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If "Who am I?" is the question you're asking, Rachel Jankovic doesn't want you to "find yourself" or "follow your heart."

Those lies are nothing to the confidence, freedom, and clarity of purpose that come with knowing what is actually essential about you. And the answer to that question is at once less and more than what you are hoping for.

Christians love the idea that self-expression is the essence of a beautiful person, but that's a lie, too. With trademark humor and no nonsense practicality, Rachel Jankovic explains the fake story of the Self, starting with the inventions of a supremely ugly man named Sartre (rhymes with "blart"). And we--men and women, young and old--have bought his lie of the Best Self, with terrible results.

Thankfully, that's not the end of our story, You Who: Why You Matter and How to Deal with It takes the identity question into the nitty gritty details of everyday life. Here's the first clue: Stop looking inside, and start planting flags of everyday faithfulness. In Christianity, the self is always a tool and never a destination.


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"Are you a person? Do you breathe? If you answered yes to either of these questions, you should read this book as quickly as you can get your hands on it. Reading this book was like being given a cup of cold water on a hot day." --Summer Jaeger, Sheologians Blog & Podcast

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You Who? Why You Matter and How to Deal With It ... she identifies the un-Biblical philosophies of personhood and selfactualization that have seeped into the culture and church, fueling the widespread believe-in-yourself mantra, along with deceptions about abortion, feminism, and gender identity. Jankovic aims to define a Christian view of identity, one that puts to death the sinful self and receives new life in Christ.... I found grace spelled out in the pages, and a timely message for women and teenage girls" --Mary Jackson, World Magazine

"Rachel's contention is that we have no practical idea of what makes us who we are, because we have absorbed too much of the world and its philosophies. As we grow up we adopt titles of identities that have either been thrust on us or that we take on ourselves. "Carefree grrrrl," or "The Fashionista" or "The Nerd" might satisfy for the moment, but they are a lie." --Elizabeth Prata,
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If "Who am I?" is the question you're asking, Rachel Jankovic doesn't want you to "find yourself" or "follow your heart." Those lies are nothing to the confidence, freedom, and clarity of course that come with knowing what is actually essential about you. And the answer to that question is at once less and more than what you are hoping for. Christians love the idea that self-expression is the essence of a beautiful person, but that's a lie, too. With trademark humor and no nonsense practicality, Rachel Jankovic explains the fake story of the Self, starting with the inventions of a supremely ugly man named Sartre (rhymes with "blart"). And we--men and women, young and old--have bought his lie of the Best Self, with terrible results. Thankfully, that's not the end of our story, You Who: Why You Matter and How to Deal with It takes the identity question into the nitty gritty details of everyday life. Here's the first clue: Stop looking inside, and start planting flags of everyday faithfulness. In Christianity, the self is always a tool and never a destination.

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  • Publisher ‏ : ‎ Canon Press (January 15, 2019)
  • Language ‏ : ‎ English
  • Paperback ‏ : ‎ 246 pages
  • ISBN-10 ‏ : ‎ 1947644882
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Rachel Jankovic is a wife, homemaker, and mother. She received her Bachelor's Degree in Liberal Arts & Culture from New Saint Andrews College, but mostly reads cookbooks now to avoid story grip (being highly susceptible). In 2003, she married her husband Luke, and they have seven children who know how to party. Rachel loves color, fabric, yarn to knit with, kids to laugh with, and laundry (not so much).

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"...out in their lives, manifesting itself as strength, dignity, and clarity of purpose.""..." Read more

"...to the choir with most of her points, I still found the whole book really convicting. Rachel is direct and hard-hitting and I just loved it...." Read more

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"...is engaging, often funny, and written in very short, readable chapters that pack a lot of punch and give you a lot to think over, reminiscent of the..." Read more

"...The author so clearly and beautifully spells out what God says our true purpose is, and how it is MORE than enough!..." Read more

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I really cannot put exactly into words how much I loved this book, it is quite extraordinary how serving a sovereign God, that is all-powerful and all-knowing can put two people who have never met, made different life choices and put their hearts on the same page.This book exposed a huge problem that has crept into churches, the glorification of the self over the true worship of God. We really have no idea how godless the philosophy of self of love and self care is, because it is us once again falling for the, "You could be like God, knowing good and evil." That is what we are doing when we try to define ourselves apart from the obedience to God.She goes through and explains the philosophy that has driven this sort of thinking, that philosophy being, "Existentialism", she explains the different steps towards our current view of Existentialism derived and the character of the men who promoted them.For instance, Jean-Paul Sartre's, "Do whatever you want" to Abraham Maslow's drive to get people to use psychology to get a person to be, "self-actualizing" Both of which are an attempt to define yourself apart from God, and in so doing, trying to make yourself into god, which is in actuality, making yourself an idol.I honestly thought at first that this was a book by a woman for women, but after reading it, I honestly think that it would be a good book for everyone, especially in the body of Christ to read. Rachel's use of plain language and reasoning makes it not only a clear and concise read but very approachable for even men. Especially men who want to encourage their wives to glory in their God by being obedient to Him.Quotes:"The goal of this book is to encourage and equip believing women to see their identity in Christ as the most essential part of them, and to see all the ways that will work its way out in their lives, manifesting itself as strength, dignity, and clarity of purpose.""My grandpa has always said that soft teaching makes hard hearts and that hard teaching makes soft hearts. When we encourage each other with platitudes about our self-worth and our beauty, we are simply lying for the sake of feelings. When we accustom ourselves to soft lies so we won't feel affronted, we become a hard-hearted people.""Unbelieving philosophies of self begin with the assumption that there is no Father God. Then they try to make sense out of the undeniable complexity of mankind and human value. You can see right off the bat [assuming that you are a Christian]that in this way the philosophical world had nothing to offer you and much to take from you. They want to take away all meaning that you derive from God and give you new meaning without Him.""This is why I say that many Christians struggle today do not realize that what they y struggling with on a day-to-day basis is actually at its core, a philosophy problem. The world often uses philosophy as substitute for religion.""Many Christian woman have wondered why their choices to be married and to nurture children are seen by Feminist as anti-woman. If Feminist are so big on women making choices for themselves, then it seems like they ought to support women who make a choice to nurture children.However, the more these people believe that the only true living is do in defiance of God and tradition, the more natural it seems to them to despise people who are living in clear accordance with their created purpose.""We are accustomed in our times to think of our feelings as information. We believe that when we feel something, it is not only revealing an actual thing that is going on, but probably insightful about what ought to go on. A woman, 'feels' unwanted and unloved, so she accuses all those who want and love her of creating her feelings. A Christian may 'feel' like God isn't close, and so he continues to disobey Him or avoid praying. We 'feel' like we really need a break right now, and so we take one, whether or not our duties and responsibilities allow for it. We Christians need to stop thinking of our feelings as insights. Our feelings are instead something that we need to manage. When our feelings are acting up, who is it to discipline them? We are. Who is to treat them with reverence? No one."I mean the whole book is one giant quotable book of a Godly woman exhorting us to be godly and that truly the only way for a Christian to bring glory to God is through obedience to His word and doing your duty.If you don't get and read this book, I am going to question whether or not you are truly justified to God... just kidding, but seriously...#BUYTHISBOOK #AMUSTREAD
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I really cannot put exactly into words how much I loved this book, it is quite extraordinary how serving a sovereign God, that is all-powerful and all-knowing can put two people who have never met, made different life choices and put their hearts on the same page.

This book exposed a huge problem that has crept into churches, the glorification of the self over the true worship of God. We really have no idea how godless the philosophy of self of love and self care is, because it is us once again falling for the, "You could be like God, knowing good and evil." That is what we are doing when we try to define ourselves apart from the obedience to God.

She goes through and explains the philosophy that has driven this sort of thinking, that philosophy being, "Existentialism", she explains the different steps towards our current view of Existentialism derived and the character of the men who promoted them.

For instance, Jean-Paul Sartre's, "Do whatever you want" to Abraham Maslow's drive to get people to use psychology to get a person to be, "self-actualizing" Both of which are an attempt to define yourself apart from God, and in so doing, trying to make yourself into god, which is in actuality, making yourself an idol.

I honestly thought at first that this was a book by a woman for women, but after reading it, I honestly think that it would be a good book for everyone, especially in the body of Christ to read. Rachel's use of plain language and reasoning makes it not only a clear and concise read but very approachable for even men. Especially men who want to encourage their wives to glory in their God by being obedient to Him.

Quotes:
"The goal of this book is to encourage and equip believing women to see their identity in Christ as the most essential part of them, and to see all the ways that will work its way out in their lives, manifesting itself as strength, dignity, and clarity of purpose."

"My grandpa has always said that soft teaching makes hard hearts and that hard teaching makes soft hearts. When we encourage each other with platitudes about our self-worth and our beauty, we are simply lying for the sake of feelings. When we accustom ourselves to soft lies so we won't feel affronted, we become a hard-hearted people."

"Unbelieving philosophies of self begin with the assumption that there is no Father God. Then they try to make sense out of the undeniable complexity of mankind and human value. You can see right off the bat [assuming that you are a Christian]that in this way the philosophical world had nothing to offer you and much to take from you. They want to take away all meaning that you derive from God and give you new meaning without Him."

"This is why I say that many Christians struggle today do not realize that what they y struggling with on a day-to-day basis is actually at its core, a philosophy problem. The world often uses philosophy as substitute for religion."

"Many Christian woman have wondered why their choices to be married and to nurture children are seen by Feminist as anti-woman. If Feminist are so big on women making choices for themselves, then it seems like they ought to support women who make a choice to nurture children.

However, the more these people believe that the only true living is do in defiance of God and tradition, the more natural it seems to them to despise people who are living in clear accordance with their created purpose."

"We are accustomed in our times to think of our feelings as information. We believe that when we feel something, it is not only revealing an actual thing that is going on, but probably insightful about what ought to go on.
A woman, 'feels' unwanted and unloved, so she accuses all those who want and love her of creating her feelings. A Christian may 'feel' like God isn't close, and so he continues to disobey Him or avoid praying. We 'feel' like we really need a break right now, and so we take one, whether or not our duties and responsibilities allow for it.
We Christians need to stop thinking of our feelings as insights. Our feelings are instead something that we need to manage. When our feelings are acting up, who is it to discipline them? We are. Who is to treat them with reverence? No one."

I mean the whole book is one giant quotable book of a Godly woman exhorting us to be godly and that truly the only way for a Christian to bring glory to God is through obedience to His word and doing your duty.

If you don't get and read this book, I am going to question whether or not you are truly justified to God... just kidding, but seriously...#BUYTHISBOOK #AMUSTREAD
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Reviewed in the United States on March 14, 2019
I really cannot put exactly into words how much I loved this book, it is quite extraordinary how serving a sovereign God, that is all-powerful and all-knowing can put two people who have never met, made different life choices and put their hearts on the same page.

This book exposed a huge problem that has crept into churches, the glorification of the self over the true worship of God. We really have no idea how godless the philosophy of self of love and self care is, because it is us once again falling for the, "You could be like God, knowing good and evil." That is what we are doing when we try to define ourselves apart from the obedience to God.

She goes through and explains the philosophy that has driven this sort of thinking, that philosophy being, "Existentialism", she explains the different steps towards our current view of Existentialism derived and the character of the men who promoted them.

For instance, Jean-Paul Sartre's, "Do whatever you want" to Abraham Maslow's drive to get people to use psychology to get a person to be, "self-actualizing" Both of which are an attempt to define yourself apart from God, and in so doing, trying to make yourself into god, which is in actuality, making yourself an idol.

I honestly thought at first that this was a book by a woman for women, but after reading it, I honestly think that it would be a good book for everyone, especially in the body of Christ to read. Rachel's use of plain language and reasoning makes it not only a clear and concise read but very approachable for even men. Especially men who want to encourage their wives to glory in their God by being obedient to Him.

Quotes:
"The goal of this book is to encourage and equip believing women to see their identity in Christ as the most essential part of them, and to see all the ways that will work its way out in their lives, manifesting itself as strength, dignity, and clarity of purpose."

"My grandpa has always said that soft teaching makes hard hearts and that hard teaching makes soft hearts. When we encourage each other with platitudes about our self-worth and our beauty, we are simply lying for the sake of feelings. When we accustom ourselves to soft lies so we won't feel affronted, we become a hard-hearted people."

"Unbelieving philosophies of self begin with the assumption that there is no Father God. Then they try to make sense out of the undeniable complexity of mankind and human value. You can see right off the bat [assuming that you are a Christian]that in this way the philosophical world had nothing to offer you and much to take from you. They want to take away all meaning that you derive from God and give you new meaning without Him."

"This is why I say that many Christians struggle today do not realize that what they y struggling with on a day-to-day basis is actually at its core, a philosophy problem. The world often uses philosophy as substitute for religion."

"Many Christian woman have wondered why their choices to be married and to nurture children are seen by Feminist as anti-woman. If Feminist are so big on women making choices for themselves, then it seems like they ought to support women who make a choice to nurture children.

However, the more these people believe that the only true living is do in defiance of God and tradition, the more natural it seems to them to despise people who are living in clear accordance with their created purpose."

"We are accustomed in our times to think of our feelings as information. We believe that when we feel something, it is not only revealing an actual thing that is going on, but probably insightful about what ought to go on.
A woman, 'feels' unwanted and unloved, so she accuses all those who want and love her of creating her feelings. A Christian may 'feel' like God isn't close, and so he continues to disobey Him or avoid praying. We 'feel' like we really need a break right now, and so we take one, whether or not our duties and responsibilities allow for it.
We Christians need to stop thinking of our feelings as insights. Our feelings are instead something that we need to manage. When our feelings are acting up, who is it to discipline them? We are. Who is to treat them with reverence? No one."

I mean the whole book is one giant quotable book of a Godly woman exhorting us to be godly and that truly the only way for a Christian to bring glory to God is through obedience to His word and doing your duty.

If you don't get and read this book, I am going to question whether or not you are truly justified to God... just kidding, but seriously...#BUYTHISBOOK #AMUSTREAD
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Reviewed in the United States on February 27, 2019
Thank you, thank you, thank you, Rachel Jankovic for writing this book! I recently read Girl, Wash Your Face only because my library had 17 (SEVENTEEN!) copies of it. I know this isn't a popular opinion, but that book is complete and utter ra-ra nonsense. And it wore me out. Why did it wear me out? Because it was basically nothing other than a rich, popular Christian woman telling other Christian women that self-sufficiency and self-glorification will lead to their best lives now.

This book is the antidote.

If you want someone to tell you that you are awesome, offer you sweet comfort, encourage you to ignore everything else in your life except your own dreams, do not read this book. Rachel's basic message is that your best life and your best self will come from two simple actions: Obey God and glorify him in every aspect of your life, end of story. She first lays out a basic foundation of philosophical ideas that have creeped into popular thinking (including Christian thinking), and that part may lose some readers, even though I thought it was readable and accessible. The rest of the book tackles areas in which women (really, all of us) are tempted to not obey God fully and instead, turn towards ourselves and worldly thinking. Why are we so discontent with our lives and longing for more? Are we all looking for identity in what we do or in who we belong to? Why do we want more than Jesus? Is "self-care" (as opposed to rest and enjoying God's good gifts) a biblical idea? In all our fascination with personality tests, have we come to believe the lie that our characters, flaws and all, are fixed and unchangeable? Are we glorifying our feelings and trusting our emotions too much? Where should a positive and God-glorifying body image be found?

Although she was preaching to the choir with most of her points, I still found the whole book really convicting. Rachel is direct and hard-hitting and I just loved it. That directness works with me, probably because I am pretty direct. Because she is direct and hard-hitting (although not rude or offensive, in my opinion), some people will inevitably be turned off. (And that, frankly, is another of her challenges - why are we so afraid to hear hard words? Why do we feel like our feelings should be coddled? Why do we believe life should always be pleasant and happy?) But it really made me consider whether my focus is really on full obedience to Christ and a desire to glorify God in every aspect of my life. It showed me some ways I had subconsciously absorbed some lies in my own thinking.

Unfortunately, I think most people who read this will already agree with her. I don't think many of the Girl, Wash Your Face or Love Warrior superfans will actually crack this open. This is incredibly unfortunate. I wish we Christian women would STOP READING self-help books that contain more lies than truth with the caveat that "well, there's some good stuff in there"and "I can just ignore the stuff I don't agree with". WHY read nonsense and glean a few tidbits of helpful advice when you can start right with God and Scripture and the myriad of books that do start from that foundation? Christian women - we can do better with our minds! Start with this book.

P.S. I highly recommend following Rachel on Facebook and Instagram for her #departmentofhellno posts.
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Reviewed in the United States on January 21, 2019
I cannot recommend this book highly enough. Like Rachel Jankovic's other books, You Who? is engaging, often funny, and written in very short, readable chapters that pack a lot of punch and give you a lot to think over, reminiscent of the writing of Elisabeth Elliot. But moreso than her books on mothering, this book delves surprisingly deeply into philosophy and theology in a down-to-earth, practical way.

Perhaps the most notable thing about this book, and the thing that most commends it, is how thorough Christian it is. Unlike a lot of books put out by Christian publishers or Christian authors right now, that have a lot of the world's advice about living your best life (believe in yourself! make time for yourself! prioritize yourself! you go, girl!) with just enough references to Jesus thrown in to make Christian readers feel good about reading the book but not so many that a non-Christian reader couldn't just skip them or shrug them off, You Who? is a book that is rooted entirely in the story of God's redemptive work in the world and in our lives. It is realistic but hopeful and joyful. And while Rachel may not think she is writing encouragement for women, you will walk away from the book encouraged and inspired to obey your God and through that be the best and truest version of yourself.
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