The Absorption Company - Shop now
Add Prime to get Fast, Free delivery
Amazon prime logo
Buy new:
-27% $19.78
FREE delivery Wednesday, January 15 on orders shipped by Amazon over $35
Ships from: Amazon
Sold by: Halfpastmidnight
$19.78 with 27 percent savings
List Price: $27.00
Get Fast, Free Shipping with Amazon Prime FREE Returns
FREE delivery Wednesday, January 15 on orders shipped by Amazon over $35
Or fastest delivery Tuesday, January 14. Order within 19 hrs 37 mins
Only 1 left in stock - order soon.
$$19.78 () Includes selected options. Includes initial monthly payment and selected options. Details
Price
Subtotal
$$19.78
Subtotal
Initial payment breakdown
Shipping cost, delivery date, and order total (including tax) shown at checkout.
Ships from
Amazon
Amazon
Ships from
Amazon
Returns
30-day refund/replacement
30-day refund/replacement
This item can be returned in its original condition for a full refund or replacement within 30 days of receipt.
Payment
Secure transaction
Your transaction is secure
We work hard to protect your security and privacy. Our payment security system encrypts your information during transmission. We don’t share your credit card details with third-party sellers, and we don’t sell your information to others. Learn more
$9.31
Get Fast, Free Shipping with Amazon Prime FREE Returns
Book is in good condition and may include underlining highlighting and minimal wear. The book can also include From the library of labels. May not contain miscellaneous items toys dvds etc. . We offer 100% money back guarantee and 24 7 customer service. Free 2-day shipping with Amazon Prime! Book is in good condition and may include underlining highlighting and minimal wear. The book can also include From the library of labels. May not contain miscellaneous items toys dvds etc. . We offer 100% money back guarantee and 24 7 customer service. Free 2-day shipping with Amazon Prime! See less
FREE delivery Wednesday, January 15 on orders shipped by Amazon over $35
Or fastest delivery Tuesday, January 14. Order within 19 hrs 37 mins
Only 2 left in stock - order soon.
$$19.78 () Includes selected options. Includes initial monthly payment and selected options. Details
Price
Subtotal
$$19.78
Subtotal
Initial payment breakdown
Shipping cost, delivery date, and order total (including tax) shown at checkout.
Access codes and supplements are not guaranteed with used items.
Kindle app logo image

Download the free Kindle app and start reading Kindle books instantly on your smartphone, tablet, or computer - no Kindle device required.

Read instantly on your browser with Kindle for Web.

Using your mobile phone camera - scan the code below and download the Kindle app.

QR code to download the Kindle App

Follow the authors

See all
Something went wrong. Please try your request again later.

You Are Your Best Thing: Vulnerability, Shame Resilience, and the Black Experience Hardcover – April 27, 2021

4.8 4.8 out of 5 stars 1,713 ratings

Great on Kindle
Great Experience. Great Value.
iphone with kindle app
Putting our best book forward
Each Great on Kindle book offers a great reading experience, at a better value than print to keep your wallet happy.

Explore your book, then jump right back to where you left off with Page Flip.

View high quality images that let you zoom in to take a closer look.

Enjoy features only possible in digital – start reading right away, carry your library with you, adjust the font, create shareable notes and highlights, and more.

Discover additional details about the events, people, and places in your book, with Wikipedia integration.

Get the free Kindle app: Link to the kindle app page Link to the kindle app page
Enjoy a great reading experience when you buy the Kindle edition of this book. Learn more about Great on Kindle, available in select categories.
{"desktop_buybox_group_1":[{"displayPrice":"$19.78","priceAmount":19.78,"currencySymbol":"$","integerValue":"19","decimalSeparator":".","fractionalValue":"78","symbolPosition":"left","hasSpace":false,"showFractionalPartIfEmpty":true,"offerListingId":"yyZcw6jRsqCnRCZcWarvf5is4LCRp6pfZehPT%2B2kHWDcf9JJmwhhkywvmVaD1kOX2SW656oXlWreE4EcNVIo3SiW4oc6vQNXlWJjmE1ihTLyYdibTS2gEFNvFEFw6znsoNhUWKzNVTbCI2nDE5Xb5Muj%2FSo8KqtpJiq7lmzyWNTkTSFXPoBUtx075GGilg8Q","locale":"en-US","buyingOptionType":"NEW","aapiBuyingOptionIndex":0}, {"displayPrice":"$9.31","priceAmount":9.31,"currencySymbol":"$","integerValue":"9","decimalSeparator":".","fractionalValue":"31","symbolPosition":"left","hasSpace":false,"showFractionalPartIfEmpty":true,"offerListingId":"yyZcw6jRsqCnRCZcWarvf5is4LCRp6pf7%2F0kw9jfVktPUjzdBpeCAT%2BEl%2BfMsoViK4tSWtGEeINdhXcogWcVuurdaEG9VEDEC20DaS3QutPdV9KyX59Mf1OhVyQESU6%2F7TDzsVxollU3HTV9oUx1YAXgNbefpmQSDal0CHyio%2B3hKBCYeTJUS2YWbnnLSjXE","locale":"en-US","buyingOptionType":"USED","aapiBuyingOptionIndex":1}]}

Purchase options and add-ons

NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • Tarana Burke and Dr. Brené Brown bring together a dynamic group of Black writers, organizers, artists, academics, and cultural figures to discuss the topics the two have dedicated their lives to understanding and teaching: vulnerability and shame resilience.

Contributions by Kiese Laymon, Imani Perry, Laverne Cox, Jason Reynolds, Austin Channing Brown, and more

NAMED ONE OF THE BEST BOOKS OF THE YEAR BY MARIE CLAIRE AND BOOKRIOT

It started as a text between two friends.

Tarana Burke, founder of the ‘me too.’ Movement, texted researcher and writer Brené Brown to see if she was free to jump on a call. Brené assumed that Tarana wanted to talk about wallpaper. They had been trading home decorating inspiration boards in their last text conversation so Brené started scrolling to find her latest Pinterest pictures when the phone rang.

But it was immediately clear to Brené that the conversation wasn’t going to be about wallpaper. Tarana’s
hello was serious and she hesitated for a bit before saying, “Brené, you know your work affected me so deeply, but as a Black woman, I’ve sometimes had to feel like I have to contort myself to fit into some of your words. The core of it rings so true for me, but the application has been harder.”

Brené replied, “I’m so glad we’re talking about this. It makes sense to me. Especially in terms of vulnerability. How do you take the armor off in a country where you’re not physically or emotionally safe?”

Long pause.

“That’s why I’m calling,” said Tarana. “What do you think about working together on a book about the Black experience with vulnerability and shame resilience?”

There was no hesitation.

Burke and Brown are the perfect pair to usher in this stark, potent collection of essays on Black shame and healing. Along with the anthology contributors, they create a space to recognize and process the trauma of white supremacy, a space to be vulnerable and affirm the fullness of Black love and Black life.
The%20Amazon%20Book%20Review
The Amazon Book Review
Book recommendations, author interviews, editors' picks, and more. Read it now

Frequently bought together

This item: You Are Your Best Thing: Vulnerability, Shame Resilience, and the Black Experience
$19.78
Get it as soon as Wednesday, Jan 15
Only 1 left in stock - order soon.
Sold by Halfpastmidnight and ships from Amazon Fulfillment.
+
$17.74
Get it as soon as Wednesday, Jan 15
In Stock
Ships from and sold by Amazon.com.
+
$15.40
Get it as soon as Wednesday, Jan 15
In Stock
Ships from and sold by Amazon.com.
Total price: $00
To see our price, add these items to your cart.
Details
Added to Cart
spCSRF_Treatment
Some of these items ship sooner than the others.
Choose items to buy together.

From the Publisher

An anthology on vulnerability, shame, resilience, and the Black experience;You Are Your Best Thing
Featuring powerful essays by a group of Black writers, organizers, academics, cultural figures
Edited by Tarana Burke & Brené Brown;You Are Your Best Thing;social science books;anthology

Editorial Reviews

About the Author

Tarana J. Burke has worked at the intersection of sexual violence and racial justice for more than twenty-five years. She has created and led various campaigns to interrupt sexual violence and other systemic inequalities disproportionately impacting marginalized people, particularly Black women and girls, including the ‘me too’ movement. Burke was part of the Silence Breakers, named Time magazine’s 2017 Person of the Year, and one of Time’s 100 Most Influential People in 2018. She has also received the 2019 Sydney Peace Prize, Harvard University’s Gleitsman Award, and the Ridenhour Courage Prize.
 
Brené Brown is a research professor at the University of Houston, where she holds the Huffington Foundation–Brené Brown Endowed Chair. She is also a visiting professor in management at the University of Texas at Austin McCombs School of Business. Brown has spent the past two decades studying courage, vulnerability, shame, and empathy and is the author of six #1 New York Times bestsellers. She hosts the Unlocking Us and Dare to Lead podcasts.

Excerpt. © Reprinted by permission. All rights reserved.

Introduction: A Conversation


Brené Brown: We could start the story of this book when you texted me to ask if we could talk, and I thought you wanted to continue our ongoing conversation about wallpaper and landscaping—but what came before that? When did the idea for this book come to you?

Tarana Burke: It was after we did SharetheMic on social media, in the summer of 2020. There had been this intense public unrest happening in the country after George Floyd and Breonna Taylor were murdered. In private, I was having these really heartfelt conversations with Black folks who were just struggling:
I can’t watch any more of this. I can’t take this anymore. I cannot . . . And in public, the conversation was, How can we get white people to be better? How can we get white people to be antiracist? Antiracism became the order of the day. But there was no focus on Black humanity. I kept thinking, Where’s the space for us to talk about what this does to us, how this affects our lives? And so I was thinking to myself that I really wanted to have a conversation with you.

At first, I struggled to text you. I kept asking myself,
Why am I hesitating to reach out to her? We have a close enough friendship to talk about anything. Your work is so important to me and my experience as a human being, but as a Black woman, I often felt like I had to contort myself to fit into the work and see myself in it. I wanted to talk to you about adding to it: “What is the Black experience with shame resilience?” Because white supremacy has added another layer to the kind of shame we have to deal with, and the kind of resilience we have to build, and the kind of vulnerability that we are constantly subjected to whether we choose it or not.

So, yeah, I called and said all of that—but I was not as eloquent [
laughter] at the time. I will never forget that phone call. I texted, Can we talk? and you texted back, Sure. Once we got on the phone and I shared the idea, the first thing you said was “Oh, hell yeah. Oh, absolutely! Yes, I want to talk about that. Yes, I want to do this.” At that point I was just thinking, Oh, and here I was worrying about offending you and wanting to have a real conversation. So, that was the beginning from my side. What was happening on your side?

Brené: From my side, well, admittedly, I’d probably do anything you ask me to do. But the timing was bigger than us. I had really been grappling over the last couple of years with trying to figure out how to be more inclusive—how to present the work in a way that invited more people to see themselves. The last thing I ever wanted to do was put work in the world around shame, vulnerability, and courage, then make people feel like they had to do something extra to find themselves in it. I thought I had controlled for that with my sample, because I’ve always been hypervigilant about diversity in the people I interview and in data sources. In fact, one of the early criticisms of my work was that the sample population actually overindexed around Black women and Latinx folks. But I started to get comments, especially from Black women and men: “I had to work at it more to see myself in it than I would have preferred or I would have liked to or than I even should have had to.” Finally, it was the combination of a conversation with you and a conversation with Austin Channing Brown on her TV show, where I thought,
The problem isn’t the research. The research resonates with a diverse group of people because it’s based on a diverse sample. But the way I present my research to the world does not always resonate because I often use myself and my stories as examples, and I have a very privileged white experience. That was the huge aha for me.

Tarana: Yeah, that makes sense.

Brené: One of the things that struck me was, in
The Gifts of Imperfection, there’s a scene where I’m in sweats and have dirty hair and I’m running up the Nordstrom escalator with my daughter to exchange some shoes that her grandmother bought her. Immediately, I’m overwhelmed because I look and feel like shit, and there’s all these perfect-looking people giving me the side-eye. Just as I start to go into some shame, a pop song starts playing and Ellen breaks out into the robot. I mean full-on, unfiltered, unaware—just sheer joy. As the perfect people start staring at her, I’m reduced to this moment where I have to decide, Am I going to betray her and roll my eyes and say, “Ellen, settle down,” or am I just going to let her do her thing—let her be joyful and unashamed? I end up choosing her and actually dancing with her. It’s a great story about choosing my daughter over acceptance by strangers, but I’ve shopped with enough Black friends to know that if I was not dressed up—even if I was dressed up—and I was in a department store and my Black daughter broke into a dance, there would be a whole other set of variables to consider. Including being hassled by security, possibly separated from my daughter, even arrested. So when you asked me if we could focus the work through the lens of the Black experience, it was a “hell yes” from me. I want to figure out how to better serve. In addition to telling my story, which I think is helpful, I want to co-create so people see themselves in this work. Co-creation is how we can tell stories from the Black experience that illustrate the data. Does that make sense?

Tarana: It does. This is our first time really digging into your grappling with this. Your questions make absolute sense, and it also makes sense why you wanted to do this together. You still said, “Are you sure you want me to do it with you? You have my permission to use my work and do it.”

Brené: I was scared. I’m still scared.

Tarana: I get it. I understand the fear, and I know we have to be prepared for the question about you being an editor of a book about Black experience. But there’s nobody I trust more, particularly on these topics, who has studied them more and who cares more. It’s not just the research piece— there are other people who study these topics. But you combine the research expertise with compassion. You are—this sounds really corny—an embodiment of your work, of the research, of the knowledge. I think it takes the eye of somebody who has done the level of research you have done and who cares about other people’s stories. I feel such a sense of responsibility and protectiveness about the stories we’ve asked people to share for this anthology. We have to be good stewards of this information. So I definitely get the fear and reluctance, but I believe good stewardship takes both of us. I know as we read these powerful essays, we both took turns feeling a little overwhelmed with the responsibility of protecting them.

Brené: I’ve been doing this work for twenty-five years now. I know the stories in this book can change—even save—people’s lives. It’s an honor to do this with you. I’ve been a shame and vulnerability researcher for a long time, but not any longer than you have been an expert in the work. You have been teaching and training this work for decades.

Product details

  • Publisher ‏ : ‎ Random House; First American Edition (April 27, 2021)
  • Language ‏ : ‎ English
  • Hardcover ‏ : ‎ 256 pages
  • ISBN-10 ‏ : ‎ 0593243625
  • ISBN-13 ‏ : ‎ 978-0593243626
  • Item Weight ‏ : ‎ 2.31 pounds
  • Dimensions ‏ : ‎ 5.7 x 0.86 x 8.52 inches
  • Customer Reviews:
    4.8 4.8 out of 5 stars 1,713 ratings

About the authors

Follow authors to get new release updates, plus improved recommendations.

Customer reviews

4.8 out of 5 stars
1,713 global ratings

Review this product

Share your thoughts with other customers

Customers say

Customers find the book insightful and relatable. They describe it as an awesome, powerful read that challenges them to honor vulnerability. Readers appreciate the candid narrative style that captures the Black experience vividly and beautifully.

AI-generated from the text of customer reviews

21 customers mention "Impact"21 positive0 negative

Customers find the book insightful and wise. They say the stories speak to their hearts and trauma. The essays are relatable and powerfully empathy-generating. Readers feel a sense of understanding and belonging after reading the narratives.

"This book has lightened the load and fed my soul. It captures the Black experience so vividly and beautifully. I see myself in this book...." Read more

"...This book is a collection of essays from writers, artists, educators, activists and others...." Read more

"...I found that the most profound aspect of these amazing essays was how well the authors were able to communicate their experiences into such..." Read more

"...of essays on vulnerability of and for Black women is touching, insightful and wise. I studied it in a book club of men and women, Black and White...." Read more

20 customers mention "Readability"20 positive0 negative

Customers find the book engaging and insightful. They describe it as a must-read, powerful summer reading, and an important complement to Brene Brown's work.

"...As I read each page I was excited to see what was next! Such a great read! This book is a read that’s necessary and fulfilling...." Read more

"...This is not a book to be rushed through. It is a book to breathe into, to weep with, to celebrate...." Read more

"Wonderful, and very well put together testimonies. Highly recommend it to your readers for educational value." Read more

"...on vulnerability of and for Black women is touching, insightful and wise. I studied it in a book club of men and women, Black and White...." Read more

11 customers mention "Resilience"11 positive0 negative

Customers find the book's resilience inspiring. They say it challenges them to honor vulnerability, bear witness, and just listen. The writings are written from a place of strength and courage, and they leave readers breathless with their stories of healing and resilience.

"...book provokes thought, a sense of understanding and belonging, and healing. Get the book!!!! Gift the book!" Read more

"...bared some of her soul and hardest lessons learned about shame and resilience...." Read more

"...into the powerful nuances of real people who have been damaged and strengthened; who have endured, overcome and excelled despite centuries of daily..." Read more

"...acknowledges your existence, your experiences - pain, sorrow, joy and resilience - and your humanity...." Read more

5 customers mention "Narrative style"5 positive0 negative

Customers appreciate the candid, relatable narratives in this book. They find the stories reflect a wide range of Blackness and capture the experience vividly. The narratives are written in first person to give the readers humanity.

"This book has lightened the load and fed my soul. It captures the Black experience so vividly and beautifully. I see myself in this book...." Read more

"...They speak in the first person, in Tarana Burke's words, to "give our humanity breathing room."..." Read more

"...was like an invitation into the pain, joy and experience of all my Black brothers and sisters...." Read more

"...Brene's work as intersected with race and the stories reflected wide array of Blackness." Read more

4 customers mention "Beauty"4 positive0 negative

Customers appreciate the book's truthful storytelling, relevance, and co-creation.

"...It captures the Black experience so vividly and beautifully. I see myself in this book. As I read each page I was excited to see what was next!..." Read more

"...us an intimate peak at the horror and glory that make up this beautiful diaspora...." Read more

"Generous truth-telling, beauty - compelling relevance. Don't miss this one. A very important read for all of us - now - and as we move forward...." Read more

"Beautiful co-creation." Read more

Excellent!!
5 out of 5 stars
Excellent!!
Oh my. This was not what I was expecting but so what I needed. The essays written in this book are written from places of vulnerability, strength, courage, and transparency. Wow. Highly recommend!
Thank you for your feedback
Sorry, there was an error
Sorry we couldn't load the review

Top reviews from the United States

  • Reviewed in the United States on November 12, 2023
    This book has lightened the load and fed my soul. It captures the Black experience so vividly and beautifully. I see myself in this book. As I read each page I was excited to see what was next! Such a great read! This book is a read that’s necessary and fulfilling. This book provokes thought, a sense of understanding and belonging, and healing. Get the book!!!! Gift the book!
    10 people found this helpful
    Report
  • Reviewed in the United States on May 22, 2021
    This book is written to give voice to the experiences of Black people. Too often, they may be only be seen at those who are impacted most directly by racism. That is a part of their identity, and they also live lives of blessing and strength and challenge.

    This book is a collection of essays from writers, artists, educators, activists and others. They speak in the first person, in Tarana Burke's words, to "give our humanity breathing room."

    You Are Your Best Thing: Vulnerability, Shame Resilience, and the Black Experience, edited by Tarana Burke and Brene Brown.

    From the introduction by the editors:

    Brene: I kept thinking about bell hook's concept of lovelessness and how she talks about lovelessness as the root of white supremacy and the patriarchy and all forms of oppression. And that the answer to lovelessness is love. I've read bell hooks for thirty years, but these essays and the process of co-creating with you taught me what love in the face of lovelessness really feels like. The marrow of it. When you say, "I don't trust any antiracism work that doesn't embrace and see our humanity," I can feel the call for love. I get it so fully right now. It's like you're telling us that if you don't see the heart and the love and the humanity and the joy of the Black experience -- of Black humanity -- then the anti-racism work is bankrupt.

    Tarana: Exactly. It's just like knowing something intellectually but not feeling it, and this is feeling work. It's heart work as much as it is head work. Those two things have to be in tandem. And I love that we have the ability to make this offering to Black folks who have felt stifled in this moment and overwhelmed and have not had space.

    This is not a book to be rushed through. It is a book to breathe into, to weep with, to celebrate. I invite you to savor it, even if, like me, a white woman, you feel a bit like a peeping tom.
    48 people found this helpful
    Report
  • Reviewed in the United States on June 6, 2022
    I was compelled to read “You Are The Best Thing: vulnerability, shame, resilience, and the Black experience”, because as a white person, and as a social justice and healthcare enthusiast I wanted to deepen my understanding of the Black experience in the United States, and also because I have a ton of respect for the work of both these editor/authors, Tarana Burke and Brene Brown, and I knew that this book had a lot of promise.

    I found that the most profound aspect of these amazing essays was how well the authors were able to communicate their experiences into such universal truths, in such a way that it would be really difficult not to relate to these intimate experiences and narratives - a powerful empathy generating body of work. Furthermore, the wisdom and strategies regarding how to manage being othered, exploited, targeted, on top of learning how to deal with the general stress of surviving in our current socio-economic culture was nothing more than paradigm-shifting. These are things I’m actively trying to cultivate in own my life too.

    We have so much to learn from each other - I believe that together we can get through these hard times, utilizing this type of learning and connection; we can be vulnerable, we can manage our shame, and we can support each other as we grow ourselves and evolve our society.

    So grateful for having had the opportunity to read this amazing anthology! Highly recommend!
    14 people found this helpful
    Report
  • Reviewed in the United States on October 27, 2024
    Wonderful, and very well put together testimonies. Highly recommend it to your readers for educational value.
  • Reviewed in the United States on January 16, 2023
    This collection of essays on vulnerability of and for Black women is touching, insightful and wise. I studied it in a book club of men and women, Black and White. Each author bared some of her soul and hardest lessons learned about shame and resilience. I came away feeling it is part of life to be shamed and feel vulnerable, especially in ways inbred in society. I also feel I have new tools to live through those emotions and handle life well. I highly recommend this book for book clubs. Ours read 2-3 essays per meeting and it generated great discussions.
    7 people found this helpful
    Report
  • Reviewed in the United States on May 11, 2021
    This book is an important compliment to Brene Browns work. Black vulnerability is different from white vulnerability and deserves to be a unique focus. The essays were good and it would be good to have a scholar!y discussion about the issue too.
    34 people found this helpful
    Report
  • Reviewed in the United States on July 1, 2024
    such a great book of essays
  • Reviewed in the United States on August 15, 2022
    Tarana and Brene offer up a cadre of black lives and who provide us an intimate peak at the horror and glory that make up this beautiful diaspora. As a white person I appreciate this glimpse into the powerful nuances of real people who have been damaged and strengthened; who have endured, overcome and excelled despite centuries of daily micro and macro oppression and abuse.
    5 people found this helpful
    Report

Top reviews from other countries

  • Donald
    5.0 out of 5 stars great read
    Reviewed in Canada on July 25, 2021
    great read.. should be in every household
  • Paul
    5.0 out of 5 stars What an amazing read!
    Reviewed in the United Kingdom on August 20, 2021
    I am an avid reader of the work of Brené Brown, yet I did not see the connection between how I was armouring myself to live and lead as a black man in a white world. You Are Your Best Thing gives voice to people like me who feel vulnerable and exposed every day and yet are accused of “playing the race card” when we dare to speak our real truth. Tarana and Brené and all the other contributors, thank you so much for the words to express my experience.
  • Josh
    3.0 out of 5 stars A little disappointed
    Reviewed in Canada on August 10, 2021
    Sadly, I felt really disappointed reading the essays. I felt they lacked healing and empathy. However, the Prentis Hemphill one I really enjoyed thoroughly. I also liked the Brene Brown interview—some healing things for me there about trauma.
  • Natural chick
    5.0 out of 5 stars Excellent Read!
    Reviewed in the United Kingdom on December 26, 2021
    The collection of stories are beautifully woven together. Each morning, over the festive season, I have read one story a day, which has been both an insightful and reflective way to start my day. A worthy read 📕 🖤🙏🏿
  • Karl-Maxwell
    5.0 out of 5 stars Worth the purchase
    Reviewed in the United Kingdom on May 18, 2021
    The book arrived in immaculate condition and I could have finished it with a few days.
    True to its description, it is an anthology of the experiences of Black Americans which as a Black Brit I couldn’t wholly relate to but there were definite parallels. Reading other people’s experiences of race is so eye opening.
    Customer image
    Karl-Maxwell
    5.0 out of 5 stars Worth the purchase
    Reviewed in the United Kingdom on May 18, 2021
    The book arrived in immaculate condition and I could have finished it with a few days.
    True to its description, it is an anthology of the experiences of Black Americans which as a Black Brit I couldn’t wholly relate to but there were definite parallels. Reading other people’s experiences of race is so eye opening.
    Images in this review
    Customer image
    Customer image