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Working for You Isn't Working for Me: How to Get Ahead When Your Boss Holds You Back Paperback – September 28, 2010
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About the Author
Katherine Crowley is a Harvard-trained psychotherapist, and Kathi Elster is a management consultant and executive coach. They run K Squared Enterprises, a training firm that helps clients manage difficult situations in the workplace.
Top Customer Reviews
I'm currently in a job that I love, working with people who are fantastic, but my boss sucks. I really don't want to leave my job, so what should I do? I read this book and it has changed my entire work experience. I've found that she perfectly fits one of the 20 boss types described in the book. And I perfectly fit one of the 20 employee types described. The book has given me a whole list of things to keep in mind when I get frustrated and angry with my boss. Now I can conjure up the mantra in my mind, and wow... I can let it go. I don't LIKE what she does, and I still think she could do a much better job, but I'm no longer angry and sullen about her dumb decisions. In fact, it's kinda entertaining watching to see if she'll keep repeating her predictable behaviours without even realising.
I've spent years reading books on people management, and very few have come this close to giving practical, easy to follow advice on how to deal with a particular situation. I've referred to this book numerous times myself and constantly recommend it to friends and colleagues.
If you can't stand your boss, but you want some practical tools for dealing with the situation at hand, then this is the book for you. And if the authors describe a manager who is dangerous to your health and you should find another job - it will tell you to do just that.
You don't read this book front to back, although you could. The idea is to use their four step process and find the relevant portions of the book within each step.
Section 1 helps you Detect the boss behavior that is causing you pain. They list 20 behaviors that just about cover anything you could be facing each day. Once you understand clearly what is creating the pain you are ready to find a way to make it stop.
Section 2 shows you how to Detach from the situation with your boss. By detaching the reality of your job and your boss's behavior you can depersonalize it. The authors also show you things you can do at work and after work to restore your spirit as you face these draining situations. You then look up the behavior(s) you identified during the Detect stage to read specific approaches for Detaching from the situation.
Section 3 helps you Depersonalize these awful situations when you find yourself in the middle of the storm. You have to do this work ahead of time so you can understand the baggage your boss is carrying around that contributes to their destructive behavior.Read more ›
It is so helpful to read this from both the boss and employee perspective. Makes sense to use it as a reference ---- (what would xxxx do?)
When framed this way, I think the book will be very very valuable. Find myself flipping through when I need a break, and I will definitely keep it on my desk as a reminder.
Most Recent Customer Reviews
Highly recommend this book for anyone experiencing the confusion and pain of a toxic work environment. Read morePublished 23 hours ago by Michele Coletti
This book made me understand how to handle my very difficult manager. Would highly recommend!!Published 7 months ago by Marisa Maughan
This book is fantastic. I'm only 1/3 of the way through and already I feel better. I plan on sending it to a coworker when I finish! Read morePublished 13 months ago by Johanna C. Larson
Had to get for a class. Content is obvious. Here, I'll save you a couple of bucks: grow a pair and stand up for yourself. Read morePublished 17 months ago by TheBeastNme
Bought this along with My Way or the Highway. They were both very helpful. I decided to get on the highway and take a different exit...Published 24 months ago by Karen E. King
This was one of the most insightful, funniest, and most shockly accurate "self help" professional books I've ever helped myself to- and I felt like I could have written it! Read morePublished on January 28, 2014 by Gail A. Walters
This is a very insightful book. When dealing with difficult people, it can make one feel crazy. Reading this book lets a person know they are simply not alone. Read morePublished on January 24, 2014 by Nancy
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Described my ex boss perfectly. We passed this around the office and everyone in the department laughed like crazy. But overall this gives great insight.Published on June 18, 2013 by Geri