From the Author
By releasing a huge part of my personal and professional identity, I was able to get in touch with the things that made my heart sing (and cringe): my passions, my longings, my fears... my clutter! For the super-organized neatnik that I am, this last revelation came down like a sledge-hammer to my self-concept and world-view.
I needed to re-discover what I had long forgotten: that creating beautiful home spaces that feel good and nourish people has always been my greatest joy. Intrigued by the larger questions of how our living spaces reflect us, affect us, and support us, I discovered and pursued a more intuitive branch of feng shui (and little-known field at the time) called space clearing. That was over twenty years ago, and I've been evolving with it ever since.
Turns out I didn't need to go on a pilgrimage or meditate on a mountaintop to find myself. My home became my temple, my clutter was my teacher, and my journey of self-discovery began with clearing out a single drawer. Years in the making, Your Spacious Self has taken as long to write as it took to decode and embrace my own slippery relationship with my stuff and stress, and discover why most well-intentioned clearing practices do not last.
I wanted to write a book that cuts through the noise and charms that part of the mind that is spinning out of control somewhere in "overwhelm La-La land"; a book that creates the tiniest peephole of quiet, yummy spaciousness that not only expands with our awareness, but can be felt - at the deepest level; a book that delivers a palpable experience of ease in one minute flat. Your Spacious Self is that book.
- Clutter is defined more broadly as a result of imbalance, (mis)perception, stuck energy. This book identifies the myriad ways we humans hold on and create imbalance in our lives.
- Clutter is not the problem, it is holding on to it that creates a force-field of stuckness that clouds our perceptions and paralyzes our lives. It is not the clutter but how we relate to it that needs our attention and compassion.
- Clearing is not linear. Clearing in this book is not a finite task that you do when you have the time, energy, or willpower. It is an ongoing practice that promotes well being and letting go. It is a journey that balances "doing" with mindful "non-doing."
- Clearing side-effects are normal. Feeling overwhelmed (stuck, confused, congested...) when clearing out a closet, for example, is a normal and welcome byproduct of the journey. It is what happens naturally when you release stuck energy. Allowing these "weather patterns" to arise without fixing, changing, or personalizing them, is the key to lasting change.
- Talking about clearing IS clearing. Your Spacious Self is unique because it gives you the option and the tools to set up and maintain a guided six-week (or six month) support group. It shows you how to organize a "Clearing Circle" with your friends or book group. It includes discussion topics that are easy to modify to suit any group or size.