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Working With You is Killing Me: Freeing Yourself from Emotional Traps at Work First Edition Edition
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Let's face it, they aren't ever going to change, so instead, why not change your reaction to their maddening behavior? Or maybe the problem isn't your nutty co-worker or boss. Did you ever stop to
think that you might just be your own worst enemy at work by dint of your irritating quirks?
Whatever your work situation, this book has with not only the symptoms but also the cure for what ails you. The authors use questionnaires, anecdotes, and specific scenarios to come up with solutions to various work situations.
Katherine Crowley, a Harvard-trained psychotherapist, and Kathi Elster, a small business expert, combined their expertise in this book.
Each chapter describes the problem behavior, how you might be
exacerbating the problem, and actions you can take to change your
reaction to the behavior and thereby create a different result. The
authors believe that the one factor having the most impact on a satisfying work environment is being able to master your state of mind, and after reading this book, I agree.
They describe emotional "hooks" and delineate steps you can take to "unhook" yourself, along with setting boundaries at work.
They describe the "Fatal Attractions," who suck you into their webs: the exploder, the empty pit, saboteur, pedestal smasher, and the chip-on-the-shoulder, all of whom make life miserable.
But managers also have their own crosses to bear in the form of parenting their recalcitrant charges, the employees, a.k.a.Read more ›
A lot of books offer advice on how to deal with difficult people - particularly in personal relationships. This book takes a turn at helping people learn to cope with the personalities they have to deal with at work. Katherine Crowley is a psychotherapist and Kathi Elster is a small business expert; together they describe themselves as "undercover business therapists." While their focus on professional relationships is new, their message is familiar - "you can't change other people's behavior, but you can change your reaction to it."
Unhooking is the Key
The authors explain that changing your reaction starts with finding ways to "unhook" yourself from the situation, and they give specific examples of ways to tell - both physically and emotionally - whether you are 'hooked". Symptoms include headaches and fatigue, anger, depression and forgetfulness. Their "Four Pronged Unhooking Technique" is simple and is good, practical advice for anyone dealing with difficult people at work.
Not all Theory
While a lot of books give you theories on dealing with others, "Working With You is Killing Me" gives tips and examples on how to use the technique in real life business situations. And they don't assume it's only co-workers who drive you nuts: tips for obnoxious bosses are also presented.Read more ›
The authors use their years of business experience to cleverly categorize a number of boss types, work methods, co-worker habits, attitude issues, leadership styles et als. that are harmful to your working experience - and offer the means to overcome ("unhook from") them, often beginning with a massage, or a run, or walking the dog, or getting a facial to purge bad karma and rethink potential options. Putting a form of scientific method to resolving work related problems - including the reader's assessment of their own role in the problem - is a big part of the text. It provides an organized and controllable process to attempt issue resolution.
For me, the best part of the book, however, was the subject of "Managing Up," in which the authors urge their readers to take more control over their disappointing managers by using that same scientific method to manage them to preferred solutions. Good advice.
And, there are a number of self-help exercises to assess your fit with Corporate Culture, or to determine if you are hooked (emotionally distressed) by a "Fatal Attraction"-type manager etc. Again - good stuff and helpful to think about for many people, particularly the less experience workforce.
Still, I was caught in a bit of a dilemma. The book is written from the point of view of what do you do when someone else is causing emotional discomfort to you - as if you are the center of the universe. OK - that's why you bought the book. But, survey results from reputable researchers show that the primary reason for people remaining with their jobs is that they like their co-workers. Even more than their commitment to the work they do, they begin with liking their co-workers.Read more ›
Most Recent Customer Reviews
The beginning of the book had some helpful information, however I feel there were a lot of anecdotal stores (more than these types of books usually have), which I really didn't... Read morePublished 3 months ago by Megan
I think it is a good book, although I bought a few years ago, and still have not finished reading it. I will try to read it again.Published 4 months ago by Aiqing Li
Love this book and what it's about. I left it on my desk in spots I knew some people would see it and the title says it all. They all wondered who I was talking about I'm sure. Read morePublished 4 months ago by biatchn
It was the title that grabbed my attention. So I purchased it to bring to work and leave out in the open for the person that is making the workplace difficult. Read morePublished 5 months ago by Nmk
Wonderful book. Very helpful to handle the emotional traps at work.Published 6 months ago by Amazon Customer