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In a question and answer format, Catholic Answers apologist and author Jason Evert, discusses every aspect of chastity. He emphasizes that saying no to premarital sex is saying yes to authentic love. Using anecdotes drawn from stories he has heard in his speaking to youth and his own experience, Evert writes clearly and persuasively on the questions about dating, relationships, sexuality, and chastity that young people have asked him wherever he speaks. --This text refers to an alternate Paperback edition.

About the Author

JASON EVERT speaks internationally to more than 100,000 junior high, high school, and college students each year about God's plan for the gift of sex. He is the author of Pure Love, the best-selling booklet given to more than 100,000 pilgrims attending World Youth Day 2002 in Toronto, Canada. Evert obtained a masters degree in theology and undergraduate degrees in theology and counseling, with a minor in philosophy, from Franciscan University of Steubenville. He is a staff apologist for San Diego-based Catholic Answers, North America's largest lay-run Catholic apostolate for apologetics and evangelization.
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Product Details

  • Paperback: 318 pages
  • Publisher: Servant; Revised edition (January 7, 2009)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0867169095
  • ISBN-13: 978-0867169096
  • Product Dimensions: 5.2 x 0.9 x 8 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 10.4 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.7 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (31 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #196,666 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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I don't write reviews (this being my first) but I MUST make an exception for this book. I agree with the last reviewer's title, "Don't listen to Moral Realtivists." This book is replete with Scriptural references and Catholic Theology but it is applicable to all theists of every denomination and religion. Mind you, the book is speaking of morality from the Christian perspective so if you don't like Christianity or believe in moral absolutes then I don't recommend that you put pointless reviews on the site.
I am mass-purchasing a copy of this book for everyone I know in relationships because it's been of great benefit for me. If you have teenage/young adult children or are a teenager/young adult yourself, this books is primarily directed to you regardless of denomination or religion. Evert has taken 100 of the most commonly asked questions/objections and answered them with keen insight using logic, Scripture, papal encyclicals and exhortations, theologians (such as C.S. Lewis and G.K. Chesterton), and many modern day resources (including internet links).
I can not recommend this book highly enough. It is also very effectual against America's modern-day morality (or lack thereof). The chapters are divided as such:
1. Chastity and the Meaning of Sex
2. Dating and Courtship
3. Preparing for Marriage
4. How Far is Too Far?
5. Pornography and Masturbation
6. Homosexuality
7. Contraception
8. Sexually Transmitted Diseases
9. Purity Renewed
10. How to Stay Pure
11. Vocations
The Bibliography is integrated with the footnotes and is listed at the back of the book. It's a great one!
Evert answers such questions as:
1. Why is premarital sex bad?
2. Can't we accept that people have different values when it comes to sex?
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When I first started reading the book, I must admit that I was skeptical and mocking (mostly because my dad insisted on me reading it and i am a rebel; i listen to no parent) but as I read on i started to be emotionally touched by Jason Evert's words. Not only did he answer many of my questions, he also brought up some good points that I could not help but pay attention to and that I had never even thought of (being 19 of course I thought I knew everything there was to know about sex). He explains everything concisely and to the point and does not beat around the bush about anything. His explanations truly touched my heart. And to the reviewer that thinks Jason Evert is a big liar trying to win everybody to his side, I suggest that he FIRST read the book and then tell me if "his side" isn't worth being on to be truly happy and fulfilled.
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Finally! This is a wonderful book explaining and defending the proper way of looking at human sexuality and what the Catholic church teaches about sex and why.
I only wish this book had been printed and circulated 30-40 years ago! Maybe we wouldn't be have so many failed marriages, fatherless families, and mixed up notions about what God intended when he created us as sexual beings.
Sex isn't bad or dirty, it's sacred and holy in the context of a marriage between a husband and wife.
This should be required reading for all teenagers!
Thanks, Jason!
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This book helps to explain all the nuances of sexuality, and how a person should be treated, and treat others, based on his or her intrinsic personhood -Catholic or non-Catholic. This means to not treat people as objects for our own personal pleasure.
Jason Evert discusses such subjects of sexuality from the Catholic Church's persepective, which, under scrutiny, live up to all guidelines for a moral and logical human sexuality. This shows the peerless rationality of Catholicism.
Evert is not just giving his point of view, which would make it invalid foolery, but that of a Church always modern and applicable to humanity, something truthful throughout all ages and thought.
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As a "cradle catholic" I always heard "no..." but I never got the "why". As you get older (esp. with hormones in the mix) it gets harder to follow rules when you don't know "why". Deep down we know right from wrong but his book puts into words what we all know to be true in our hearts. The author has a great way of directly answering questions that you have always wondered about but didn't know who to ask. He clearly answers the questions and backs it up with several sources. I gave a copy to all the young people in my life, including my brothers who are 17 and 21 years old. This book would be great for parents trying to find the words to explain all the "no's". I think that his book is also a "must read" for anyone who would like to date or have a happy marriage. (Everyone!) Get two or more copies...you'll want everyone to read it.
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There is so much mis-information concerning sex and love in our modern american culture that it is hard to find good teaching. This book contains great teaching concerning what love really is and good advice concerning dating.
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Jason Evert is a great writer, and I've enjoyed this book very much. Keep a highlighter and pen close by, I've been flagging paragraphs and pages throughout the whole thing, there's such wonderful insight on each page, and it's going to be a great reference book in the future.

Highly recommend to all teenagers and older, I'm in my 20's and I'm getting a lot from it.
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