Enter your mobile number or email address below and we'll send you a link to download the free Kindle App. Then you can start reading Kindle books on your smartphone, tablet, or computer - no Kindle device required.
To get the free app, enter your mobile phone number.
Other Sellers on Amazon
+ $3.99 shipping
+ Free Shipping
You Can Be Happy No Matter What: Five Principles for Keeping Life in Perspective Paperback – June 9, 1997
|New from||Used from|
There is a newer edition of this item:
The 30 Best Self Help Books
This list reflects books that have saved lives and have sold millions of copies. Learn more on AbeBooks.com
Frequently bought together
Customers who bought this item also bought
A most important book that shows us in practical terms how to remove the blocks to the awareness of our natural state, happiness. Gerlad G. Jampolsky, M.D. Author of LOVE IS LETTIN --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.
From the Back Cover
"A most important book that shows us in practical terms how to remove the blocks to the awareness of our natural state, happiness."
-- Gerald G. Jampolsky, MD, author of Love Is Letting Go of Fear
"A needed counterbalance to the therapy junkie's tendency to wallow in `processing' while life's beauty passes them by."
-- Yoga Journal
"You will find Dr. Carlson's new approach very helpful -- solid, sensible, and filled with loving guidance."
-- Dr. Wayne Dyer, author of Your Erroneous Zones
"You Can Be Happy No Matter What will appeal to those caught in the tangles of outmoded thinking. It speaks simply to us in a way that's most fitting when we want to move out of dysfunctions into robust, effective living."
-- Marsha Sinetar, author of Developing a 21st-Century Mind
"A profoundly simple, hopeful, and human book about what's available to us all -- happiness."
-- Joseph Bailey, author of The Serenity Principle --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.
If you are a seller for this product, would you like to suggest updates through seller support?
Top Customer Reviews
and then chapters on applying these principles into your everyday life and how they can work for everyone. Most of this is common sense, but nevertheless a real eye-opener in how, why, and what you can do to get a grip on these principles during depressed, stressed, and 'low cycle' times that we all go through in life. Most people know what the 5 principles above are to a lesser degree, but what you didn't know Dr. Carlson fills in the blanks of how & why they affect your overall mental health and what you can do about it, to thus (hence the title) get a better heads up with what you can do to clear the fog during moody or distressful times, or are having a bad day in general. I highly recommend the book..i.e.
1) You Can Be Happy No Matter What by Richard Carlson <and>
2) Shortcut Through Therapy by Richard Carlson
If you haven't read them yet, do yourself a favor and do it at your earliest convenience before another book on fiction, self-improvement/self-help, because after you read these and start acknowledging and applying these easy to use principles your life will have a drastic change in bettering yourself. Applying the principles has nothing to do with complicated graphs or charts, and just by reading each principle and corresponding application of the principle, you will absolutely have a crystal clear way of understanding how your moods & feelings work for and against you, and NOT becoming overburdened by some of life's many pitfalls. I wouldn't be givning this book enough justice if I didn't say that the 2 books mentioned above(especially the one in this review)have become literally "Life-Shaping" in their own and have really expanded my thought processes to put those negative moods/feelings in 'Check' so they don't bother me as much as they used to. I firmly believe that anyone who puts some time aside and dedicates themselves to reading and remembering the things said in these golden little tomes will eventually be succeed in many different aspects in their own lives. I can't stress getting these two books enough. If 2 books were worth their weight in gold, these would be them. Gain control and harness your thoughts, moods, and feelings, and accept that the (So-called down days (low-cycle days) are only obstacles that push you back from achieving your maximum potential in crucial area's of your life. 5 Stars all the way baby!!
I am amazed and grateful that the late Richard Carlson -- mere slip of a young man that he was -- understood human happiness so well. In this book, Carlson synthesizes so many powerful truths of the world's wisdom traditions. Sorry, I'm getting carried away. Let me get to the point:
According to Carlson, happiness is our natural state. Painful emotions are not natural and inevitable reactions to inherently painful circumstances. Painful emotions are actually reactions to painful and distressing thoughts. They form a pattern of emotional reactivity: they feed on their own fire. And if we "follow" these reactions -- if we try to solve the problems that seem so urgent in their light -- we will not find happiness. We will simply dig ourselves into a pattern of emotional reactivity, convincing ourselves all the while that our occasional glimpses of relief are the result of our frantic problem-solving.
As radical as Carlson's view may sound, there is much scientific evidence to support it. Recent brain research verifies that people who regularly produce and rely on feelings of love and well-being are indeed very happy, and suffer from no reduction in their ability to think or solve problems. Long-term, happy meditators, (such as the Buddhist teacher Mingyur Rinpoche), were exposed to loud noises and cries of distress in the lab. Their heart-rates immediately increased to facilitate rigorous physical activity. However, they did not experience psychological distress. The startle-response was notably absent in these monks, and the sound of women screaming and children crying triggered a feeling of compassion, rather than feelings of distress or fear.
Dr. Martin Seligman frequently refers to studies which show that happy people act in more compassionate ways than sad people, and happy doctors make more accurate diagnoses. This research suggests we do not need to rely on fear and distress to recognize danger and help other people. In fact we do a better job of helping others and dealing with complicated situations when we are feeling peaceful.
One amazon reviewer brought up an interesting concern: if we follow Richard Carlson's advice and avoid solving problems while in a bad mood, will this stunt our psychological growth? Don't we need to develop tolerance to emotional distress?
Richard Carlson does indeed advise us to have less tolerance to emotional distress. His advice is to acknowledge we are feeling bad, and try not to analyze our feelings or take them too seriously. Although I appreciate this reader's point, I believe Carlson's approach is consistent with classical definitions of emotional tolerance. When we tolerate strong emotion, we allow for its presence in our body and mind without feeling compelled to believe there is a terribly urgent problem in our lives which we must immediately solve. I also believe there is a slightly different model of growth here: in Carlson's approach, growth is not accomplished by analyzing our habits or psychological problems. It is accomplished by having a more peaceful attitude, characterized by a calm demeanor and loving interactions. Loving and peaceful adults tend to form deep emotional bonds with others and become deeply invested in their communities. By contrast, adults who have spent years in introspective self-analysis may be highly skilled at articulating their emotional patterns, but they may still be depressed, isolated, and cut-off from their communities.
In summary, "You Can Be Happy No Matter What" is an excellent book of time-tested wisdom, whose conclusions, I believe, are supported by recent scientific research. This book changed my life for the better. I hope it will do the same for you!
J Jennifer Matthews, author of "Radically Condensed Instructions for Being Just as You Are"
If I had to choose one word to describe this book, it would be "Liberating". I feel so empowered, and dare I say even happy. I cannot recommend this book highly enough. I would give it 10 stars if I could.
Most Recent Customer Reviews
This is an awesome book, and I recommend it to people who don't like to read big book, but need a boost of positive,...Read more