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PreSchool-Grade 2–This cheerful, instructive title highlights the power of words. The focus is on children taking personal responsibility for what they say, as well as thinking before speaking. Communication skills that promote friendship and other key social skills are encouraged. Bright, colorful illustrations convey the messages well via body language and facial expression. Examples expose the negative impact caused by the use of hurtful words and the effective use of the simple, powerful phrase, "I'm sorry." Also included are steps for adults and children to take to get help with a serious problem, such as abuse. This title is similar in scope to Lauren Murphy Payne and Claudia Rohling's We Can Get Along (Free Spirit, 1997), but encompasses a broader range of relationships, along with activity and discussion suggestions for involved adults.–Sharon A. Neal, Immaculata University, PA
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PreS. Before addressing the topic of the power of language, Verdick helps preschoolers focus on the fun of it, with words that are super short, really long, or just plain silly. She reminds young children that their words belong to them; they choose what to say and how to say it. She uses examples to help preschoolers understand how words can be helpful ("Let's work together") or hurtful ("You're stupid"), and she explores the feelings that result after hearing unkind words. She also explains how to take back hateful words by saying "I'm sorry," and what children can do when they hear something cruel being said. The brightly colored drawings, which bring the minimal text to life, are especially effective at showing the range of emotions children experience when they hear unkind language. An excellent resource for sharing at home and at preschools, this title closes with activities and discussion starters for adults to use with young children. Karen Hutt
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Product Details

  • Age Range: 4 - 7 years
  • Grade Level: Preschool and up
  • Lexile Measure: AD200L (What's this?)
  • Series: Best Behavior Series
  • Paperback: 40 pages
  • Publisher: Free Spirit Publishing; Ages 4-7, Paperback edition (April 15, 2004)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 1575421569
  • ISBN-13: 978-1575421568
  • Product Dimensions: 9 x 0.2 x 9 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 8 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.7 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (76 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #29,580 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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Written by parenting columnist Elizabeth Verdick with an age-appropriate vocabulary, and illustrated by Marieka Heinlen, Words Are Not For Hurting was designed especially for children ages 4 to 7, a time of growing vocabularies and increasing social interaction with peers and others. The simple, positive message is think before speaking, and choosing not only what to say but how to say it. Young readers will also learn of the power in saying "I'm sorry" when the speak words that hurt the feelings of others. Enhanced with a special section at the end that includes activities and discussion starters, Words Are Not For Hurting is confidently recommended for home, school, and childcare center early childhood library resources and character education reading lists.
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This is an excellent book using age appropriate language to send out the message of just how hurtful and harmful words can be. We all know the doggerel bravado verse of sticks and stones is just a crock. I never bought it because words are infinitely more painful than any stick or stone. I think that deceptive verse should be changed to:

Sticks and stones may break my bones,
But words hurt so much more.

Words have the power to hurt or build esteem; to reinforce one's self image and to cause one to feel they are liked or disliked. I think this is an excellent book with a message that cannot be stressed enough. The activities and teaching how to give sincere apologies as opposed to those to appease the adult in question with the idea of deflecting further punishment is also an invaluable lesson. I also like the way the message of harmful words are not limited to peers. It is a good wake up call to how adults in general talk to children and to one another. This book deserves a place of honor!
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My son is three and a half and goes to daycare. He's exactly at the age where he's picking up a lot vocabulary (not all desirable) from school and friends which he's using to express his anger or frustration. I thought it was a good book to help him understand the power of words and how he can use positive words instead of negative ones...even to express his negative emotions. It's slow going but the book helped me with ideas and with words to coach him.
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This book does a great job reinforcing how powerful words are. The book sends out a great message in a child centered and creative way.
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As a special education teacher, I struggled to find a series of books to address the aggression issues arising. These are straightforward, and easy to reference in conversation with children.

They're great at work as well as at home, with my five year old.
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My 18 mo grand daughter has loved these books for months. I can see her being able to get use from them for a long time. Will be helpful when she is learning to read. We have been talking about the images and concepts since she was about 6 months old.
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This series of books has been great for my 2 year old; they capture his attention - which is hard to do. They are well written (easy to add-lib personal things you want to touch on), very colorful, good length.
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My son has had some anger issues, so I ordered all the books in this series. He loves them! He asks to read them all the time, and they even seem to be helping a little, too. This particular book also includes many helpful ideas for dealing with anger and temper tantrums. I'll take any help I can get!
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