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The Wounded Heart: Hope for Adult Victims of Childhood Sexual Abuse Paperback – August 13, 2008
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Dr. Allender’s book reaches deep into the wounded heart of someone you know, exploring the secret lament of the soul damaged by sexual abuse and laying hold of the hope buried there by the One whose unstained image we all bear.
About the Author
Dan taught in the Biblical Counseling Department of Grace Theological Seminary for seven years (1983–1989). From 1989–1997 Dan worked as professor in the Master of Arts in Biblical Counseling program at Colorado Christian University, Denver, Colorado. Currently, Dan serves as Professor of Counseling Psychology and President at Mars Hill Graduate School (MHGS.edu) in Seattle, Washington.
He travels and speaks extensively to present his unique perspective on sexual abuse recovery, love and forgiveness, worship, and other related topics. He is the author of The Wounded Heart (NavPress), and has coauthored four books with Dr. Tremper Longman III, Intimate Allies (Tyndale), The Cry of the Soul (NavPress), Bold Love (NavPress), and Breaking the Idols of Your Heart (IVP). Dan and his wife, Rebecca, have three children and live in Seattle, Washington.
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While the author is laboriously Christian in his approach, his depth of knowledge and concern for abuse victims are profound. It makes me really sad to read the statistics about the prevalence of sexual abuse in the world, primarily against children and teens. One cannot help but admire Mr Allender`s sincere commitment to helping.
I used it a along with a therapist. It's structure is more for a group setting. This did not make it any less useful.
I feel it would lose about 1/2 of it effectiveness if used alone. (without a group or counselor)
I am thankful for the book in many ways. The primary reason I am thankful? I believe it accelerated my healing process. I believe the issues I dealt with would have taken perhaps a year in counseling alone, instead of the about 2 months to get to the same point with this workbook. Usually I spent 20-30 hours most weeks reading, writing, meditating and reflecting.
My therapist was familiar with my issues, he was not directly familiar with this workbook. When I was done he commented it helped us both. Myself for reflecting on the issues in the book. The therapist because it was a place for him to start with insights into my thoughts as I dealt with painful issues suppressed for a long time.
It is written for a primarily female audience. It was easy to make slight adjustments as a male.
In the session after finishing the workbook, my therapist and I agreed. My "baseline" anger had gone down significantly.
If you need this book, I pray you find healing with God's Grace in whatever way possible.
I will suggest it's a very hard book to read and sorta depressing. It is clinical in presentation and the half that I did read made me wonder how unhealthy it might be for some to revisit some old memories. My thinking, at one point in this book was that when something is trying fo hard to be buried then perhaps one should let it remain dead, and just maybe, the Lord is offering the death of certain memories or situations in life as an ointment. Perhaps our heavenly Father wants us to forget some incidents and offer them up letting His righteous anger bury them for us while we fill our minds and hearts with, "all things that are beautiful and loving, uplifting and profitable, whatever is kind, generous and forgiving". Truly and totally forgetting may never be possible on your part but with God's help forgiving is always an option. I choose that!
I have seen women change right before my eyes - miracles from God Himself. Women that once were so broken and wounded, paralyzed without any hope, have now have made that internal shift.
The group setting is so important. Being able to be heard, maybe for the first time, and know that everyone else in your group understands and believes you! There aren't any judgements. ALL sexual abuse is life altering. Dan Allender guides us down the path of healing, the healing only God can provide, the kind that is "everlasting". All other ways are a lie.