess, abd takes you through strategies to embrace your diagnosis and prioritize your needs in relationships, personal life, work life and redefine your self image.

There is a lot to digest, but this book us written in a way that is easy to comprehend. I've seen positive changes in my habits and health through using thus book.
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Reviewed in the United States on May 30, 2023
If you've ever struggled to I understand how ADHD effects women differently than men, this is the book for you. As I read through the first few chapters, it felt as though I was reading my life story. This book explains ADHD in easy to understand terms, helps to self assess, abd takes you through strategies to embrace your diagnosis and prioritize your needs in relationships, personal life, work life and redefine your self image.

There is a lot to digest, but this book us written in a way that is easy to comprehend. I've seen positive changes in my habits and health through using thus book.
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Reviewed in the United States on December 28, 2021
This is a trailblazing and great book that I am sure has helped a ton of women! I am currently enjoying reading (and skimming) it. However, I do wish that the book appealed to a broader group of women, including those of the "hyperactive" variety. To be fair, the author explicitly states that this book is more focused on the inattentive type of ADHD, as this may be more prevalent and likely to be missed among women. But we hyperactives have our own host of problems and it was hard to relate to some of the issues discussed in the book. For example, even though I am an adult woman and do not fit the mold of the stereotypical hyperactive boy with ADHD, I am not timid, shy, or an over-thinker when it comes to my social interactions. However, I do struggle with saying things I don't mean and immediately regret, which causes problems in my marriage. I also think that the target audience and women's issues analyzed in the majority of the book are issues that plague heterosexual, upper middle class women. Perhaps it's partly my more hyperactive nature and/or that I am a lesbian, but I did not relate to a lot of the societal expectations and home maker-oriented concerns discussed in the book. I would absolutely love to read a book about more hyperactive women like myself who thrust themselves into high stress careers and engage in a variety of hobbies and high impact sports (injuries and all)!!!
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5.0 out of 5 stars A must read for women diagnosed with ADHD/ADD!
Reviewed in Canada on May 16, 2018
An excellent book for women diagnosed with ADD/ADHD. As a middle aged woman who had muddled through for years, this book was a welcome addition to my library / life. It helped me understand myself so much better, allowed me to build on the information my specialist was providing and gave me such great insight...which led to being able to accept the way my brain works rather than continue on feeling like a failure. Highly recommend!
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ukulele
5.0 out of 5 stars Ground breaking book. Would love a new edition.
Reviewed in Australia on December 26, 2023
Although it's old book the content speaks to the heart and is relevant today. Hoping the author will write a new edition but can recommend this book 100%.
Deborah C
5.0 out of 5 stars Essential for any Woman with ADD
Reviewed in the United Kingdom on December 31, 2010
Someone recently suggested to me that I may have ADD, and with the image of hyperactive young boys in my head, I laughed. And then I started researching.
There is a lot of information ADD on the Internet, and a number of good books for ADD in Adults. I was already starting to identify with many of the symptoms from my initial research, and then I read Sari Solden's book.

It was like she'd observed and documented my life. There are so many behaviours that I had which I would never have related to ADD until I read about them. I felt an enormous sense of relief that this wasn't just me. And an enormous sense of grief that there is no magic cure and that the best route to success involves support from other people which at the moment I cannot afford.

Having said that, I am also aware, thanks to Sari, that the symptoms of ADD can be attributed to many other things - depression (which came first, the depression or the ADD?!), post traumatic stress disorder, hormonal issues. I am as yet undiagnosed but at least the book has given me a framework for identifying the challenges that I have, no matter what the cause, so that I can start to put solutions in place and try to at least pursue a diagnosis within the confines of the NHS. Wish me luck.

At the very minimum, this book serves as a well-written explanation that can be given to family and close friends so that they can gain understanding of the issues that you have - things that they may well take for granted. On a moderate level, it's the structure for a long term plan of making a success of your life with the brain that you have.
The true value in the book, for me, was in reading something specifically written for women. It's empathic, comprehensive and will be read time and time again. I cannot recommend it highly enough. Thank you, Sari!
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Duaa E Zaynab Jafri
3.0 out of 5 stars Okayish
Reviewed in Germany on October 12, 2022
Good start but nothing too informative. A lot of repitition.
dragonfly
5.0 out of 5 stars A must-read if you are a woman diagnosed with ADHD
Reviewed in Canada on August 2, 2017
I recommend this as the first book that you read if you are a woman diagnosed with ADHD. I felt that the writer was in my head and fully understood all that I have been struggling with all these years, having just been diagnosed at age 63. The writing is highly understandable, upbeat and humorous. The examples are spot-on. There are numerous helpful strategies, but I liked this book best as a book to give insight into an array of baffling symptoms. This is a comprehensive book that you will go back to time and time again if you are a woman diagnosed with ADHD.
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