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Working for You Isn't Working for Me: How to Get Ahead When Your Boss Holds You Back Paperback – September 28, 2010
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Copyright © Reed Business Information, a division of Reed Elsevier Inc. All rights reserved. --This text refers to the Audible Audio Edition edition.
About the Author
Katherine Crowley is a Harvard-trained psychotherapist, and Kathi Elster is a management consultant and executive coach. They run K Squared Enterprises, a training firm that helps clients manage difficult situations in the workplace.
Top Customer Reviews
I'm currently in a job that I love, working with people who are fantastic, but my boss sucks. I really don't want to leave my job, so what should I do? I read this book and it has changed my entire work experience. I've found that she perfectly fits one of the 20 boss types described in the book. And I perfectly fit one of the 20 employee types described. The book has given me a whole list of things to keep in mind when I get frustrated and angry with my boss. Now I can conjure up the mantra in my mind, and wow... I can let it go. I don't LIKE what she does, and I still think she could do a much better job, but I'm no longer angry and sullen about her dumb decisions. In fact, it's kinda entertaining watching to see if she'll keep repeating her predictable behaviours without even realising.
I've spent years reading books on people management, and very few have come this close to giving practical, easy to follow advice on how to deal with a particular situation. I've referred to this book numerous times myself and constantly recommend it to friends and colleagues.
If you can't stand your boss, but you want some practical tools for dealing with the situation at hand, then this is the book for you. And if the authors describe a manager who is dangerous to your health and you should find another job - it will tell you to do just that.
You don't read this book front to back, although you could. The idea is to use their four step process and find the relevant portions of the book within each step.
Section 1 helps you Detect the boss behavior that is causing you pain. They list 20 behaviors that just about cover anything you could be facing each day. Once you understand clearly what is creating the pain you are ready to find a way to make it stop.
Section 2 shows you how to Detach from the situation with your boss. By detaching the reality of your job and your boss's behavior you can depersonalize it. The authors also show you things you can do at work and after work to restore your spirit as you face these draining situations. You then look up the behavior(s) you identified during the Detect stage to read specific approaches for Detaching from the situation.
Section 3 helps you Depersonalize these awful situations when you find yourself in the middle of the storm. You have to do this work ahead of time so you can understand the baggage your boss is carrying around that contributes to their destructive behavior. Again, you then look up the specific boss behaviors that apply to your boss.
Section 4 is about creating a new Deal for yourself. You adjust the expectations you have for your job, address the needs you have that are not being filled and alleviating the anxieties having these unmet needs create in you. Your goal is to find a way to continue to do a great job and keep your career on track and moving forward. Again, once you understand this process, you can look up the specific behaviors that apply to your boss and learn how you Deal in that specific situation.
This is a very useful book and can help millions of us manage our workdays more constructively and improve our situations at work.
Oh, and if you are a manager, you will want to read this book not only to identify your boss's behaviors but to help you see your own management style more clearly. We all like to believe we are perfect and wonderful supervisors, but we aren't. Why not think about how to change yourself to make work life happier and more productive for those you mange?
Reviewed by Craig Matteson, Ann Arbor, MI
It is so helpful to read this from both the boss and employee perspective. Makes sense to use it as a reference ---- (what would xxxx do?)
When framed this way, I think the book will be very very valuable. Find myself flipping through when I need a break, and I will definitely keep it on my desk as a reminder.
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