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Neither the subject nor the audience are well-defined
on November 29, 2013
For some reason, the author is obsessed with private clubs, and keeps mentioning them. Not all of us think that going sailing with the Kennedys is something to aspire to.
Most insulting is her assertion that there is something dreadfully wrong with being an introvert, and that introverts need to be fixed (page 47). I kid you not. And on page 75 she comes across as derisive when she refers to “goody two-shoes manners”. She also uses the term “sheep” to denote people who are unlike her. She gives a shallow introduction to the Myers-Briggs personality type indicators, and explains the major temperament types in subjective terms which show clearly which are “her” and which are the “non-her” that need to be overcome like failings. Based on her choice of words, and her opinions of people unlike her, I type her as an ESFJ, and not with admiration.
This book tries to be all things to all people, and falls flat with a splat. Much of it is actually NOT about the three-second first impression. The author tries to cover too many topics – many of them requiring long-term cultivation, and therefore deviating from her gimmicky title. And if she cares so much about communicating in proper English, why did she title the book “You’ve Only Got Three Seconds” instead of “You Only Have Three Seconds”?
She has also not clarified to herself who her target audience is. Blue collar workers who want to rise to white collar positions? Junior managers wanting to advance within a company? Executives who want to go sailing with the Kennedys? She tries to cover everything, and the ensuing mishmash is unfocused and not very useful.
On page 201 she asserts that information on a topic is given in chapter 6. So I went back and looked for the information. I found ONE sentence. Sorry, one sentence does not constitute “information covering a topic”.
Skip this book, and find one that caters to the topic you are interested in learning more about. This is a waste of your time, and a dense, slow read. I can only be thankful that I got it with Amazon rewards points, and therefore did not spend any money on it.